Welcome back Jewell! I'm actually in the same boat as you right now. I'm actually going to travel out to his hometown and he will foot the hotel expenses and dating activities. This is actually our second date: Short story- Met him a little over a year ago when I was out of town visiting a friend. I just got out of a long term relationship with my daughter's father and my friends(hubby & wife team) decided to play cupid and hooked me up on a blind date with a friend of theirs. Now mind you, I was lightweight dating another person at the time and decided that there was no harm in keeping my options open.
I had a fabolous time on my date; he was a complete gentleman and chilvary was not dead with him! He treated me with respect; paid for everyone's dinner, my drinks never got a chance to hit the bottom of the glass before he order another for me without me having to say boo. Converstation was excellent, laughter was continuous and he loved to dance like me; he even taught me the Cupid Shuffle.
I was honest with him and told him I was dating other people, which he understood but he told me that if I was living in the same town, he would date me in an instant. Fast forward: We've been phone buddies for the past year 1/2 and have really gotten to know each other. The person I was dating previously bit the dust and I've just been celibate and lightweight dating. We share alot of the same views and morals, he also coaches and mentors youngsters after working hours. He was originally supposed to visit me during the Labor Day holidays but plans fell through due to an issue on my end. We both are single parents interested in having a growing family and we are both excited in seeing if we can develop something further regardless of distance.
I will admit that I'm a little apprehensive about LDR but at the same time, I'm venturing out of my comfort zone and trying something new. My friend has made his interest in me known from day 1 and wants to pursue our friendship into a relationship. We have both discussed the pros and cons since we both have children ( he has full custody of his child) but the final decision is up to me since he has his mind already made up about me.
I'm not going to jump the gun on anything but I plan on making the best of my visit and enjoy myself.
Jewell, give it a go, if the person you're seeing is paying for the flight and hotel/ entertainment, then great! If he can pay 1/2, I say go with that too but if he doesn't offer to ease the financial burden then he would get major side eye. If you are in a relationship with him, tell him to keep a drawer space for you and save your hotel money! LOL