snugglez41685
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If you weren't sleeping with him, do you think he'd still be giving you money?
You know what Miss J I don't know but that is something to think about.
If you weren't sleeping with him, do you think he'd still be giving you money?
pro athletes are ruled by their egos....if you know how to play and target their ego you will have them wrapped around your finger...however if you want to target the heart of man, going thru and appeasing the ego is the long way and sometimes you get lost trying to get to it and never see it....lots of women are satisfied having the ego of a man...if a woman comes along and captures his heart he's outta there or a woman who can play the "ego" game better,..when his heart takes over the reigns you are dealing with a whole new man
___________________________________________________________Hey ladies, I have a legit question.
I'm hearing a lot of you saying that the men are telling you up front that they don't want a relationship. I'm wondering how the topic came up in the first place -- that to me, could be the real issue right there.
I know in the past, I'd already gotten semi-close to a guy (not necessarily sleeping with the guy) and then I'd bring up the topic. Then he'd say, "I'm not ready for a relationship."
I think the problem was doing so much in the first place to catch feelings for a man where I'm wanting him to ask about a relationship. It should be that HE'S caught feelings enough so that HE brings up the topic, not moi.
What say y'all?
You need to do no-contact.
Easier said than done, I know, but that's what you need to figure out how to do right now.
This is unfolding exactly as I expected.
^^^Thanks Hurricane.
In my current dating life, I am trying to avoid "heated" situations. But if one happens, I think the best thing to do is say, "You know, this is cool and I'm really attracted to you, but I'm not gonna get physical like that unless I'm in a relationship."
(Even if we're just talking heavy makeout sessions, that's when things should be said if you don't want it to end up progressing farther...)
Then if he goes, "I'm not ready for a relationship," I'd say, "Oh, well I'm sorry to hear that. I'm looking for a relationship, so I guess this really won't work out for us, will it? Well, good luck!"
And CUT IT OFF. No debate, no sorta being friends, NOTHING.
Now, he might decide after a while that he really likes you and then wants to be in a relationship. That's cool, but let him earn his way into being your boyfriend.
Other than that, I say cut things quick and move on. We need to control this and cut **** off before it starts.
Just my thoughts.
I will definitely pursue the no contact the best way I can. And when u say exactly as you expected what do you mean. Just curious Bunny 77.
I will definitely practice this in the future. You are truly good at this type of advice! Now I need to take it.
____________________________________________________________^^^Thanks Hurricane.
In my current dating life, I am trying to avoid "heated" situations. But if one happens, I think the best thing to do is say, "You know, this is cool and I'm really attracted to you, but I'm not gonna get physical like that unless I'm in a relationship."
(Even if we're just talking heavy makeout sessions, that's when things should be said if you don't want it to end up progressing farther...)
Then if he goes, "I'm not ready for a relationship," I'd say, "Oh, well I'm sorry to hear that. I'm looking for a relationship, so I guess this really won't work out for us, will it? Well, good luck!"
And CUT IT OFF. No debate, no sorta being friends, NOTHING.
Now, he might decide after a while that he really likes you and then wants to be in a relationship. That's cool, but let him earn his way into being your boyfriend.
Other than that, I say cut things quick and move on. We need to control this and cut **** off before it starts.
Just my thoughts.