I let my current SO go in 2007. We had different views of our future...we weren't enemies or anything like that. There was no drama. It's just that I wanted to be serious about some stuff and he didn't. So we parted for around 6 months.
At first I did the no-contact thing, I didn't reply to phone calls or e-mails or anything. He was frustrated, but realized slowly that he wanted to come back. We started talking when his brother died, he came to my house and we drank to his honor and talked the night away.
He said he wanted to come back, so I asked him if he was really serious this time and please take some time to think about it, because I didn't want to waste my time with something that wouldn't lead anywhere. He thought about it and we got back together. It was sooooo difficult for me to trust him again and give myself to him completely
All in all, I think it was good for him to rearrange his priorities and good for me that HE was the one begging to come back.
If we break up again, that's it. I can't do the back and forth anymore. It would break my heart.
The sad thing and good thing that came out of the episode is that I feel 1000 times stronger now. When we broke up I cried my heart out and I couldn't breathe, anxiety attacks etc etc. Now I'm more aloof and I will not invest my heart that deeply again
Sad, but true! It's all for the best though, because I don't want to go into the monkeybrain again.