Is love enough??

Poohbear said:
You should take your father's advice in this situation.

How is he your best friend? How is he a good guy? And who said if you let him go that you would be with a guy that cheats all the time? :perplexed
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I was thinking the same thing....and furthermore, if that were the case, if she doesn't agree with cheating men why would she stay?

Zuleika said:
There's no way this story is real. No way. :nono:
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I wonder what Steve Harvey and Shirley Strawberry would have to say about this scenario...:nono:


EbonyTresses said:
I KNOW if I stay with him, I would regret it, because I regret getting back together with him on valentine's day after we broke up for the same reasons. I've always had doubts, but sometimes I tell my doubts to hush because I'm like that with everyone I meet. My family always laughs saying that I don't keep them around for long, but how can I when they have issues that im not comfortable with? I guess I need to pick them better, and stop inviting everyone I like to family gatherings, etc.

My father always told me, "Never let your sympathy for a man, outweigh your interest."And at this point...it does. My dad already gave his opinion, "kick him to the curb." lol. I think what makes it so hard for me is the fact that he's my best friend, and vice versa and I don't want to hurt him. He's been in so many bad relationships and he's a good guy. He always says if it doesnt work between us, he's done with dating..and I think he might even consider suicide (he's attempted in his past). Oh yeah...Number 8 or 9 I forget: He's bipolar.

And then it's the fact that he's faithful. I know all men aren't cheaters, but I don't want to let him go for a guy that cheats all time :perplexed
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This reminds me of that episode of Girlfriends when Joan and Ellis were breaking up and he mentioned that they really never were a great fit and needed to be honest about that fact. He said he felt like it was over for a long time but he just didn't want to be another one of the guys she kept $#*#@ing about that did 'poor old Joan' wrong.
 
The answer is "BOY BYE!" I'm just shocked you started anything intimate with this type of character in the first place. Please take sometime to reflect on the what, how and why's of even entertaining someone in such a losing situation from day one. I'm not saying he doesn't deserve love and happy ever after but he needs someone on his same level or lay up off the gubment mentality so they can combine resource w/o the financial imbalance.

Oh snap I forgot to ask how it feels being a cougar?
 
No love is not enough. That guy doesn't even have his own basic needs covered. Run Forrest Run.

Plus it seems like his only ambition right now is waiting on a decision from Social Security. Nah Sis.
 
firecracker said:
The answer is "BOY BYE!" I'm just shocked you started anything intimate with this type of character in the first place. Please take sometime to reflect on the what, how and why's of even entertaining someone in such a losing situation from day one. I'm not saying he doesn't deserve love and happy ever after but he needs someone on his same level or lay up off the gubment mentality so they can combine resource w/o the financial imbalance.

Oh snap I forgot to ask how it feels being a cougar?
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You make a good point firecracker. Op, I know I take too much from people and I attract people that are prone to take advantage of that.

At 32, I've learned and am learning to speak up for myself, say no, and not be afraid to hurt people's feelings.

I also spend a lot of time thinking about why I pit up with certain things and trying to change my mindset about what I deserve.

A lot of my mentality stem from my religious background and feeling that if I put others before me they will do the same for me. I've found that not to be true in many cases.

I don't know how old you are but there is so much you can learn from this experience.

Now that I have kids I think to myself, what would I think my child would deserve. Would I want him to make this kind of sacrifice? Etc.
 
dang..the dyck ain't even good huh..usually when all else fails thats all they have :lol: what in da hell u with him for?? plenty of men out there for u.
 
firecracker said:
The answer is "BOY BYE!" I'm just shocked you started anything intimate with this type of character in the first place. Please take sometime to reflect on the what, how and why's of even entertaining someone in such a losing situation from day one. I'm not saying he doesn't deserve love and happy ever after but he needs someone on his same level or lay up off the gubment mentality so they can combine resource w/o the financial imbalance.

Oh snap I forgot to ask how it feels being a cougar?
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firecracker - I don't think she's a cougar. :giggle:

Her profile says she is 28 years old (my age! :blush:). So that means her man must be 41 years old.
 
I'm glad you made your decision but I would never have taken a grown 41 year old man $100 of my money and given him a ride to his carnival job.

Is love enough - NO!

I cannot even believe you spent 5 months financially supporting a 41 year old broke, convict, alcoholic, who is a weed head, has a 2 year old, is mentally ill, is unable to work, is dealing with past molestation issues and the sex is whack. What the heck is the point of dealing with that nonsense?

Heck no, nothing will fall in to place.

With all his flaws, he has no choice but to be sweet, considerate, keep women laughing and to be respectful. The faithful part is likely due to circumstance since the sex is admittedly whack.

How the heck did this Kang convince you that he was a prize??? Seriously, I need to understand how the Kang stuff works.
 
ThickHair said:
Hey EbonyTresses you were the one who put your life out there all like that not me. BTW it is entertaining since none of it is really necessary. Know your worth.
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Twice!

OP I don't think people are entertained by your personal life. More confused, surprised, and sad that a year later not only are you in the same situation, you don't appear to have grown at all, in fact it sounds like it's even worse.

Forget dude, you need counseling because what you're describing is not good and every moment you stay in it is causing you harm that may turn out to be irreparable.
 
ThickHair said:
Hey EbonyTresses you were the one who put your life out there all like that not me. BTW it is entertaining since none of it is really necessary. Know your worth.
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We just don't want to mock people who truly have no clue and legitimately are humbling themselves for insight. I know it's hard not to judge especially when the BS meter starts going off, but this should be a place where no one feels mocked right? :)
 
Lenee925 said:
We just don't want to mock people who truly have no clue and legitimately are humbling themselves for insight. I know it's hard not to judge especially when the BS meter starts going off, but this should be a place where no one feels mocked right? :)
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I agree but from what I can tell (didn't read it before the big delete) OP posted almost the exact same post as she did a year ago. I remember her story clearly because I was a bit stunned by it the first time around.

Her post would have been better recieved if she had acknowledged that she wrote about this situation a year ago and was still in stall.

EbonyTresses if you're still reading this thread, there are some wise, wonderful, kind women on this forum. If you come from a place of sincerity and honesty, this can be a place where you can vent and gather insights.
 
ambergirl said:
I agree but from what I can tell (didn't read it before the big delete) OP posted almost the exact same post as she did a year ago. I remember her story clearly because I was a bit stunned by it the first time around.

Her post would have been better recieved if she had acknowledged that she wrote about this situation a year ago and was still in stall.

EbonyTresses if you're still reading this thread, there are some wise, wonderful, kind women on this forum. If you come from a place of sincerity and honesty, this can be a place where you can vent and gather insights.
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This was so sincere:yep:
 
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