Long Distance Relationships...

hmm..... okay.

long distance relationships can be a real pain. i know because i was in one for a year and a half. i would never do it again. if you think you're going to have a hard time controlling your feelings for him while you're away, i dunno if i'd get involved. at least not heavily... that's just my personal opinion....

how long before you move?

he doesn't have a girl but he has a "friend"? who is this friend? how friendly are they? what's that about?
 
IMHO, he doesn't seem all that in to you. You two chilled and had a nice time. I think he was waiting to see if you were going to give it up. So when you didn't he was cool but he is just going to lay back and make you do all the work.

There is no relationship to keep going until you return to his location. As far as I see it, you are just a chill buddy. If he wanted to get with you, he would have been trying to impress you and chillin on the couch is not impressive to me. But it may be to you, IDK.
 
It's not a relationship. Seems like you are on friend level just like the other chick and just because he didn't try to get any YET doesn't mean it isn't an intention. I'm not impressed with this situation. If he wants to try an LDR...he should be making some type of move and letting you know without a doubt.
 
long distance relationships are NOT ideal. Trust me, I know, I'm in one.

reading your post, i see little to suggest that this will develop into a long distance friendship, nevermind a long distance relationship.

When he starts running you down and begging to see you at least everyother day, then you MAY have something to work with. Right now you don't have much to go on.

my advice, don't contact him - he'll do the chasing of he's truely interested
 
tash85 said:
long distance relationships are NOT ideal. Trust me, I know, I'm in one.

reading your post, i see little to suggest that this will develop into a long distance friendship, nevermind a long distance relationship.

When he starts running you down and begging to see you at least everyother day, then you MAY have something to work with. Right now you don't have much to go on.

my advice, don't contact him - he'll do the chasing of he's truely interested
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well there ya have it. That's what I wanted to know. Your right. Ugh, he was so nice to.
 
yeah i'm seeing what others are seeing. Don't even bother with the long distance thing if BOTH of u aren't on the same page. LD relationships are work and commitment. I'm currently in one (ny & VA)...and we're doing just fine but ONLY BECAUSE...we want to make it work, and we are both on ths "I'm ready to put in work for a relationship"

judging by your post.....it seems a lil early to start thinking about all of that stuff. I think u need to wait and see how mentally u two are on the same page about things....and THEN go to that next level. It seems this is just 2 people who met, like each other, and get up WHEN you're in the same state....
 
No. Unless two people are diligent about frequent meetings it will not work. You cannot build a serious relationship based on fantasy..'day to day' interaction is best.
 
OP, all of this energy you are putting into him...he is not putting into you. As others have stated, you are not in a relationship with him. His "friend" is the person he is sleeping with, spending time with but is not claiming. Please don't become a similar "friend."

If he wanted something with you, I personally think he would have made it his business to give you his number instead of telling you to get it from his boy:nono:

This situation has bad signs written all over it and I hope you walk away before getting further invested
 
OP, I understand what you are saying about not having experience BUT know your worth. This man is not feeling you like you are feeling him...his actions say this clearly. I hope you move on...focus on self in the interim until you meet a man who can treat you how you deserve to be treated.
 
u haven't spoken to him on the phone yet?

OP...if u wanna stay flirty friends with this guy that's ok. But if u feel ur gonna start having feelings for this guy (who may not put that much time into u) I will say just quit it while you're ahead. You seem young and its okay to be flirty, friendly, with someone if you're not looking for something serious. But as i've said...its too early to tell, especially when you haven't talked on the phone yet (that would be step1....so lets get there first)
 
From what you've shared, I don't think there's potential for a local relationship, let alone a long distance one. A man who's interested would get your phone number directly and call on a regular basis. Stop pursuing this man and save your energy for someone more deserving.
 
Maybe that is something that you need to look deep inside yourself. The only people that disrespect you are those that you let disrespect you. Sounds like you are looking on the outside. You can do better and better does come you just have to make up your mind that you can do better. Its tough out there for everyone. Have you considered counseling to deal with these issues.



Geminigirl said:
I hear say you can do better but I am sure someone can relate to those of us who try to do better and better never comes. Those of us who try to respect ourselves yet still get disrespected. It's tough world out there.
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Why are you wanting to get with a man who has a "friend?" Aaaand it's long distance? Put a fork in it.
 
5 long years in a LDR. About 3 years too long. It is a drain and a drag. Both individuals have to be vested. I ended up doing 80% of the driving, and 90% of the romantic gestures. My prince reverted right back to a frog, and I had to let his slimy arse go. It is NOT the ideal. Absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder...at all. Never again. You have to be within state lines or the metro area for us to date. Period. End of story.
 
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