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weaveologist

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How often do you see and talk to your SO?

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How often do you EXPECT to see and talk to your SO?


I'm trying to figure out if I am just too needy....
 
Well I don't live with my SO yet, and he's only been my SO for a few days now and we've been pretty inseparable. We've talked everyday since we met and I don't see us going a day without at least communicating. Right now he wants to see me everyday but I think I'm gonna give us a few days of a break this week if he lets me.
 
How often do you see and talk to your SO?
Well we're in a LDR so we don't see each other as much as we'd like but he's been up here since Jan and we've seen each other several times a week. We talk all day via txt, email, Blackberry Messenger etc..
It might not be tht ur needy! Many ppl in relationships would like to spend every min of the day w/each other while others prefer more space!
 
Hmmmmmmmm. I don't think I'm needy either. I am just curious as to how other long term relationships work that have yet to hit the leaving together mark.
 
My So and I do not live together and we talk to eachother all day every day several times. I see him maybe 4 days out of the week.
 
I don't live with my SO but I see him approximately four times a week, talk & text with him several times a day on average. We may have a day where we only talk once or twice but that's rare.

But every relationship is different. There's no one way of communicating that's going to be right for everyone. How often do you want to see and talk to your SO?
 
I don't live with my SO either, but I sleep at his place almost every night out of the week. I try to sneak over to my place at least once a week though.

ETA: We've been dating for 5 months.
 
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I haven't lived with DH for almost a year (we live in different states) We see each other maybe 2 weekends a month but talk on the phone once a day and text each other alot through out the day. We both like our space but I would like to see him every day
 
Ediese said:
I don't live with my SO either, but I sleep at his place almost every night out of the week. I try to sneak at my place at least once a week though.

ETA: We've been dating for 5 months.
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That's how we are. He technically doesn't live w/ me, but we see each other daily.


ButterCaramel said:
I haven't lived with DH for almost a year (we live in different states) We see each other maybe 2 weekends a month but talk on the phone once a day and text each other alot through out the day. We both like our space but I would like to see him every day
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Is the distance work-related?


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And I also agree that it depends on the relationship and those in it. For local relationships, I'd say a weekly visit (preferably a date) and talking at least half of the week would be good. I personally am needy and like alot of attention.

OP, how often would you like to see and talk to him?
 
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We communicate everyday (online, text message and phone)and see each other almost everyday even if it's just for an hour or less. We don't talk all day everyday though..we give each other adequate "me time".
 
He's not my SO but he's got my attention... :grin: time will tell.. but we talk everyday...all day... text...chat... blackberry... everything! Kinda feel like a teenager... staying up to 2am talking on the phone... lol... Basically that's all we have right now because we are in different states and taking it slow... so we'll see.
 
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we both live on campus (our buildings are next to each other), but he is super busy & i only see him like 2-3 times during the week then during the weekend. i dont really see the point in talking on the phone/IM daily since we live right next to each other. i would like to spend a few hours a day with him but right now thats not possible with school/work/etc :-/
 
We've been together 2.5 years. At the beginning I saw him about 4 times per week, but talking everyday. Now I stay at his house every night. I go home to get stuff every few days. Needless to say, my apartment is a big waste of money. My parents may kill me if I move in with him before we're married though....
 
We talk everyday, email all day at work, and text too. So far, we manage to see each other once a week, but I think we would like to try for more.
 
We have been together for 1 year and 5 months. At the beginning, we saw one another every single day. We finally got tired of looking at each other so much and now we are together about 4 times a week. We check in by email during the work day as well.
 
I don't technically have a SO yet, but I'm dating someone and I think about him all the time and lately we find ourselves trying to see more of each other. So far we prob see each other about 2x a wk and it may not be for a long time. We both think if we get more serious that we'd be inseparable.
 
I feel you should talk to each other at least once a day. The man I will settle down with and married better be very attentive. I don't want to get married and have to look to my son for male attention because my husband is inattentive.
 
my SO complains about the lack of time we spend together. we've been together abotu 4 years. he can't stay at my place right now and i can't stand the inconvenience of staying at his house. we only live 15 minutes away from each other. i stay over his apt about 2 nights a week. we text all day everyday which doesn't leave much for us to talk about on the phone.
 
weaveologist said:
How often do you see and talk to your SO?

or

How often do you EXPECT to see and talk to your SO?


I'm trying to figure out if I am just too needy....
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We talk every day. Usually multiple times. How often we see each other depends on schedules though. Usually it's twice a week, sometimes more, some times less. When we first started dating it was more than that but it has slowed down. We both usually work two jobs and weekends (I'm only working one at the moment until I find another part time job) so sometimes our schedules are wacky. It seemed like when I was working more hours we'd see each other more though because he'd come see me at work or I'd come see him at work.
 
ButterCaramel said:
Yes it is. But fortunately our work is bringing us together permanantly next month
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That's great news! I bet you can't wait.

Country gal said:
I feel you should talk to each other at least once a day. The man I will settle down with and married better be very attentive. I don't want to get married and have to look to my son for male attention because my husband is inattentive.
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ITA with Country gal. Dh and I have spoken to each other at least once every day since we first started dating seriously. I can't imagine going a day or two without hearing his voice or knowing what he's doing. It is hard if he is out of the country and the time dif is wacky but he always finds a way. It works best when you both need about the same amount of time together (in person and on the phone), otherwise it would be really stressful if you want to talk daily and they can go days without talking to you.
 
itismehmmkay said:
That's how we are. He technically doesn't live w/ me, but we see each other daily.




Is the distance work-related?


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And I also agree that it depends on the relationship and those in it. For local relationships, I'd say a weekly visit (preferably a date) and talking at least half of the week would be good. I personally am needy and like alot of attention.

OP, how often would you like to see and talk to him?
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I am so late at coming back to this thread (I have been very sick) but I talk to my SO about once a day. However there are some weeks where we talk every other day depending on his work schedule. We text alot, but to me, text isn't a satisfying form of communication if I have not talked to you all day. I see him once or twice a week. I don't have numbers for how many times I'd like to talk to see him, but the current number isn't satisfying me at all.

I try to keep in mind that his work schedule is funky (he is on call and leaves for two days at a time when he is called), so plays a huge part.
 
Tami2shoes said:
my SO complains about the lack of time we spend together. we've been together abotu 4 years. he can't stay at my place right now and i can't stand the inconvenience of staying at his house. we only live 15 minutes away from each other. i stay over his apt about 2 nights a week. we text all day everyday which doesn't leave much for us to talk about on the phone.
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This is what I was thinking, after so long, what is there to talk about that you haven't talked about already but how your day went. Espiacally when you aren't living together.
 
One of my standards is to talk with a SO every day or communiate via email or text. I don't want to have to hunt you down or call you all the time. If a guy can;t understad that than bump him. I recently had a situation where I was always reaching out to him daily so than I stopped. He would call every other day or text message.
 
I dont mind communicating everyday but as far as seeing eachother 4-5 times a week is okay with me. Another huge reason why its hard to get serious with someone is because I like to be alone a lot, and most men take it entirely the wrong way even when I explain.
 
I think talking to and seeing your significant other should come naturally. There shouldn't be a set amount of times that you both should call or initiate seeing each other. Whenever you want to see each other or talk to each other, communicate and express it at that very moment.

And I'm like Billsbackerz, I like to have my "me time". Right now, I'm in a relationship with a guy, and I am satisfied whether I see him 4 times a week or more or just once a week. I can go a day or two without talking to him as well. But everyone is different. However, you just have to know where you stand with your significant other.
 
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aliceo said:
We've been together 2.5 years. At the beginning I saw him about 4 times per week, but talking everyday. Now I stay at his house every night. I go home to get stuff every few days. Needless to say, my apartment is a big waste of money. My parents may kill me if I move in with him before we're married though....
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I can identify with this. Having conservative parents is the pits. Anyway to answer your question OP, I see my SO pretty much every day, for anywhere from just sitting together in the Japanese class we have together, to hanging out for hours and hours. I practically live at his place anyway, I only come home to sleep :lachen:. We're not big talking on the phone people, but we text a lot. It really just depends on what's going on in our lives, but for the most part, we're inseparable. :love2:
 
BillsBackerz67 said:
I dont mind communicating everyday but as far as seeing eachother 4-5 times a week is okay with me. Another huge reason why its hard to get serious with someone is because I like to be alone a lot, and most men take it entirely the wrong way even when I explain.
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This is me too. My new SO wants to cling to me and I hate feeling like I may be hurting his feelings when it's really 'Just One of Them Days'. He gave a little 'tude, just a little bit this week one night when he asked if I was coming over and I told him no. I feel things can really be great between us, but there is gonna have to be some adjustment to his expectations..at least while we are still in the boyfriend/girlfriend stage. I don't think he's used to a girl who likes her space and has other things going on. Because he seems to have such intense feelings though, I'm fearing he's going to formally ask me to move in with him soon, just so he can see me like he wants. He's already hinted but I think it was more about seeing my reaction to those hints and i really didn't give him one. We shall see.

The great thing about me taking my space is when I do see him, I really really show him and let him know how much I appreciate him being in my life. And after days of missing me, he becomes pretty ravenous..and I like it :grin:
 
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