Light Skinned Guys= High Maintenance?

Its hard to generalize light skin men per say. I have had them in all calibers. Some super sweet and easy to get along with. Others arrogant and egomaniacs. They are no different than any other men I have met or dated. As a matter a fact, all of them have loved brown skin women and had just as many insecurities/issues as the brown/darker men.
 
At the end of the day u just have to love yourself enough to know that u will not have to work hard to get the right man to like u. If u feel like ur working hard then ur wasting ur time and this man will never appreciate u cuz he should be the one working. Now on to the other issue, u should ask urself if ur preference for light skinned men reflects some sort of insecurity in u. I'm not saying it does but think about it.
Now, I can't say that light skinned men are more maintenance cuz I've dated both (I just love men period). Look for the men who will respect u and know ur value, whether they are light or dark.

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In my opinion, one shouldnt place a person in a box based on skin tone alone..Men are gonna be men period...blue, black, yellow, white and red...they are still gonna want dinner cooked, sex, great head, and a clean home...now I believe that high maintenance characteristics are more of an individual thing and that can stem from several different factors (how they grew up, their dating history, etc..) As far as my dating history goes, I have dated my fair share of men with lighter complexions, Im an equal opportunity dater, and they have not appeared to be more high maintenence than the next..
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Is this the same light skin guy from before?


I don't think you should have to work hard to get a guy to like you. He either does or does not. If you appear to be trying too hard it can be a turn off, whether the guy is bone white, high yella or blue black:look:
 
evsbaby said:
Is this the same light skin guy from before?


I don't think you should have to work hard to get a guy to like you. He either does or does not. If you appear to be trying too hard it can be a turn off, whether the guy is bone white, high yella or blue black:look:
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from before??
 
Actually, this light-skinned dude could be applying all those stereotypes to you, considering you're also on the lighter side of things. :lol: I wouldn't bother trying to "figure out" his color complexion complex. Instead, get to know him. He might not be anything like you think. Whether that's a good or bad thing. Good luck!
 
virgo_chinwe said:
First off, I am light caramel complexion chick. I can't even lie my preference is black light skinned men. I will date other races, white, Indian, and all that other jazz, but i love me some drakes...maybe not with drake's face, b/c sometimes drake be bordering *****, but definitely his complexion type. Ironically, my dating history consists of mainly dark skinned men, so I am definitely an equal opportunist if we are vibing on a certain level and we have that instant connection. But lately, I am getting the feeling that I am color struck...in particular with this one guy. I feel like I am working extra hard to get this guy to like me. And its starting to beg the question for me.....are light skinned guys more maintenance? do they see themselves on a different caliber? Do they lack patience for sex b/c they know other women are willing to drop drawers in a dime? Are they used to not hearing "NO"? What have your experiences been?? What are your conclusions? My mother and my girlfriend's mother told me that light skinned men are just extra and know that they are a hot commodity...and to not venture that territory unless you are trying to put in work.

I will admit issues with this guy are stem from other deeper issues....but I will save that for another post later today.
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:lachen::lol::lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen: nothing to add but i enjoyed reading!
 
mischka said:
I used to love light skinned dudes.

But they were a fckin' problem, man...
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:lol: I didn't love them more than other black men but I've dated a few lightskinned men and there were definitely a few particular hang-ups that they shared. I would say more but I don't have the energy to commit to the way the thread may turn out...
 
If you have to work to make a man like you then he's just not that into you.

Accept it and move on. His complexion has nothing to do with it.
 
Almaz said:
I was here
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ditto :look:

ETA: I don't think it has anything to do with color. Contrary to popular belief, unless a girl is offering up casual goodies, guys are not generally attracted to women that throw themselves at them. They like a bit of a challenge.
 
I don't have any personal experience with this since I haven't seriously dated a light-skinned guy (I'm into darker-toned guys :lick:) but I wouldn't generalize or stereotype based on skin-color. If he's not into you, it has nothing to do with skin color and just keep it moving.
 
virgo_chinwe said:
First off, I am light caramel complexion chick. I can't even lie my preference is black light skinned men. I will date other races, white, Indian, and all that other jazz, but i love me some drakes...maybe not with drake's face, b/c sometimes drake be bordering *****, but definitely his complexion type. Ironically, my dating history consists of mainly dark skinned men, so I am definitely an equal opportunist if we are vibing on a certain level and we have that instant connection. But lately, I am getting the feeling that I am color struck...in particular with this one guy. I feel like I am working extra hard to get this guy to like me. And its starting to beg the question for me.....are light skinned guys more maintenance? do they see themselves on a different caliber? Do they lack patience for sex b/c they know other women are willing to drop drawers in a dime? Are they used to not hearing "NO"? What have your experiences been?? What are your conclusions? My mother and my girlfriend's mother told me that light skinned men are just extra and know that they are a hot commodity...and to not venture that territory unless you are trying to put in work.

I will admit issues with this guy are stem from other deeper issues....but I will save that for another post later today.
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Say what? Light skinned doesn't pay the bills.
 
@ Virgo - sorry to hear about your troubles. I am a chocolatte and my hubby is a light bright (which that doesnt matter) and he tells me all the time the biggest turn off for a man is when a woman comes off as if she is desperate.... and those type of woman get tooted and booted!! Men come a dime a dozen and if in 2 years things just continue to be as they are, you need to take that as a blessing and move on to someone who is really interested in you!!

I wish you the best!!! :)
 
Um, OP, reading your post it seems (IMO) that this dude just isn't into you. He wants to bone you, that's all. And he's probably just hanging around coz it's kinda like a chase for him. You're reluctant to bang him so it makes him want to bang you even more. If (or when) he gets what he wants he'll probably show even less interest in you than he does now.

His skin colour is not relevant to this situation IMO.
 
I just don't understand what this has to do with him being light. Have other lightskinned men done the same thing? To be honest he sounds like a prick. If he isn't asking questions about your life or trying to dig a little further than the color of your panties then you already know what it is. Put him on time out indefinitely. Or not if you're into playing games. Trust me I've dated plenty of lighter men and there is no equation on figuring them out. Some men are just tools. He seems to be one of them.
 
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