lilsparkle825
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This thread is inspired by a comment I read on here a few days ago, where a member said something to the tune of "my mom wouldn't let me get a relaxer until I learned how to rollerset my own hair". It got me to thinking...gee, if my mom had enforced a rule like that, my hair would either be relaxed and healthy right now or I would never have relaxed my hair.
So let's share...I know a lot of us out there got into relaxers because we asked for it, and this is where we spiraled downward. Not saying relaxers are bad, but I have heard so many people say "I would transition, but a relaxer is all I've ever known" or "I begged my mom for a relaxer, and I went from BSL to SL" or something similar. How were things in your house? Did you ask and have your mom give in? Did she straight refuse and call you crazy? Or did you never get a chance to ask because you got one at a really early age? I just think it's interesting to hear various people's stories and see how they have influenced whether they are relaxed or natural now.
I'll start...I wore ponytails up until middle school, and I decided I wanted a relaxer when I saw these girls with straight hair, not to mention my older cousin had gotten one and I wanted to be like her. I asked my mom and she vehemently said no, and my aunt chimed in: "Why not? It would make her hair so much easier to do." Then my cousins got in on it....then she took me to her regular stylist and she recommended that I start out with something gentle, like Just For Me . My mom reluctantly gave in, and that was that. The day I told her I was transitioning was the happiest day of her life, I think. I don't have kids, but my daughters are not getting relaxers ever. If they get to high school and decide they want one, we will battle that out then with some really lofty goals so they don't ruin MY progress!
Who's next?
So let's share...I know a lot of us out there got into relaxers because we asked for it, and this is where we spiraled downward. Not saying relaxers are bad, but I have heard so many people say "I would transition, but a relaxer is all I've ever known" or "I begged my mom for a relaxer, and I went from BSL to SL" or something similar. How were things in your house? Did you ask and have your mom give in? Did she straight refuse and call you crazy? Or did you never get a chance to ask because you got one at a really early age? I just think it's interesting to hear various people's stories and see how they have influenced whether they are relaxed or natural now.
I'll start...I wore ponytails up until middle school, and I decided I wanted a relaxer when I saw these girls with straight hair, not to mention my older cousin had gotten one and I wanted to be like her. I asked my mom and she vehemently said no, and my aunt chimed in: "Why not? It would make her hair so much easier to do." Then my cousins got in on it....then she took me to her regular stylist and she recommended that I start out with something gentle, like Just For Me . My mom reluctantly gave in, and that was that. The day I told her I was transitioning was the happiest day of her life, I think. I don't have kids, but my daughters are not getting relaxers ever. If they get to high school and decide they want one, we will battle that out then with some really lofty goals so they don't ruin MY progress!
Who's next?