Lingerie football

[steffiejoe]

Hello

A close friend of mine has been dating a 49 year old guy since July. She said a few weeks ago he went to Orlando for a football game. Well after she did some snoping she found out he went to watch the Orlando Sentinel's lingerie football team play. They play in their bras and panties. She wanted my advise but I held back my opinion cause I can sometimes be very judgemental.

She likes this guy but now is a little concerned . I personally did not realize this was an actual sport. The other issue is this guy was laid off from work for 4 months. He just started a new job and is catching up with his bills.

I see a lot of red flags but want to get some other views before I give my friend any advice. Or then again I may be reading to much into this.

How would you feel about your man flying hundreds of miles to attend this type of sport?

 

[Mai Tai]

Orlando doesn't even have an NFL team. Lingerie football? Where the *** they do that at? I'm sorry for your friend, but LMAO at the fact that ole dude flew all the way to Florida to see some women rough it up in their pretty little nothings.

I guess if there were some team full of tall, chocolate, built like greek gods, black men playing golf in their black boxer briefs, I'd lie and tell my man that I'm going to watch Tiger Woods.

 

[JayAnn0513]

That sounds weird as heck.

 

[steffiejoe]

^^^^ I know this was the first I heard of such a thing. Here is a link I found when I googled the team
Lingerie Football Could Be The Most Lucrative Women's "Sport" | The Frisky

 

[Mai Tai]

For those who are curious...

[video=youtube;gZcSEE7TuGU]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gZcSEE7TuGU[/video]

 

[steffiejoe]

^^^Thank you for posting this vid!

 

[Shimmie]

Orlando doesn't even have an NFL team. Lingerie football? Where the *** they do that at? I'm sorry for your friend, but LMAO at the fact that ole dude flew all the way to Florida to see some women rough it up in their pretty little nothings.

I guess if there were some team full of tall, chocolate, built like greek gods, black men playing golf in their black boxer briefs, I'd lie and tell my man that I'm going to watch Tiger Woods.

:rofl3:

I can only imagine 'hearing' you in this post. "Old Dude' while rolling your eyes.

And a wink regarding Tiger Woods...

 

[Shimmie]

Hello

A close friend of mine has been dating a 49 year old guy since July. She said a few weeks ago he went to Orlando for a football game. Well after she did some snoping she found out he went to watch the Orlando Sentinel's lingerie football team play. They play in their bras and panties. She wanted my advise but I held back my opinion cause I can sometimes be very judgemental.

She likes this guy but now is a little concerned . I personally did not realize this was an actual sport. The other issue is this guy was laid off from work for 4 months. He just started a new job and is catching up with his bills.

I see a lot of red flags but want to get some other views before I give my friend any advice. Or then again I may be reading to much into this.

How would you feel about your man flying hundreds of miles to attend this type of sport?

Wellllllll, he's already 'lied' to her by misleading her in reference to the type of football game. He's seems like 'frisky' guy who cannot be trusted, and not satisfied with her alone.

As for the job, it happens in this economy, many are struggling so it's hard to judge him for that. HOWEVER, for a man to be in financial straits, why is he squandering his money to travel to watch half naked women play football. Where are his priorities. He seems to be addicted to a porn lifestyle spending money he doesn't have for travel, other expenses for something such as that.

I don't 'trust' his character. He doesn't seem responsible in a true relationship. Your friend could make better use of her time with someone else or working on her self esteem and not settle for less.

 

[steffiejoe]

Orlando doesn't even have an NFL team. Lingerie football? Where the *** they do that at? I'm sorry for your friend, but LMAO at the fact that ole dude flew all the way to Florida to see some women rough it up in their pretty little nothings.

I guess if there were some team full of tall, chocolate, built like greek gods, black men playing golf in their black boxer briefs, I'd lie and tell my man that I'm going to watch Tiger Woods.

I see your point.

 

[steffiejoe]

Wellllllll, he's already 'lied' to her by misleading her in reference to the type of football game. He's seems like 'frisky' guy who cannot be trusted, and not satisfied with her alone.

As for the job, it happens in this economy, many are struggling so it's hard to judge him for that. HOWEVER, for a man to be in financial straits, why is he squandering his money to travel to watch half naked women play football. Where are his priorities. He seems to be addicted to a porn lifestyle spending money he doesn't have for travel, other expenses for something such as that.

I don't 'trust' his character. He doesn't seem responsible in a true relationship. Your friend could make better use of her time with someone else or working on her self esteem and not settle for less.

Thanks for your view. I agree it does seem like he is a little frisky. I could'nt find the link today but the first link I viewed of the actual game he went to , showed a lot of young men in attendance. I just thought this behavior was odd for someone proclaiming he wants to settle down and get married.

 

[Shimmie]

Thanks for your view. I agree it does seem like he is a little frisky. I could'nt find the link today but the first link I viewed of the actual game he went to , showed a lot of young men in attendance. I just thought this behavior was odd for someone proclaiming he wants to settle down and get married.

Steffiejoe... you have 'good' instincts; you are nobody's fool. You know what time it is and it's not having to put up with foolishness in a relationship. What you 'see' in this man is only the truth which is judging by his behaviour and activities. What kind of men do this and to the extent that he went through to participate in this in spite of his financial limitations.

The clock ain't ticking the right time with this man's behaviour.

I can't help but wonder what else is he concealing? In a marriage 'trust' and 'responsibility' are critical. If he's this irresponsible with money as a single man, he'll look to your friend as picking up the slack where he's slacking or do it all while he watches more naked football.

You're not judging this man, you're just smart enough to see things the way they truly are. It may be cold outside, but you don't have wool pulled over your eyes for warmth, you have them wide open to see what's up and down and all around.

I applaud you.

 

[steffiejoe]

^^^ I really need to stop second guessing myself. I just hate this for my friend . She has been single for over 1 year before meeting this guy. He has been very nice to her. She started snoping because she was worried he may have been visiting Orlando to visit an ex who lives a few hours away. Then she finds out about this. I sure hope this is not some type of porn addiction problem. She is a very conservative person and was confused when she discovered this .

 

[Shimmie]

^^^ I really need to stop second guessing myself. I just hate this for my friend . She has been single for over 1 year before meeting this guy. He has been very nice to her. She started snoping because she was worried he may have been visiting Orlando to visit an ex who lives a few hours away.

Then she finds out about this. I sure hope this is not some type of porn addiction problem. She is a very conservative person and was confused when she discovered this .

Tyler Perry has said this in a lot of his story lines: "That if you 'think' he's cheating....... he is. "

Now for an overly insecure person, this may not always be true, but some women have a 'fatal attraction', zoning in on men, who have suspicious traits / behaviours.

If any woman feels suspicious, this is a signal that something is wrong. While no relationship is perfect, there has to a barometer reading of 'Peace' in one's heart about the man she is with. If she doesn't trust him, she should not be with him.

She is not going to change him. Women with insecurities cannot change men. Men will live up to our tolerance; they live up to what we as women allow them to do. With a woman who has standards, if the man doesn't get it right, then it's two snaps and a twist and he's out. With your friend, the only changes will be her lowering her standards and she will end up getting the crumbs and not the full treasures of relationship.

You have a good sense of strength and common sense. This situation with your friend is nothing deep, and you have the brilliance to see it that way. It's something that you have the strength not to tolerate. Your friend can learn from you. Tell her the Truth, the red flags are there inside of her, as she is not at peace with this man. Her suspicions have proven true. Does she lower herself or move on to something better?

You tell her and show her how it's done. If she stays, love her anyway and pray for her to be strong.

 

[chicitygirl]

I guess I'm the only one that doesn't see this as a big deal. It's an organized sporting event. It's like going to Hooters for dinner but with an actual sports element. I have a friend that plays on a lingerie team, so maybe that's why I don't think it's that big of a deal. She wanted to play competitive football, and it was either the lingerie team or the super masculine/all lesbian other league. They wear the same amount of clothes (and more gear) than women at any gym in America.

Your friend has been dating this guy for only a few months. Depending on how serious their relationship is, maybe he didn't feel he needed to give all the details about his trip. I mean, he didn't lie and say he was visiting his mother or something like that. Did he go with a group of friends or did he fly all the way there by himself just to see this game? I don't think I would even care if my bf went to see a lingerie football game with friends. It's harmless, really. If he lied about it, that's one thing.

 

[chelseatiara]

Hello

A close friend of mine has been dating a 49 year old guy since July. She said a few weeks ago he went to Orlando for a football game. Well after she did some snoping she found out he went to watch the Orlando Sentinel's lingerie football team play. They play in their bras and panties. She wanted my advise but I held back my opinion cause I can sometimes be very judgemental.

She likes this guy but now is a little concerned . I personally did not realize this was an actual sport. The other issue is this guy was laid off from work for 4 months. He just started a new job and is catching up with his bills.

I see a lot of red flags but want to get some other views before I give my friend any advice. Or then again I may be reading to much into this.

How would you feel about your man flying hundreds of miles to attend this type of sport?

A. Something aint right in the koolaid if she felt she had to snoop
B. If he was laid off for four weeks and all of that good stuff how could he afford the trip and the time off of work to fly hundreds of miles for this tomfoolery.
C. He knew he was wrong because he didnt tell her about the half naked ladies.
D. If my man wanted to watch this on t.v. with some buddies for kicks and giggles i wouldnt mind but if he flew down there with god-knows-what funds and then i had to snoop to find out the truth we would have a problem.:gotroasted:

IMO

 

[steffiejoe]

I guess I'm the only one that doesn't see this as a big deal. It's an organized sporting event. It's like going to Hooters for dinner but with an actual sports element. I have a friend that plays on a lingerie team, so maybe that's why I don't think it's that big of a deal. She wanted to play competitive football, and it was either the lingerie team or the super masculine/all lesbian other league. They wear the same amount of clothes (and more gear) than women at any gym in America.

Your friend has been dating this guy for only a few months. Depending on how serious their relationship is, maybe he didn't feel he needed to give all the details about his trip. I mean, he didn't lie and say he was visiting his mother or something like that. Did he go with a group of friends or did he fly all the way there by himself just to see this game? I don't think I would even care if my bf went to see a lingerie football game with friends. It's harmless, really. If he lied about it, that's one thing.

From what she told me he went to Orlando by himself. He only told her he was going to a football game . He omitted the part about it being a female lingerie team. So yes he did lie.
She is not that opened minded about it.

 

[steffiejoe]

A. Something aint right in the koolaid if she felt she had to snoop
B. If he was laid off for four weeks and all of that good stuff how could he afford the trip and the time off of work to fly hundreds of miles for this tomfoolery.
C. He knew he was wrong because he didnt tell her about the half naked ladies.
D. If my man wanted to watch this on t.v. with some buddies for kicks and giggles i wouldnt mind but if he flew down there with god-knows-what funds and then i had to snoop to find out the truth we would have a problem.:gotroasted:

IMO

A.Yea your are right ,she is kinda insecure but she is also very nosey
B. Not sure how he was able to take leave so soon after starting a new job
C.To me thats the same as a lie
D.I think thats my question, what kind of man is willing to spend money on a flight, hotel, food, and game ticket to watch this . Watching it on TV is a little different, heck i might even watch it with my man.

 

[TayMac]

I guess it sounds odd to me because I don't know any men personally who are interested in this.

I would expect a 49yo man to be more upfront. If this is something he enjoys on occasion, he shouldn't hide it. Are they exclusive?

 

[ThickHair]

I don't see a problem with it either. She went looking for stuff by snooping and she found it. Now the big question is what is she giong to do? Is she going to try a relationship with him or is she giving him the dueces? If she is going to do the first, then her snopping looks, well kind of foolish now, if she is leaving then go, it is a no brainer.

It's just like when women go looking for numbers in their man's phone, ok you found them, now what??? Most of them usually stay and they look foolish.

 

[steffiejoe]

I don't see a problem with it either. She went looking for stuff by snooping and she found it. Now the big question is what is she giong to do? Is she going to try a relationship with him or is she giving him the dueces? If she is going to do the first, then her snopping looks, well kind of foolish now, if she is leaving then go, it is a no brainer.

It's just like when women go looking for numbers in their man's phone, ok you found them, now what??? Most of them usually stay and they look foolish.

I have not had a chance to talk with her yet about her plans. She did tell me that she has not mentioned it to him yet and that she has been real short with him over the phone. So he is wondering what's wrong .
We are having a garage sale together tomorrow so I will find out how she feels and give her my true feelings on the matter.

 

[NOEChic]

he didnt lie by omission, he said he was going to a fb game and that is where he went. now if he said he was going to the game and also went to see his other chick then thats a problem. if she would have asked probing questions and he was evasive then i would say something. some women are all set to be proven right when they say/think all men are dogs.

and if he wants to spend his money and burn his vacation time to go to the game, let him. thats his money, stay out of that mans pocket. now the only time i would say to be in his pocket is if he was going to your girl asking for her help in paying his bills

 

[ThickHair]

I have not had a chance to talk with her yet about her plans. She did tell me that she has not mentioned it to him yet and that she has been real short with him over the phone. So he is wondering what's wrong .
We are having a garage sale together tomorrow so I will find out how she feels and give her my true feelings on the matter.

Then she aint going nowhere. She is going to let this stew then 5-6 months down the road she is going to bring it up because it is going to boil over and she will look like an idiot. Meanwhile dude is going to be living without a care in the world thinking he has a nice lady to settle for now with. Not cool, tell her siht or get of the pot. It isn't a difficult thing to do.

he didnt lie by omission, he said he was going to a fb game and that is where he went. now if he said he was going to the game and also went to see his other chick then thats a problem. if she would have asked probing questions and he was evasive then i would say something. some women are all set to be proven right when they say/think all men are dogs.

and if he wants to spend his money and burn his vacation time to go to the game, let him. thats his money, stay out of that mans pocket. now the only time i would say to be in his pocket is if he was going to your girl asking for her help in paying his bills

Amen to that^^^.

 

[LadyPaniolo]

I highly doubt he flew all that way just to see the naked football. He was down there for some other reason, like the ex, and saw the game while he was there. You can see more than nudie football down at the local tiddie bar for way cheaper.

The main issues are 1. that he's blowing his money; that's a no-go. If he's spending foolishly now, he will continue to do so after he marries. Actually, he'll be worse with spending b/c his wife will pick up the slack. 2. He def saw the ex while down there.

Time for her to move on, but I'll bet she stays.

 

[ThickHair]

The main issues are 1. that he's blowing his money; that's a no-go. If he's spending foolishly now, he will continue to do so after he marries. Actually, he'll be worse with spending b/c his wife will pick up the slack. 2. He def saw the ex while down there.

Time for her to move on, but I'll bet she stays.

Right now, you are correct it is his money and if she doesn't like it she can step. It is really that simple. All bets is that she will stay also, because she hasn't already stepped. WOW

 

[Transformer]

I don't have a problem with it but I'm pretty secure about my cellulite. I see it as a "man outing." I mean he could have picked up a few things from the lingerie vendors.

It just comes across as harmless to me as long as he's not borrowing the money from her to support his field trip or his bills--so what.

DH and friends go to Kings Dominion every year and act stupid riding the roller coasters. It's a pitiful site. A bunch of beer belly men jugging funnel cake, hot dogs, turkey wings, and beer---all at the same time. They usually end of too sick to drive home.

I think I'm going to suggest Lingerie Football instead of "Roller Coaster Weekend."

 

[Shimmie]

he didnt lie by omission, he said he was going to a fb game and that is where he went. now if he said he was going to the game and also went to see his other chick then thats a problem. if she would have asked probing questions and he was evasive then i would say something. some women are all set to be proven right when they say/think all men are dogs.

and if he wants to spend his money and burn his vacation time to go to the game, let him. thats his money, stay out of that mans pocket. now the only time i would say to be in his pocket is if he was going to your girl asking for her help in paying his bills

Just commenting on this theory... :Rose:

You're right that a lot of women want to prove that all men are dogs; they haven't healed from a broken heart of the past or present, so they look to disprove all men from being honorable.

However with this particular man, he lied by omitting to tell her what kind of football game. You can tell by her behaviour (the snooping) that she does not 'trust' this man and I can guarantee that it is because of some other elusive behaviour of his.

The truth being what it is... he mislead her. He lied. He's gaming her; otherwise he'd be upfront and just tell her what's going on; he would have sat her down and told her what kind of football game it was.

I understand that some women may not care and have no problem with this kind of activity, however the 'problem' is that he still did not give her the benefit of knowing what kind of football game it was. He's not stupid.. he KNEW what he was doing and also why he did not tell her. He's gaming her.

While it's his business what he does with his money, I agree, it's his business, however, it's also very 'telling' about his priorities.

Does he put 'fun and games' before responsibility? Will she end up picking up the slack because he's spend HIS money so carelessly, before taking care of what matters first? I can't help but wonder what his credit is like. Does he live from check to check and just wing it until he gets a break?

Yeah.... Dude can spend as he pleases, however it's shows how 'adult' he is 'not' and how reckless he is living. This is not adult behaviour, it is like a child and it is a huge red flag in any relationship.

This is not the time to be a fool, for a fool and his money will soon depart, then what...? He's looking at Mama or 'Baby' to pick up behind him, again.

Therefore this man is not trustworthy... his behaviour shows it and he is not one for a serious relationship. No woman should be so desperate or insecure. There are far too many men who are far better than this and ones whom she can trust her heart and life with.

I know way too many good men. She deserves far better.

 

[Shimmie]

I don't have a problem with it but I'm pretty secure about my cellulite. I see it as a "man outing." I mean he could have picked up a few things from the lingerie vendors.

It just comes across as harmless to me as long as he's not borrowing the money from her to support his field trip or his bills--so what.

DH and friends go to Kings Dominion every year and act stupid riding the roller coasters. It's a pitiful site. A bunch of beer belly men jugging funnel cake, hot dogs, turkey wings, and beer---all at the same time. They usually end of too sick to drive home.

I think I'm going to suggest Lingerie Football instead of "Roller Coaster Weekend."

Your husband and his buddies are 'Darlings' having 'innocent' fun. 'Crazy...? Yes But it's sooooooo innocent. And so refreshing to see this, even if they do have a tummie ache afterwards. I applaud them and you for having such a wonderful husband who can be trusted.

In comparison to this man lying to go watch half naked women tumble, rumble, fumble and play in the mud and grass....

Ummmmmm, No... not the same. Not the same Not the same

Men are sight stimulated and they get their 'jollies' watching women on women and this game is just that, dressed up in a different name for game, to make it seem....... okay?

* Official Rant Warning *

Why not put some real clothes on and play the game? It's fantasy porn, plain and simple. I can't see the purpose of being so exposed other than for that reason. Otherwise the game would be taken seriously if they were fully clothed as they should be.

Quite Frankly, I'm pissed off at 'old dude' for being such a freak and playing games with OP's friend. Just tell her the truth and let her go. Stop playing her. It's obvious that he knows full blessed well, that she is not okay with this, so what he needs to do is just tell her and let her go and then go be with a woman who could care less about what he does. At least then, he'd stop lying....

Or....would he? I'm just pissed about the game he is playing with her. Let her go and stop playing games. This man knows exactly what's up and he is dead wrong to continue messing with the emotions of someone that he has no intention of being truthful to.

*Rant Over *

 

[vainღ♥♡jane]

I guess I'm the only one that doesn't see this as a big deal. It's an organized sporting event. It's like going to Hooters for dinner but with an actual sports element. I have a friend that plays on a lingerie team, so maybe that's why I don't think it's that big of a deal. She wanted to play competitive football, and it was either the lingerie team or the super masculine/all lesbian other league. They wear the same amount of clothes (and more gear) than women at any gym in America.

Your friend has been dating this guy for only a few months. Depending on how serious their relationship is, maybe he didn't feel he needed to give all the details about his trip. I mean, he didn't lie and say he was visiting his mother or something like that. Did he go with a group of friends or did he fly all the way there by himself just to see this game? I don't think I would even care if my bf went to see a lingerie football game with friends. It's harmless, really. If he lied about it, that's one thing.

i don't think its a big deal either. women watch male sports for 'frisky' reasonstoo.

now i want to play lingerie football. ♥

 

[NOEChic]

I highly doubt he flew all that way just to see the naked football. He was down there for some other reason, like the ex, and saw the game while he was there. You can see more than nudie football down at the local tiddie bar for way cheaper.

The main issues are 1. that he's blowing his money; that's a no-go. If he's spending foolishly now, he will continue to do so after he marries. Actually, he'll be worse with spending b/c his wife will pick up the slack. 2. He def saw the ex while down there.

Time for her to move on, but I'll bet she stays.

How are you going to say that he saw his ex? Do you know him? I know people that travel all the time to do and see things that they are interested in. Also who said anything about marriage they just started dating.

Just commenting on this theory... :Rose:

You're right that a lot of women want to prove that all men are dogs; they haven't healed from a broken heart of the past or present, so they look to disprove all men from being honorable.

However with this particular man, he lied by omitting to tell her what kind of football game. You can tell by her behaviour (the snooping) that she does not 'trust' this man and I can guarantee that it is because of some other elusive behaviour of his.

The truth being what it is... he mislead her. He lied. He's gaming her; otherwise he'd be upfront and just tell her what's going on; he would have sat her down and told her what kind of football game it was.

I understand that some women may not care and have no problem with this kind of activity, however the 'problem' is that he still did not give her the benefit of knowing what kind of football game it was. He's not stupid.. he KNEW what he was doing and also why he did not tell her. He's gaming her.

While it's his business what he does with his money, I agree, it's his business, however, it's also very 'telling' about his priorities.

Does he put 'fun and games' before responsibility? Will she end up picking up the slack because he's spend HIS money so carelessly, before taking care of what matters first? I can't help but wonder what his credit is like. Does he live from check to check and just wing it until he gets a break?

Yeah.... Dude can spend as he pleases, however it's shows how 'adult' he is 'not' and how reckless he is living. This is not adult behaviour, it is like a child and it is a huge red flag in any relationship.

This is not the time to be a fool, for a fool and his money will soon depart, then what...? He's looking at Mama or 'Baby' to pick up behind him, again.

Therefore this man is not trustworthy... his behaviour shows it and he is not one for a serious relationship. No woman should be so desperate or insecure. There are far too many men who are far better than this and ones whom she can trust her heart and life with.

I know way too many good men. She deserves far better.

I don't think that he mislead her. He may have not thought that it was a big issuse and did not mention oh its a lingere game. Not every chick gets up in arms about the same meaningless thing that other chicks do. Also he may feel that at almost 50 he is a grown *** man and is able to go out of town to do things that interest him. I am just saying.

 

[Shimmie]

How are you going to say that he saw his ex? Do you know him? I know people that travel all the time to do and see things that they are interested in. Also who said anything about marriage they just started dating.


I don't think that he mislead her. He may have not thought that it was a big issuse and did not mention oh its a lingere game. Not every chick gets up in arms about the same meaningless thing that other chicks do. Also he may feel that at almost 50 he is a grown *** man and is able to go out of town to do things that interest him. I am just saying.

{Gently Speaking} And this is just food for thought, that's all; it's not contention. :Rose:

In thinking of his character, would you want this man for your daughter, sister, or even your mom [if mom was in a dating position]? Would you want a reckless spender for a man?

He's lead Op's friend to believe that he wants to settle down and get married. He's dating her and leading her to think he cares for her 'that way'. His ways are not her ways and he knows it; otherwise he would have said so. I've seen enough in life to know what's up here.

He is indeed entitled to do as he pleases. He can pee in the grass and roll in it like a puppy; but he is still responsible for being upfront with a woman whom he KNOWS has serious feelings for him. He owes her that much.

He's playa'.... he is. A sure down to the ground playa'. I understand that not every chick cares about this... okay that's them, but it's not her and he knows it's not her otherwise he would not be misleading her. Men KNOW when a woman has feelings for them; and they either reciprocate and love her right back or they play them. And playing is what he is doing.

And that's my point here. It okay that you are fine with his character. I respect that. It's not okay that he's doing this to her. I know too many men who do not do this; they know how to treat a woman's feelings and they do so with compassion, respect and total character. They are real men, not players.

Blessings to you. None of what I've shared is personal towards you. It's the topic I'm responding to. Take care. :Rose: