Mother -in-law CLOWNED!!!!

[brownsugar9999]

Ok..so the mom-n -law is out for a vivst...has mentioned several times "oh, so you're not pressing your hair, huh?" I explained to her the who CW/MTG...etc....This was Friday...
Today...I'm wearing my everyday cw/ protective style and she says "I'm DAMN tired of that bun thing you've got going on! What does "X" (my husband) say about it?"
I told her he really hasn't said much about it at all...but now I'm starting to wonder....is he tired of it? The poor man has put up w/ MTG!!!!!! Any one else having so/family complaints??
BTW: Here's the everyday style

 

[Trini"T"]

Ooo you're hair is pretty. The style is cute . However, for your husband's sake you may need to switch it up a bit My bf can't wait to see me with my hair down

 

[brownsugar9999]

Ooo you're hair is pretty. The style is cute . However, for your husband's sake you may need to switch it up a bit

girll...do you know how LONG it takes to go thru this mess????? I need a gallon of something to drink, all the windows open, and a tank top and shorts!!! Can't start sweating after I finish flatironing each section!!
Oops, adn I forgot to add that she told me "a REAL lady always has her hair presentable for her husband".....I guess I'M A TRANSVESTITE THEN!!!

 

[Cinnabuns]

I see nothing wrong with your hairstyle. I personally think it's beautiful. However I have not tried the MTG for the simple fact that I heard it smells horrible.

 

[Trini"T"]

Haaaaa Maybe he wants to see you put all that time into another style . He didn't actually say anything to you though but just like my bf he probably won't just bring it up out of nowhere. I had to ask him to get his opinion. Did you ask your husband?

 

[Gryphyn]

I think it's pretty!!!!

 

[blackbarbie]

I think it's really cute and see nothing wrong with it. I would for sure rock it. (I know when I used MTG, a bun is really the only style you CAN have b/c no matter how little you put on there, it's still oily.) Actually a change from a regular bun!

Why don't YOU ask hubby and see what he says. She can't be speaking for your man! (even though she is his M.I.L.)

 

[gradygirl]

I definately agree with BlackBarbie in that you should just ask your husband and not rely on anything your mother in law has to say about the subject because some mother-n-laws live to stir up trouble. I talked to my husband about my hair goals and I told him why I'm wearing it up at the moment and he supports me but I think it really helps that I talked to him about it so we're on the same page.

 

[Gryphyn]

girll...do you know how LONG it takes to go thru this mess????? I need a gallon of something to drink, all the windows open, and a tank top and shorts!!! Can't start sweating after I finish flatironing each section!!
Oops, adn I forgot to add that she told me "a REAL lady always has her hair presentable for her husband".....I guess I'M A TRANSVESTITE THEN!!!

 

[tastesosweet]

That bun is pretty...anyway, my husband is not a fan of any kind of extensions, but I told him I'm trying to grow my hair and he is all for it. His family has never had anything negative to say about my hair (at least not to my face--I've been natural since we were dating). My mother and grandmother can't stand it, but they are really from the old school when it comes to hair. Other than that no drama--I tend to set people straight if they make unwarranted comments about my hair.

 

[~*~ShopAholic~*~]

Your everyday style is too cute, I like it. But for the sake of the patient DH who has dealt w/the MTG and still is, I think he deserves a little change even if it's only once a wk or every other wk. I wouldn't ask him about it I would just switch it up making him think it was my own doing. The Mother in Law is probably just old school and don't mean no harm.

 

[hopeful]

Your hair is gorgeous, ignore your MIL, focus on your goals.

 

[Healthb4Length]

I think your hairstyle is very cute...but I may be biased since I wear my hair like that too...Do what works for you but you may have to switch it up every now and then to make the hubby happy.

 

[HairPhoenix]

Whooooa!!! You've got one of those Old School MILs. I just wanted to give you my condolesence for that. I read what she said to you and I'm ready to put foot in her I respect my elders, but that is some kind of rude even for her. And I have known men that will have a problem with you, but they don't want to say anything directly so they run to momma so that she can step up to the plate. So it is possible that your DH doesn't want to say anything to you directly about it. Did I mention that is just plain rude? Man!!! You are a good one for being so calm. I would have set her straight. Don't listen to me...

OMG... you got me going like Homey the Clown. (Leaves her $.02 and exits thread)

 

[LaNecia]

....Picks up $.02 as she crosses the threshold to the thread....

Upon reading down the response, she understands why the change was haphazardly strewn across the floor, someone was in a hurry....!

She picks up chase and leaves the $.02 right where she found them....

Whispers as she leaves"....dang that bun is sooo cute, who cares if she doesnt' like it!...."

 

[devin]

wow! well i guess you mil wasn't too shy about expressing her feelings on your bun! i think your hair looks beautiful! LOL! at a real lady always wears her hair presentable. I guess I am on the transvestite bandwagon with you, b/c I wear my hair in a bun too! Just ask your husband and see what he thinks.

 

[brownsugar9999]

Well ladies (and fellow trannys )...the Poop hit the FAN tonight..
Scene: Hubby walks in from work....wife in kitchen fixing meal...
"Hey Woobie...how was work?"
"Cool" (Enters Chupa Cabra....72 yr old 5'2" slarth...yes I said SLARTH...have no idea what a slarth is, but sloth wouldn't do, adn this came to mind...waddles in..."
MIL: X, don't you get DAMN tired of folks walking around here looking like they've been working on cars?"
Hubby: Huh? What do you mean?" (looks at wife puzzled)
MIL:" Look at her head...it's not like she has anything to do all day...the least she could do is be presentable when you get home!"
(Wife starts to laugh and shake head...standing there wearing all black jump suit...fashionable jump suit..not SWEATS...with low heel. Chupa Cabra is ALWAYS in some one else's business!!!)
Hubby: What's wrong with her head?
MIL: It's all pulled up and back like a man!! When your father was alive, I always had dinner on the table when he got home, and my hair and make up done, and my dress pressed...He NEVER caught me in day light looking like a man child!"
(Wife stifling laugh b/c MIL standing there with a wig on her head that looks like a wolf sitting on her head...ready to pounce)
Hubby: "If she likes it, it's alright with me..." (very lack luster response...doesn't even look in my general direction...doesn't sound convincing)
MIL:" Well when ya'll first met, her hair was ALWAYS pressed out and curled. Now that she's got you, hmph.... I guess I don't have to look at her everyday".
(Wife has had enough at this point, and leaves salmon cooking on stove top....goes upstairs...house is 3100 sq ft....maybe can get to the FARTHEST point away from her b4 someone has to call 911..

Hubby comes pstairs...not to check on me , but to get on the computer to see what time the Villanova game starts...

Wife:" Seriously...are you tired of this bun and wet hair and everything?"
Hubby:" Whatever..it's your head....you must know what you're doing....."
discussion ends up turning bad b/c starts talking about "all the $$$ spent on hair products...blah blah blah....."
So , I got a half azzed response..but I think I sort of get the picture....

What do I do???/ I have to do all this madness w/ the MTG..but he might be tired of me and my HAIR period. Is there a happy middle ground?


BTW: yes...she's evil...ya'll don't know HALF of the story........

 

[mohair]

OMG, I can't believe this happened. OK, dang, I have no words... OK, let me try again. When is MIL going home? I would definetly wait until she is gone b4 I have a serious discussion with hubby. Maybe you guys can come up with a doable monthly/weekly budget for hair products etc. My husband misses my hair out, So we decided (together) that I would wear my hair (I usually wear a quick weave) once a week. It is a sacrifice for me but a treat for him.

 

[brownsugar9999]

OMG, I can't believe this happened. OK, dang, I have no words... OK, let me try again. When is MIL going home? I would definetly wait until she is gone b4 I have a serious discussion with hubby. Maybe you guys can come up with a doable monthly/weekly budget for hair products etc. My husband misses my hair out, So we decided (together) that I would wear my hair (I usually wear a quick weave) once a week. It is a sacrifice for me but a treat for him.

We don't KNOW when she's leaving...she's cussed him , me out, heck...you out, my neighbors...and then wonders why NO ONE COMES TO VISIT...She'll probably stay anothre week She told him she didn't like how low he cut his hair...did we see aunt H's hair yesterday...she should have been ashamed.....blah blah blah...
We don't discuss budget b/c we don't pool $$..he pays certain bills//I pay certain...don't ask me what I do w/ my money...I don't ask YOU for any,right?/? But maybe I'll compromise on the hair styles...(he can't tell me what to do w/ my $$$$...them's fightin' wordz!!!!). But he has this notion that I spend $500/ month..on clothes...hair...etc......WRONG!!! Girl..when I find a bargain...i'm there!!!! I only pay full price if I have to..and even then it's the lowest full price i can find!

 

[mohair]

lol, my prayers are with you. She sounds like the MIL from H***..

 

[brownsugar9999]

lol, my prayers are with you. She sounds like the MIL from H***..

From H*** would be a step up!!

 

[PretteePlease]

OH NO i'm over here cracking up Chupa cabra LOL i thought i was the only black person that called people that hee hee

ok but back to the bun its cute, certianly neat and presentable nothing manly about it
-what does MIL head look like?
-how long will she be at your house?
-based on you kitchen/baby hairs you are not a type 4 anything but i dont want to start the typing controversy over again
-being that your hair is bleached i think giving the flatironing a rest is a great idea andn if you like it and hubby wont speak up about his real opinion keep up what works for you till he complains (will he complain?)

 

[brownsugar9999]

OH NO i'm over here cracking up Chupa cabra LOL i thought i was the only black person that called people that hee hee

ok but back to the bun its cute, certianly neat and presentable nothing manly about it
-what does MIL head look like?
-how long will she be at your house?
-based on you kitchen/baby hairs you are not a type 4 anything but i dont want to start the typing controversy over again
-being that your hair is bleached i think giving the flatironing a rest is a great idea andn if you like it and hubby wont speak up about his real opinion keep up what works for you till he complains (will he complain?)

Girl...her head is ALL SCALP w/ a few whiskers...that's what that cat looking wig is for...
Don't get me wrong, her sister wears on and SHE IS SLAMMIN at 75!!!!!
But hers looks like she pulled it out of the underwear side of her suitcase...there's probably about 1 inch b/t the edge of the wig and her EYEBROWS!!!
She goes and comes w/ no agenda..could be here 1 week, could be 1 month.....
and I WISH he would complain...at least I'd KNOW what he really thinks....
I mean, those days that I flat iron, I get a great compliment...other days..chopped liver!!!
I'll admit..I don't necessarily care for the bun, but I'm lazy, MTG stinks, and I'm on a mission...
I just measured, and I am at 2 3/8 inch sinch Nov w/ 8 weeks of iffy MTG usage.......I'm on a roll!!

 

[HairPhoenix]

Dang!! Everytime you want out, they pull you back in.

Are you familiar with the movie "Throw Mama from the Train"? Because I will come over and do it for you! There is nothing worse than having a mouthy MIL who criticizes every little thing and a husband who won't speak up!!

Do you see the agony you are causing me? I am not even there and I want to strangle BOTH of them. Because your hair is beautiful! Does she expect you to vacuum the house with your pearls on too?? Sheesh!!

I'm sorry. I know I'm not helping... I'm leaving...

 

[brownsugar9999]

Dang!! Everytime you want out, they pull you back in.

Are you familiar with the movie "Throw Mama from the Train"? Because I will come over and do it for you! There is nothing worse than having a mouthy MIL who criticizes every little thing and a husband who won't speak up!!

Do you see the agony you are causing me? I am not even there and I want to strangle BOTH of them. Because your hair is beautiful! Does she expect you to vacuum the house with your pearls on too?? Sheesh!!

I'm sorry. I know I'm not helping... I'm leaving...

Girl....I've got the train TICKET...
Oh..he speaks up, alright, but he picks his battles...with her....EVERYTHING is a battle..she used to live with us...THEY couldn't get along..not her and I.....get the picture?
Hey...how did you know about the pearls???

 

[HairPhoenix]

Girl....I've got the train TICKET...
Oh..he speaks up, alright, but he picks his battles...with her....EVERYTHING is a battle..she used to live with us...THEY couldn't get along..not her and I.....get the picture?
Hey...how did you know about the pearls???

Just a hunch... from all the other stuff she said. Girl, I am sooooo sorry.

 

[amy1234]

you are too funny!! I think your hair looks fine, it's okay to switch it up every now and then but the style does look presentable.

 

[brownsugar9999]

Just a hunch... from all the other stuff she said. Girl, I am sooooo sorry.

:alcoholic :fat: group hug *sigh*
]maybe if I star drinking now, by the time I sober up,,,,,she'll be gone

 

[brownsugar9999]

you are too funny!! I think your hair looks fine, it's okay to switch it up every now and then but the style does look presentable.

Thanx doll..but according to the Black June Clever..I'm a MAN BABY!!!!

 

[sky_blu]

I wish I could get a bun like that. Nice bun but I see nothing wrong with it