Hi ladies! Thanks for checking in.
Yes, I did hear from him. I was fuming so I made the initiative to contact him. We spoke Monday night and he pretty much said he has to "reconsider things" when it comes to the matter of the heart. Of course in the same sentence he tells me he loves me and wants me
but needs time to "fix himself".
So here's the run down on why he said this:
When we were together, he had confided in one of his acquaintances (we'll call him Bob) who knew more about our relationship than should have been revealed. Bob is also from Trinidad but lives in DC. Bob was always interested in me and the SO was eventually made aware of this. Anyway, when the SO and I were no longer on speaking terms or in a relationship, I met up with Bob for drinks and dinner. Bob and I also shared a kiss that night and no more. Bob confided his feelings and interest in me and said that what "remains in NYC stays in NYC". Fortunately, we never met after that one time because I realized I was never really over my feelings for SO.
That same week I told the SO what had happened. That was back in October 2008. He was disappointed, hurt, etc etc. seeing that I "got involved" with someone who challenged his ego. We thrashed it out and it supposedly was a done deal. Supposedly.
Anyway, fast-forward to last week and Bob spoke to the SO (on his birthday of all days) about what had happened, saying that I cannot be trusted, and also concocted a lie that I slept with him.
Even though the SO already knew about it, Bob had him fuming that he had the nerve to tell him about what he should do when it concerns me. This resulted in the weekend trip.
He emailed me today saying how he "let his guard down" when it came to me and how he loves me and wants me
but "is not sure if he can give himself the way he did before".
So after not even a month of planning our future, he suddenly needs his space, and time to fix himself because good ol' Bob regurgitated what I thought was in the past.
At the end of the day its an ego thing, but yet he expects me to wait around hoping that he'll be fixed and we can then start where we left off? And if I move on my feelings aren't genuine? PLUHEASE!
I deleted all his contacts and best believe he will be calling. He's an Aquarius which means he's a walking contradiction and of course in the next conversation he'll say all these lovey dovey things to 'keep hope alive'. I'm not buying that ish again.
I've also ended all ties with Bob and I'm sure he'll be calling too to see how things are between Mr. Need-a-Break and I. You know, for checking in purposes.
At the end of the day, Bob accomplished what he wanted to accomplish and the SO is in limbo. One minute he's hot, the next cold.
Oh yeah, and he said he invited the woman in question because he wanted everyone to come to his 28th birthday party to help him "forget about what happened." Of course it was demanded I cut ties with Bob (for good reason) but yet he can accept gifts and not cut ties with her?
I swear I'm done with men. SWEAR IT.