I'm scared of doing it for the first time!

Penspringz

Penspringz

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I just posted how I can't use tampons because they hurt and that reminded me of a little issue I have. :perplexed
I'm a virgin. I have come close to having intercourse several times but stop because I'm scared of the pain. :nono: I am looking forward to being fully sexually active but I just can't get past the pain I will feel the first few times. My other issue is that my SO is quite well endowed so I'm like "ouch" that's really going to hurt. He's not pressuring me or anything, infact we're probably going to wait until marriage but I would want my wedding night to be pleasurable not painful!
My cousin suggested a vibrator but isn't that going to hurt even more? I feel really nervous about putting anything up there! What can I do? How painful is it, really? :sad:
 
I think most women don't have any severe pain.
Me on the other hand, I had sooooooo much pain the first time :crazy: I couldn't insert a tampon either before I got sexually active. Heck, even now it doesn't feel comfortable to me, 20 years later :lachen:

With the right man, under the right circumstances it will be fine :)
 
I enjoyed my first time *cough* KY *cough*

My partner was extremely patient and it wasn't nearly as bad as people tried to make it seem. Speak openly with your partner so that they understand what you need to be comfy :)
 
It is a pain but a good pain. Girl I have been with my man for 5 years and it is still painful at times because he is also well endowed :0). It is really hard to describe how it feels though. Have you ever masturbated with just clitioral stimulation? When you and your man do decide to have intercourse make sure that you are extremely wet.
 
Radianthealth said:
I enjoyed my first time *cough* KY *cough*

My partner was extremely patient and it wasn't nearly as bad as people tried to make it seem. Speak openly with your partner so that they understand what you need to be comfy :)
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Have you talked about your fear of the pain with intercourse?
It's not too bad, as long as your SO doesn't go crazy.
Have the discussion with him about is soon if you haven't already :yep:
 
My first partner was also very understanding. It still hurt ... quite a bit, but he tried to make it as comfortable as possible.

"Moisture" wasnt the problem...
 
I was scared to lose mines after hearing about the pain as well. If its really too much for you, then I suggest getting a set of dilators to practice with and some Astroglide or KY Jelly.
 
Girl, we all are. My first time was not comfortable at all, but when you get use to it you'll be beggin for it daily, keep this post for future memories - Use lots of lubricants and tell him to go slow and be gentle!
 
FlowerHair said:
I think most women don't have any severe pain.
Me on the other hand, I had sooooooo much pain the first time :crazy: I couldn't insert a tampon either before I got sexually active. Heck, even now it doesn't feel comfortable to me, 20 years later :lachen:

With the right man, under the right circumstances it will be fine :)
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Really?? Something must have been wrong with me.
 
natural2008 said:
It is a pain but a good pain. Girl I have been with my man for 5 years and it is still painful at times because he is also well endowed :0). It is really hard to describe how it feels though. Have you ever masturbated with just clitioral stimulation? When you and your man do decide to have intercourse make sure that you are extremely wet.
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Really?? WOW something must have been wrong with me.:lachen:

I will say once you get past the first time it's smooth sailing afterwards.
 
Radianthealth said:
I enjoyed my first time *cough* KY *cough*

My partner was extremely patient and it wasn't nearly as bad as people tried to make it seem. Speak openly with your partner so that they understand what you need to be comfy :)
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I wish I had known about KY then. Its my best friend now.:look:
 
Just tell him to be gentle. Remember it will get better once you get comfortable with your body sexually. Don't expect it to be like it is on tv.
 
natural2008 said:
It is a pain but a good pain. Girl I have been with my man for 5 years and it is still painful at times because he is also well endowed :0). It is really hard to describe how it feels though. Have you ever masturbated with just clitioral stimulation? When you and your man do decide to have intercourse make sure that you are extremely wet.
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I'm worried that my anxiety won't let that happen. As soon as I think it's about to happen, I tense up and possibly dry up too :perplexed
 
I didn't have any pain. I think it's because I started using tampons at an early age (10). I agree with your cousin - use a vibrator beforehand.
 
Penspringz said:
I'm worried that my anxiety won't let that happen. As soon as I think it's about to happen, I tense up and possibly dry up too :perplexed
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Maybe he can give you some intervals of oral stimulation to relax and moisten you.
I feel like I'm going to get in trouble talking like this here.:perplexed
 
its gonna hurt probably , no way around that, it might hurt him too, just take it slow and realize that your working towards something, like the next time and the next time and the next and the next

woooohooo

LOL
 
mine didnt hurt....it was just a weird pressure. He wasnt able to go in fully cuz....ok im getting flashbacks and i dont want to right now lolol......point is...mine didnt hurt
 
Real talk
The first time it hurt like hell...
Second time, it hurt like hell

I waited two years before trying again...:nono:

That may have been just me though...
 
nelcoy said:
GIRL USE THE CONDOM!!!!!!!!!!!!! If it splits get another one. (I'm sorry for yelling at you)
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I'm not sure I will be thinking about changing the condom. Can you tell when it splits? Won't the damage (if any) be already done if it splits inside?
 
lol..I would suggest waiting if you can. Hold out....keep your treasure as long as you can. :grin:...till marriage
 
Penspringz said:
I'm not sure I will be thinking about changing the condom. Can you tell when it splits? Won't the damage (if any) be already done if it splits inside?
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You might feel a pop inside of you. It's hard to explain. I heard that men feel warmth. If it happens, please put another one on. The damage may not have been done, unless he is done or had a lot of pre c*m.
 
Girl please use a condom, girl if it breaks get another one. Hell just keep the box by the bedside. Girl My man and I have used condoms that have broken in me and they come down late the next day. See when the condom breaks, I'm not always sure if there is still some condom up there but the next ady it comes down. After we do the grown up I usually sit in the bath tub for a long time if the condom has broken during intercourse to see if the borken off piece will come down faster but it does not work. I am on birth control and condoms. If he is wel endowed like you say he may be a magnum man and for my man and I those break all the time.
 
saved06 said:
lol..I would suggest waiting if you can. Hold out....keep your treasure as long as you can. :grin:...till marriage
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I probably will wait until my wedding night or at least engagement a few months before the wedding so i can actually enjoy the night.
 
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