Men and Sex

[Syrah]

We spend so much time worrying about our "numbers" - what makes a ho, what makes a prude, what makes a "freak in the sheets and a lady in the streets". We're constantly presented with conflicting images, stories and pieces of advice regarding our sexuality.

What about them?! At what point does a number cross the border of being "active" to being a "manho"? Is it about the number or moreso the behavior?

Can a guy who's slept with 50+ girls and claim it's "in his past" and that he's "ready for something meaningful" or "is ready to settle down" really change old habits?

What about 100+?
...or 200+?

We'd love to believe we can change a man. But I'm wonder - can they really change their sexual behavior?!

 

[MissMasala5]

Yes, they can. But only if they have the maturity emotionally and mentally to do so. And sometimes, it takes the right kind of woman to help nurture this type of self-reflection, and in most cases, she won't even know she's doing it.

 

[Syrah]

Yes, they can. But only if they have the maturity emotionally and mentally to do so. And sometimes, it takes the right kind of woman to help nurture this type of self-reflection, and in most cases, she won't even know she's doing it.

I hear what you're saying...and I agree to a point.

But I also think a bit of that is more of women thinking that the "right woman" can influence major mind blowing changes in a man. I think the right woman can SUPPORT these changes, and accelerate the process - but I'm of the belief, that ultimately, it's got to start with AND end with the man.

 

[Lylddlebit]

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[dlewis]

I couldn't be with a man that has been with alot of women. FOR ME more than a handful of women is to many women. Really less than that. Just like I have been picky with who I have been with and expect the same from a man.

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

I couldn't be with a man that has been with alot of women. FOR ME more than a handful of women is to many women. Really less than that. Just like I have been picky with who I have been with and expect the same from a man.

Agreed. While everyone has their own numbers and your history is your business, the less discriminatory you are with sex, even in a casual situation, the less particular I believe you'll feel about the act and the intimacy wherein. I won't beg for numbers, but if I just cannot feel that you were somewhat selective, it's not popping.

 

[Crackers Phinn]

There isn't a magic cut off number but I'd hear warning bells the farther away from over 20 (including college) the number got. I'm 35 and that number applies for men my age.

I don't expect a dude to be a monk, but running through any and every chick that'll throw him a piece is a character flaw in my eyes. Not to mention a higher number is telling me that there is a high probability that there was some cheating going on.

...........and it's nasty, yes I am judgemental.

 

[Highly Favored8]

No, cannot and will not be with a man who has slept with that many amount of women. That is just plain nasty and then what I will be the next number to him on his list, HECK NAW!