PositivelyBeautiful
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I'm single and recently I've started dating a new guy. On paper he's great - attractive, from the same background as me, educated, likes the same music and film as me, can hold a conversation, faithful, caring, considerate. However, I just feel that there's no 'spark' there. We've been on a few dates that have not ended badly but I haven't felt a burning desire to go on another date with him either. My sexual desire for him is pretty much non existant. He's pretty awful at communicating (randomly stops communicating for weeks at a time but when I ask about it says he doesn't want to lose me and was just busy) and still lives at home with his mom, but I've really been trying to overlook that because he has so many other good qualities.
I hope this doesn't come across as too confusing. I'm just wondering if it's important to have a 'spark'? Or am I being unreasonable? Should I 'settle' (for want of a better word), because I know that he's most of the things I want on paper? I'm 23 and well educated but I've been single a long time and worry about becoming a lonely old lady with only cats for company.
I hope this doesn't come across as too confusing. I'm just wondering if it's important to have a 'spark'? Or am I being unreasonable? Should I 'settle' (for want of a better word), because I know that he's most of the things I want on paper? I'm 23 and well educated but I've been single a long time and worry about becoming a lonely old lady with only cats for company.