Latomian
New Member
I've been broken up with my ex-bf for a couple of months now but every once in a while he calls and wants to talk about what went wrong in our relationship.
We were together for four years but I found out, for a good part of our relationship, he would constantly flirt with other women. Whether it be in person, myspace, facebook, whatever. That morning, his phone went off at 5am and on the screen, it was a message that said, "I miss you too," from a woman who he used to mess with before we got together
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He also wrote a childhood friend that he "always thought she was the most beautiful woman in the world," but then told me that it's not possible that a man think his woman is the most beautiful in the world, which is why he never told me I was beautiful
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Yet, he wrote to different women they were beautiful or had nice bodies (many who were bigger than me) all the while he was trying to get me to join Weight Watchers right after my ovarian surgery to get the weight off asap
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After all of this came out, on his computer I found pictures of half-naked women and he claims that they just sent him the pics, he didn't ask them to
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He told another ex that when she got in town to hit him up so they could pick up where they left off and then claimed that he wasn't serious
.
One girl told him that his relationship with me wasn't going to last and he just responded that he "wasn't sure.
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It was like a domino effect; once one came out, they all came pouring out and because he never slept with any other them or kissed them or whatever, he doesn't see any wrongdoing in that.
So now, he calls me quite frequently to figure out what went wrong and what's wrong with what he said to those women (to name a few) since he never messed with them. So, isn't this considered cheating?
I personally think it is and I just figured most women thought this way too. I'm thinking of just sending him this thread so that he can stop telling me that I'm being irrational and am "throwing away" a good man!!!!
Sry...the pain is still fresh...four years!!! Ugh, and my family sided with him![Cry3 :cry3: :cry3:](/smilies/cry3.gif)
![Cry2 :cry2: :cry2:](/smilies/cry2.gif)
![Crying3 :crying3: :crying3:](/smilies/crying3.gif)
Also, leaving those opportunities open is what I think made it so easy for him to finally cheat...and refuse to tell me until weeks later and 20 mins of silence and crying.![Ohwell :ohwell: :ohwell:](/smilies/ohwell.gif)
We were together for four years but I found out, for a good part of our relationship, he would constantly flirt with other women. Whether it be in person, myspace, facebook, whatever. That morning, his phone went off at 5am and on the screen, it was a message that said, "I miss you too," from a woman who he used to mess with before we got together
![Cry3 :cry3: :cry3:](/smilies/cry3.gif)
He also wrote a childhood friend that he "always thought she was the most beautiful woman in the world," but then told me that it's not possible that a man think his woman is the most beautiful in the world, which is why he never told me I was beautiful
![Cry3 :cry3: :cry3:](/smilies/cry3.gif)
Yet, he wrote to different women they were beautiful or had nice bodies (many who were bigger than me) all the while he was trying to get me to join Weight Watchers right after my ovarian surgery to get the weight off asap
![Cry3 :cry3: :cry3:](/smilies/cry3.gif)
After all of this came out, on his computer I found pictures of half-naked women and he claims that they just sent him the pics, he didn't ask them to
![Cry3 :cry3: :cry3:](/smilies/cry3.gif)
He told another ex that when she got in town to hit him up so they could pick up where they left off and then claimed that he wasn't serious
![Sad :sad: :sad:](/smilies/sad.gif)
One girl told him that his relationship with me wasn't going to last and he just responded that he "wasn't sure.
![Sad :sad: :sad:](/smilies/sad.gif)
It was like a domino effect; once one came out, they all came pouring out and because he never slept with any other them or kissed them or whatever, he doesn't see any wrongdoing in that.
So now, he calls me quite frequently to figure out what went wrong and what's wrong with what he said to those women (to name a few) since he never messed with them. So, isn't this considered cheating?
I personally think it is and I just figured most women thought this way too. I'm thinking of just sending him this thread so that he can stop telling me that I'm being irrational and am "throwing away" a good man!!!!
Sry...the pain is still fresh...four years!!! Ugh, and my family sided with him
![Cry3 :cry3: :cry3:](/smilies/cry3.gif)
![Cry2 :cry2: :cry2:](/smilies/cry2.gif)
![Crying3 :crying3: :crying3:](/smilies/crying3.gif)
Also, leaving those opportunities open is what I think made it so easy for him to finally cheat...and refuse to tell me until weeks later and 20 mins of silence and crying.
![Ohwell :ohwell: :ohwell:](/smilies/ohwell.gif)