I'm curious...are you the type of woman who believes in making the first move?
No.
Or...do you believe in waiting for the man to approach you first?
Yes.
Ladies who are in relationships (married/engaged/LTR) how did you and your honey get together? Did you make the first move or did he?
N/A I'm still single at the moment, but if I WERE married, engaged or in a serious relationship, I would prefer that the man pursued me or initiated things.
To clarify....
While I am a self-proclaimed "Rules Girl", the main reason why I don't usually initiate, make the first move, or pursue men is not really due to a set of rules or guidelines that I adhere to, but MAINLY simply because:
1) I have found that it just doesn't WORK (for me)
I'm not going to even deny that making the first move or chasing after a man works...for SOME women. Some women can be VERY obvious with their interest in men, even going so far as to make all kinds of first moves and still end up snagging the guy.
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But I must not be those types of women
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,because anytime I personally chased after a guy, asked for his number first, approached HIM first, or made my interest in him TOO obvious before he showed obvious signs to me first, it ALWAYS ALWAYS ended up either making me anxious about the relationship (is he REALLY interested??), having a guy who is super hot/cold and wishy washy, or just plain backfiring in my face.
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I even have a recent experience where friends were trying to hook me up with this dude/friend we all mutually know, and I was being super friendly, and yet again..... Backfired.
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Now the guy acts awkward around me anytime he sees me.
So, experience over the years has just shown ME that I must not be that type of woman who can go chase after a guy or make the first move and have it go well for me.
I much prefer to sit back, be friendly, be warm, and inviting, but let the MAN make all of the first initial moves from jump.
I feel
MUCH more feminine, secure, happy, and attractive when I'm in the receiving role, as opposed to in the "let's make something happen" role.
2) I have ample evidence of men who were outgoing (AND shy) being able to do something to show me that they were interested.
Over the years my own personal experience, and even the experience of others has shown me that when/if a man REALLY likes a woman, he WILL do
something to show that interest.
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It may take a while for the interest in her to be known...but she WILL eventually know something down the line.
Even the shyest most socially-awkward guys have been "man enough" to let their interest in me be known by at least getting my phone number. One guy was so shy and socially inept, he had to get his friend to ask ME for my number in a sly way lol...
So yea....overall, I prefer to let the man make the first move.
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If making the first move worked for me, then maybe I would do it more often, but even then, I really do prefer the man to show me he is interested before I reciprocate anything obvious.
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