DSD, i'm sorry to hear about your issue. I've been reading your positive posts on this board and you have been speaking strength to all of the ladies on ths board, you've greatly helped me out. Well i had a similiar issue, i didn't apply a rinse, but i think it was because i let my sister put the phyto in my hair. so i had unusual breakage. the only thing that helped was babying my hair for like 4-5 weeks, then it slowly stopped breaking and started acting healthy. So for the next few weeks, just forget about being cute.
Just wash/cowash twice a week, do deep conds after every wash, and keep alot of oil and moisturizer in it and maybe pin it up. After a few weeks, it'll get better. oh and another thing i do when i have dry hair, is i apply a little Mango butter at night and put on a showercap and then put on my scarf. in the morning my hair is real moist and has body, then in apply a light oil to retain the moisture for the day....i think this works for me.
and another thing before i go...i just wanted to tell u to be wise in choosing which products you use. It sounds like you have some good ones, and buying alot of stuff won't miraculously solve the problem. only TLC will solve it. I just don't wnat u to go broke.