to your entire post. 
You have me laughing at the word 'tiddie'. :blush3: I thought the d's were supposed to be t's.
Anyhoo........
Blessings to you. :Rose:
Lingerie football
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to your entire post. You have me laughing at the word 'tiddie'. :blush3: I thought the d's were supposed to be t's.
Anyhoo........
Blessings to you. :Rose:
gabulldawg
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I recently discovered that the LFL even exists! Watching it on TV is one thing, but I think it's a bit much that he went out of his way to see them play. ESPECIALLY when he is broke. I couldn't do it. 
MissYocairis
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Yeah, I don't like it. Oddly enough, I would feel differently if he had gone with a group of friends. But he traveled several hundred miles alone to see naked women playing football. I find that odd. Further, I think there may be something to her suspicions about his real reasons for going on the trip (a'la the ex-girlfriend). He went ALONE. Something in the milk ain't clean. She should pay attention to her intuition.
As for his money situation...I'm not sure about that part. Perhaps he bought the ticket a few months ago before his financial situation got hot. But, I cannot get past the going alone part. Seems like it's really important to him that he see these women up close and live. Which is weird to me. I wonder if he has some sort of porn problem?
As for his money situation...I'm not sure about that part. Perhaps he bought the ticket a few months ago before his financial situation got hot. But, I cannot get past the going alone part. Seems like it's really important to him that he see these women up close and live. Which is weird to me. I wonder if he has some sort of porn problem?
MissYocairis
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I mean...thinking some more....if my man wants to take a trip for pleasure, he wants ME with him. If he wants to go to a game, he wants ME with him. ESPECIALLY because he's going alone. I find this situation uncomfortable. I'm sorry your friend is going through this.
LadyPaniolo
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perplexed
erplexed I don't understand the animosity in your post. Obviously I don't know him. I'm just making an educated guess based on the info provided. Yes, he's a grown man. Old enough to know that he can pay to see naked ladies without taking a flight out of state. Which leads me to believe that the reason he was taking a flight to the city next to his ex's town is that he planned to see her. Really, it seems obvious to me, especially if she (his girl) was concerned that he was traveling for the purpose of seeing the ex.
As for marriage, I guess that's my bias. Even at 24 I wasn't trying to just mess with dudes for the purpose of messing with them; I wanted to get married. So I assumed that the situation under discussion had the same baseline... the purpose of dating is to hopefully lead to marriage. I know some women just date men with no hopes or plans to vet them for marriage, that could be the case here.
Either way, she felt suspicious of him. She doesn't trust him. So that alone says this situation is no good,
NOEChic
I may not always be right, but I'm never wrong.
baby there aint no animosity in my post, i don't know you or anybody this story is referring to. I am just stating what I feel. I look at some of your post and it seems to me that everytime someone comes in here and states that their man is not doing something or doing something, you come in saying oh he cheating, oh he no good, you need to leave him. Instead of having people reflect on what could be going on with their relationship.
Yes, he's a grown man. Old enough to know that he can pay to see naked ladies without taking a flight out of state. Which leads me to believe that the reason he was taking a flight to the city next to his ex's town is that he planned to see her. Really, it seems obvious to me, especially if she (his girl) was concerned that he was traveling for the purpose of seeing the ex.
As for marriage, I guess that's my bias. Even at 24 I wasn't trying to just mess with dudes for the purpose of messing with them; I wanted to get married. So I assumed that the situation under discussion had the same baseline... the purpose of dating is to hopefully lead to marriage. I know some women just date men with no hopes or plans to vet them for marriage, that could be the case here.
Either way, she felt suspicious of him. She doesn't trust him. So that alone says this situation is no good,
As far as the marriage thing goes, not everybody wants to get married. When my parents got divorced, my momma stated she never wanted to get married again. She dated her ex for 10 years+ and she let him and her kids know she was not looking to get married. They spent time together, went on trips to together, hell he helped her re-build her house but she was not looking to remarry.
A lot of you come in post and :mob: about what you won't accept, how your man is and how your relationship is. Not every relationship is the same and it is shocking that some of y'all are in relationships, and lasted as long as they have. But then again this is the internet y'all could be lying.
MissYocairis
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oy...
pookaloo83
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TamedTresses
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Pook, you are so silly.
NOEChic
I may not always be right, but I'm never wrong.
If anybody is dating a reckless spender then that is on them. they are dating, not married. Now if they were married to a reckless spender then they would need to work on a budget and a spend plan and work it out.
And what exactly did he do to her? Go to a game that he is interested in and enjoy himself? Or is it that he didn't invite her along. Dang she don't have to be up under him every step of the way, let the man have some time to himself, and as he is having him time, then she can have some time to herself, go get a wax or something. Maybe he didn't invite her because he knows that she is not interested in sports?
How do you know he is a player? Answer that question.
likewtr4chklit
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I guess I'm the only one that doesn't see this as a big deal.It's an organized sporting event. It's like going to Hooters for dinner but with an actual sports element.
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If that's all he did, nope it really shouldn't be a deal breaker. If he had the money to do so, why not??
This was his only mistake. He should've been upfront with her. Now he has left the door open for her to do nothing but speculate.
I think a lot of women believe that once they get their claws in a man she is the only woman he should ever look at ever again. Why would this man NOT be interested in seeing young, fit, and possibly attractive women? I wouldn't find it odd if dh went to see one of these games, especially if he needed a vacation.
Well damn.....but ITA 100%
likewtr4chklit
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This reminds me of a time back in my naiive days when I would come to my co-worker for relationship advice. No matter what I told her, the answer was "GIRL HE CHEATIN!! HE AINT NO DAMN GOOD!! LEAVE HIS ***". He left his socks on the floor "girl he don't respect you! LEAVE HIS ***" 
He says he likes my long hair better "Ooooh, he gon leave you for a white girl!! LEAVE HIS *** FIRST" Just extra, bored I guess.
He says he likes my long hair better "Ooooh, he gon leave you for a white girl!! LEAVE HIS *** FIRST" Just extra, bored I guess.
NOEChic
I may not always be right, but I'm never wrong.
Girl, that is how some of the women on this board are. Then they gotta add oil to the fire, like girl my man would never leave his socks on the floor, he RESPECTS me. all the while, he leaving his sock, dirty drawls and clothes all over the floor, dirtying up the bathroom and kitchen and be kicked up in the recliner watching tv, like wheres my beer *****!This reminds me of a time back in my naiive days when I would come to my co-worker for relationship advice. No matter what I told her, the answer was "GIRL HE CHEATIN!! HE AINT NO DAMN GOOD!! LEAVE HIS ***". He left his socks on the floor "girl he don't respect you! LEAVE HIS ***"
steffiejoe
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Thank you ladies for everyones views.Update:Well my friend decided to ask him why he failed to mentioned the fact that he went to a lingerie football game . She said he was surprised by her question but never asked her how she figured it out. He minimized it and acted like it was no big deal. Well he has 3 daughters and she asked him how he would feel about them playing that type of sport.
erplexed. She said she told him she wonders if he has some type of addiction to porn. After their talk he started acting distant . They both decided to give each other some space. Right before Thanksgivings he told her that he has moved on. Although she said she thinks this is for the best she was hurt . He has totally cut her off. She sent me a text massage saying she guess her ex was right , when he told her she does not know how to keep a man. I feel bad for her but think she needs to work on herself confidence before starting any type of relationship.
NOEChic
I may not always be right, but I'm never wrong.
Update:Well my friend decided to ask him why he failed to mentioned the fact that he went to a lingerie football game . She said he was surprised by her question but never asked her how she figured it out. He minimized it and acted like it was no big deal. Well he has 3 daughters and she asked him how he would feel about them playing that type of sport.
After their talk he started acting distant . They both decided to give each other some space. Right before Thanksgivings he told her that he has moved on. Although she said she thinks this is for the best she was hurt . He has totally cut her off. She sent me a text massage saying she guess her ex was right , when he told her she does not know how to keep a man. I feel bad for her but think she needs to work on herself confidence before starting any type of relationship.
1st bold: to him it's not a big deal
2nd bold: why she had to bring his daughters into it
3rd bold: addiction to porn off of a lingerie football game, she is reaching
4th bold: he was probably distant because she reaching saying he is addicted to porn and bringing up his daughters (which she does not have a right to do)
5th bold: probably bc he don't feel like being questioned by a chick he just started dating
And for those that come in here saying good riddance, it is right he is good for leaving her insecure behind. It's not like he snuck out of town telling her that he was sick that is why she aint heard for him. He is old enough to make decisions about his plans without having a chick he just started dating questioning him.
I personally think she blew it all out of proportion, probably listening to people telling her what they would do and they aint even got a man.
ambergirl
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Update:Well my friend decided to ask him why he failed to mentioned the fact that he went to a lingerie football game . She said he was surprised by her question but never asked her how she figured it out. He minimized it and acted like it was no big deal. Well he has 3 daughters and she asked him how he would feel about them playing that type of sport.
After their talk he started acting distant . They both decided to give each other some space. Right before Thanksgivings he told her that he has moved on. Although she said she thinks this is for the best she was hurt . He has totally cut her off. She sent me a text massage saying she guess her ex was right , when he told her she does not know how to keep a man. I feel bad for her but think she needs to work on herself confidence before starting any type of relationship.
If I were him I would have dropped her like a hot potato too.
She confronted him with information he did not provide so obviously she had been snooping, accused him of having a porn addiction, and brought his children into it? This early in the relationship he'd be a fool if he stayed.
Personally, I wouldn't be excited about my man going off to watch lingerie football. Not because I think it's morally questionable but because it seems a bit juvenile for a 49 year old man. But whatever, he could be a perfectly okay guy. It would really depend on his other behavior.
She should have just keep her eyes open and not gotten in too deep with this guy until she had more information about him and how he runs his life and then make a decision about whether things would work out between them.
Your friend seems to be self sabotaging, probably out of fear of being hurt.
hopeful
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I see it like this. She went too far: with the snooping in the beginning, with the porn question, bringing his daughters into it, etc. But I also believe he simply is not the guy for her. She wants a more mature man, a more honest man, a more religious man, and a more responsible man IMO. So, while she made some mistakes I don't think things would have worked out for them anyway in the long run. Also, her ex is a jack*** for saying: she does not know how to keep a man. Just mean and out of pocket.
chicitygirl
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Um, I could have told her he was gonna dump her. She went way off in the deep end with this. How the heck did she bring a porn addiction into this?!? If I were him, I'd have dumped her too. She sounds like a headcase. Sounds like they'd been casually dating for a few months and she managed to go hard at him about how he spends his money, accused him of having a porn addiction, snooped on him and asked him irrelevant questions about his kids all in one conversation. Yeah, that's a bit much for someone that's not even your woman. Next!
Lovelylife
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But he lied to her? If would have told the truth she wouldn't have to snoop.
NOEChic
I may not always be right, but I'm never wrong.
How did he lie? what did he lie about? He said he was going to flordia for a football game. That is exactly where he went and did.
TayMac
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I'm sorry she got dumped but not at all surprised. Snooping usually doesn't have a good result.
She confronted him the information and what did she expect out of the situation...for him to apologize and say he won't go to those games anymore? If it was huge deal to her and so unacceptable I think she should have dumped him on her own.
She confronted him the information and what did she expect out of the situation...for him to apologize and say he won't go to those games anymore? If it was huge deal to her and so unacceptable I think she should have dumped him on her own.
azuquita_morena
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I'm don't how I feel about the snooping, but if were me in the same position, I would be relieved I found out about this. I wouldn't want to be with a man who would want to attend those types of events, because I wouldn't attend those type of events (if it were some male version of it) myself. That's just my personal preference. I do believe there are men out there who would not want to go to these types of events, and I hope the lady finds that guy.
azuquita_morena
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But it's sooooooo innocent.
And so refreshing to see this, even if they do have a tummie ache afterwards. I applaud them and you for having such a wonderful husband who can be trusted.
Awww, that's sounded so cute to me too.
likewtr4chklit
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Update:Well my friend decided to ask him why he failed to mentioned the fact that he went to a lingerie football game . She said he was surprised by her question but never asked her how she figured it out. He minimized it and acted like it was no big deal. Well he has 3 daughters and she asked him how he would feel about them playing that type of sport.
After their talk he started acting distant . They both decided to give each other some space. Right before Thanksgivings he told her that he has moved on. Although she said she thinks this is for the best she was hurt . He has totally cut her off. She sent me a text massage saying she guess her ex was right , when he told her she does not know how to keep a man. I feel bad for her but think she needs to work on herself confidence before starting any type of relationship.
She brought his daughters into it? Accused the man of being addicted to porn?? Oh dear not only would I run from her, but I would run fast and far. Not to be mean but jumping to conclusions usually will not turn out well. All she had to say was she didn't feel comfortable with him attending an outing like that.
MzPrince
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I'm sitting here watching it for the first time. It's on MTV2 right now. I have a coworker that does alot of volunteer work for function in our city and she has mentioned that when it's here in town it's no joke. They come out like gang-busters. All I can say is
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Lmao. Gotta say I agree and yes she stay claiming someone's relationship isnt good.
and dude probably lied about going by himself
OP does your friend know any of HIS friends yet?
I would have left her insecure behind too. She brought up his daughters to make him feel bad for something he enjoys doing. Then to call it a porn addiction? LOL what? who needs that kinda nagging and whining? Obviously they're not compatible.
she might wanna look for her next man in the seminary.