i didn't say anybody can say absolutely everything and the person on the receiving end can shake it off and get over it. hell, don't get over anything. i just don't care that much. yeah, when someone says something horrible they are responsible for the crap they are spewing and in an ideal world they'd shut up. but the "victim" can be in control of how deeply they allow that person words to affect them. some words are harder to "shake off" than others but i don't think creamy crack is even up there with the words, "n*igger", "bytch", "whore" etc.
the term creamy crack was obviously started by some random chick on the internet a little while ago. excuse me if i feel that some people shouldn't give the person who made the term, and those who use it, so much power that they should be very upset when it is used. while others get mad for thinking it's unfair for someone to align them relaxing to someone with a crack addition, i just think it's real dumb to even try and make the association. hence, why i think the term is silly and view it as powerless. i do not use the term myself.
I agree with the bolded. I hesitate to even make a comment in the threads that seem to take on a debate-like air because I enjoy conversations that revolve around hair care tips only. This conversation, however, struck a chord.
I can understand how this term can be like nails on a chalkboard, but think about it, it would be
way worse if someone attached an equally offensive word at the end of it. Now
that I would find offensive! I've never used this word myself, but I have snickered over it - once, and then it became just that - a word that didn't even deserve my attention because it seemed so minute. Heck, even some naturals find it offensive if they hear another natural say "nappy".
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There's always going to be words like this, and once they're released, they have a mind of their own. But I get how you ladies feel. I don't see how any relaxed head on this board could have that word attached to them though, considering a lot of you stretch for weeks at a time. I never did that when I was relaxed. It was like clockwork for me- every 6 weeks. So I guess I was a victim of the "creamy crack " addiction, and I would be a hypocrite if I tried to fling that word around now.
Like one of my co-workers said when someone flung a nasty word her way,"I don't care. People say stuff like that to me all the time. I don't allow it to get to me because I know in the end they will have to answer for it (hopefully, in this case it shouldn't be that serious). They don't even deserve my time or energy. I've got more important things in my life to deal with than subscribing to negativity!"
Let's all make an effort to squash the negative words before one day we log on here and LHCF puts up a sign saying, "Gone Fishing!"