Hey girl!
You sound like you are doing the right thing by going slow and smooth. That is what I am doing now.
But to answer your question, I never experienced any out of the ordinary shedding. I wash and detangle only once a week, and it DID look like a lot don't get me wrong, but it is normal for me because 1. my hair was pretty long and 2 it was just built up sheddage from throughout the week. So I didn't worry about it. I take care of myself pretty well internally so, I knew if is was shedding not breakage, it was seasonal (which I do have problems with shedding from changes of the seasons).
Now I can't blame everything on ruff detangling because I think the baggie and bun I was doing created a small portion of the problem along with my weakened nape. BUT I do think ruff detangling was the meat of the problem. Anyways, when I would detangle, I would get frustrated and LITERALLY just start pulling the comb through my hair. I would hear the tears and everything. But I would just be so mad at my hair and all the different textures and it was my way of socking it to it lol. There were times ( I can't believe I am about to admit this) that I would try and run the comb throo my head and a knot would stop it and I would stop and literally
cry![Frown :( :(](/smilies/frown.gif)
, sitting right there. Imagine that, a 23 year old woman on the floor crying with a wet head and a comb stuck in it.
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Then I would become angry and that's when hell would break loose.
I was frustrated because I use to flat iron my hair every week and I NEVER had to deal with tangles and knots before and they are very very frustrating for me. Not to mention I do not handle frustration and stress well AT ALL.
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So like I am saying, you sound like you are doing the right thing by going slow and smooth. Just take your time and be patient. Another thing I noticed is that when I wait late at night to do my hair I am usually more tired and have less patience. So now I do my hair earlier in the day or I take a good nap before I do it.
But my steps are pretty much the same as far as detangling except I do my main detangling while rinsing out my shampoo (creme of nature red OR green label).
- I use the jilbere comb to rinse it out, run it throo a few times and then switch to my Goody comb (pic in fotki).
- Then once I DC I rinse the conditioner out and comb again with my Jilbere.
- Then once I am out of the shower, I add my leave-ins and I comb AGAIN with the jilbere, then finger part my hair in very little sections (about .5 inches thing,a nd 3 inches wide) and detangle little by little to make sure I got all the small knots out.
I know it seems like a lot of combing but 1. I am VERY gentle now, and 2. I only comb once a week and I want to make sure all tangles are out because I have had dreads and matts before and those are NOT fun.
Okay so I just wrote you a whole biography but I hope it helps you. Anymore questions PLEASE feel free to ask me. I am more than happy to help others learn from my mistakes. I am pissed at myself for wasting a whole year of my social life for dumb ass mistakes like this...
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Oh yeah, back to the topic.
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You will do fine girl as long as you are patient with your hair.
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