Ladies i need to vent.....

He's an emotional abuser; he probably has some sort of mood disorder and he's quite possibly a narcissist. :nono:

In other words: RUN!!!!!!!

I'm serious.

The confusion that you are experiencing is very normal; skilled manipulators are very good at putting on airs and pulling people into their world; they are smooth and charming....but then they turn on you like a scorpion and you feel the sting, which appears to come out of nowhere and you're left wondering what the hell just happened.....

And you can't make sense of it all.
You know why?
Because you can't make sense outta nonsense!

That's it. Nothing more, nothing less.

So don't even try to figure it out any more, playing things over and over in your mind wondering where you went wrong or what you could have done differently.

You did nothing wrong!
You had it going on (and still do!), you are smart, beautiful, gifted and talented, you were kind enough and sweet enough, all of that.

There was nothing you could have said or done differently, cause it was never about you.

It was all about him, and that's just the way it is in the world of a self absorbed, self centered narcissist.

So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, give yourself a pat on the back, and thank God for allowing you to walk away from this with your sanity!

You're gonna be alright, sweetie, trust and believe that.:yep:

I know you feel wounded right now, but believe me, you only experienced a glimmer of what an emotionally abusive person can do to one's soul.....it ain't nothing nice.

Oh and by the way, he's coming back for you.
After a little time has passed and you are not calling him or paying him any mind, he's coming back.

He will give you some song and dance about missing you and wanting to get back with you....and he'll be smooth with it.
Hell, he may even call you up out of the blue and start a conversation with you as if nothing ever happened.....


Giiirrrllll, I'm telling you now, don't fall for it!
Ignore him and don't feed into his foolishness.

Just brace yourself, cause its coming.


So chin up; stay strong and keep your eye on the prize.
You're gonna make it and you're gonna be just fine!


Take care of yourself,

Minx
 
Minx said:
He's an emotional abuser; he probably has some sort of mood disorder and he's quite possibly a narcissist. :nono:

In other words: RUN!!!!!!!

I'm serious.

The confusion that you are experiencing is very normal; skilled manipulators are very good at putting on airs and pulling people into their world; they are smooth and charming....but then they turn on you like a scorpion and you feel the sting, which appears to come out of nowhere and you're left wondering what the hell just happened.....

And you can't make sense of it all.
You know why?
Because you can't make sense outta nonsense!

That's it. Nothing more, nothing less.

So don't even try to figure it out any more, playing things over and over in your mind wondering where you went wrong or what you could have done differently.

You did nothing wrong!
You had it going on (and still do!), you are smart, beautiful, gifted and talented, you were kind enough and sweet enough, all of that.

There was nothing you could have said or done differently, cause it was never about you.

It was all about him, and that's just the way it is in the world of a self absorbed, self centered narcissist.

So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, give yourself a pat on the back, and thank God for allowing you to walk away from this with your sanity!

You're gonna be alright, sweetie, trust and believe that.:yep:

I know you feel wounded right now, but believe me, you only experienced a glimmer of what an emotionally abusive person can do to one's soul.....it ain't nothing nice.

Oh and by the way, he's coming back for you.
After a little time has passed and you are not calling him or paying him any mind, he's coming back.

He will give you some song and dance about missing you and wanting to get back with you....and he'll be smooth with it.
Hell, he may even call you up out of the blue and start a conversation with you as if nothing ever happened.....


Giiirrrllll, I'm telling you now, don't fall for it!
Ignore him and don't feed into his foolishness.

Just brace yourself, cause its coming.


So chin up; stay strong and keep your eye on the prize.
You're gonna make it and you're gonna be just fine!


Take care of yourself,

Minx
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he may just be emotionally unavailable and not a narcissist. narcissist people are no joke they're completely soulless and heartless i'd like to have a lil more faith in people than labelling them that
 
Chitowncutie81 said:
Ladies im sorry that i keep talking about it. Everytime i feel better and sane, i tear myself back down. Im trying not to beat myself up.

I cant lie, yesterday i found my cell phone call logs online and retrieved his number. I called him, and i felt like i needed closure. I asked him how did he change his feelings over night? I asked him if he ever truely had any feelings for me? He didnt answer the questions......He kept saying that we were going to be friends and see how it goes. I told him that i wouldnt be his friend because i have feelings for him and i would be too hurt being his friend. But he keeps saying we are going to just be friends for now and does not want a relationship with me right now....wow just last week you did! He started yelling do you want to be friends or not cause i dont have time for this! I just hung up the phone, and he called right back and asked again. No i wont be his friend.

I guess im just tramatized from this experience. Since Him and i talked so much i developed trust and dependency on a guy that was no good for me. I started to think he was my friend. I know that i am still a little niave, and i see too much good in people. I feel that i will have some emotional bagdage after this situaiton.
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Okay, he played you. He reeled you in by pretending that he cared for you. You trusted and believed in a personality that was not real. Now, this is the real him. Believe it.

And just so you know, a lot of men use online dating as a meat market. There are so many women at their disposal that they are looking to hook up with as many as possible. They are not thinking about settling down.
 
Sweetie, I'm so sorry and know how hard it is to be disappointed like that. My advice is to get all of the crying out and find a way to move on. Join an organization, find about 5-10 good books to read back to back and get distracted. Thank God, that relationship was less than 3mths.
 
im sayin this to you as i would any one of my divas...

him leaving was a blessing in ddisguise---i wanna call him for you and tell him effoutta here ****....deuces!!!
 
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