It actually just means that you truly did love him. In today's society many people say love like they say hello. It's meaning fleeting as soon as the moment passes. When you truly love someone it is not limited to the time that you are happy with that person or the relationship is still in existence. It always just is. This is not to say that you need to be with someone who you love. A well managed life is not just about flying on the wind blowing feelings. It is also about discernment responsibility and understanding with oneself as they interact in situations they face. Only you and him can really know if it(you loving him) means something extra. Only the two of you know if you really made a mistake and need to be back together. The point is, how you feel is normal. Real love doesn't expire and it isn't dependent on the state of the relationship.
I missed, literally
*yearned* for my first love for YEARS after we broke up. He was my HS sweetheart, and when he left my life, I literally felt like a part of me was gone and dead ... There's no other way for me to explain it. In my early 20's I especially yearned for him, other dudes would come and go, but I
*always* thought about him. He moved out of state and I lost contact with him but I still had a feeling of restlessness b/c I didn't know how he was doing, I just wanted to speak to him to tell him how I felt. Last year, in May, I was able to get in contact with him, and the first thing he told me was that he still loves me and thinks about me from time to time. However, he has a girlfriend that he lives with. Our phone conversations really did help me to move on and get some real closure, b/c I realized that it's just not meant to be and to move on. I also realized that our values are different and that things probably wouldn't work anyway. About 2 months after speaking to him he found out that his girlfriend was preggers and even the way he felt about that kinda turned me off. She recently had the baby in Feb and he called me
. I feel we have nothing to discuss now, move on with your life and be good to your son's mother.
In any event, this is all to say that it took me
8 years to get over him, all I needed was closure.
Other dudes, I could care less about... that's how I know I really did love him and it def wasn't a lust thing only, he was my best friend.
