I had to come back to say ITA to your post... mainly because of the personal accountability that comes from that 'ah-ha moment' through the Holy Spirit. Good point... A person could hear the Word over and over and not get 'it' until they 'hear it' for themselves, and that comes through spiritual hearing. Guarding the heart - keeping guard of the Gates - is work that requires determination.
Again, everyone's growth is different because everyone has a different weakness.
I recall my pastor mentioned some 'revelry' verses, and I'll post some. Like Prudent1 so deftly put it, who is getting the Glory is key and there are ways to fellowship that's just as fun. I don't have to be so puffed up or so stiff that I can't enjoy the Lord with music that glorifies Him.
Satan didn't create Music...
Romans 13:13
Let us walk honestly, as in the day; not in rioting and drunkenness, not in chambering and wantonness, not in strife and envying.
Luke 21:34
"Be on guard, so that your hearts will not be weighted down with dissipation and drunkenness and the worries of life, and that day will not come on you suddenly like a trap;
Galatians 5:21 envying, drunkenness, carousing, and things like these, of which I forewarn you, just as I have forewarned you, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.