LondonDiva
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My friend is a born again Christian, who is abstaining from sex with her fiancee until they marry next summer 2006. They've never had an intimate relationship, they are both Christians. Now my friend has stressed before that co-habiting was also a big no no for her due to her Christian beliefs, which she explained to me and I totally understood.
So fast forward to today. We go out to London Fashion Week, I drop her home to change so we can all go out and get a bite to eat. Her fiancee comes to her house (she lives with her mother, 2 sisters, neice and her sisters Bf) and he opens the door with his own key. I think, funny, then think no more of it. Ok we end up briefly talking about the movie the Passion of the Christ over dinner and that she has it, but mentions over dinner that she knows she needs to fix up and that's one of the reasons she hasn't watched it yet, because she knows the movie is going to make her realise and question a few things about her relationship with God and what she needs to do. I'm thinking to myself, ok we are not all free from sin, but she leads a pretty good Christian life or so I thought so why is she trippin over it. So I drop her home and me and her other sister (who doesn't live with her have to pick up our bags of shopping which she left in her room), and she says something to the effect of, she needs to be quiet otherwise she will wake up "G". And I'm like what he sleeps over? IN YOUR BED!? This explains the key, the slippers being left, him coming in and out of her room and rummaging through things knowing where everything was, it all made sense. I then say "I thought it was against your principles and religion to co-habit before you are married", so she tries to tell me about her practising restraint etc, and was surprised I didn't know. I'm like "girl I don't ask about your personal business pertaining to him, and anyway I know you are against sex before marriage and living together before marriage, so what's to talk about."
It's to the point where she had a single bed in her room and now has a double. I saw the double and commented earlier today, but didn't put 2 and 2 together because as far as I was concerned, missy was against that. If you go to the extremes of moving a single bed out of your room and add a double you know exactly what you are doing. It's not like he misses his bus and has to stay over. Dude practicaly lives there with the Waltons.
I'll be totally honest. I'm not a born again Christian, I don't go to church, I've been celebate for over 2 years now and plan to abstain until I'm married. I Love and respect the Lord and all his teachings and try to lead the best life possible in his eyes. Aside from that I know I'm not perfect, and I know neither is she.
But today I walked away from my friends house feeling EXTREMELY dissapointed in her. This is the second time in a year she has compromised her religious beliefs since being with a man, and it's beginning to annoy me. For example, she always said that for her being with a Christian man was a must. Her ex wasn't Christian when she was, but claimed he was a Catholic, as he had been baptised a Catholic (which was good enough for her), who didn't even go to church or lead a remotely religious lifestyle. When I said to her but he's not even practising, she said that he 's still Christian as he had been baptised into the faith.....Yeah as a baby. An excuse to justify her being with him after she broke her vow of celibacy which was so important to her.
I don't even know what I'm expecting to become of my post, whether I'm looking for some type of answer, is she literally BS'ing and trying to cover her tracks cause she knows she blatantly doing something wrong against her religion, or I'm so peeved that I just need to vent. I know she's not holier than thou, but she talks a good game, and doesn't play by the same rules. When I question her about her original stand on something which she's totally against in the beginning she comes up with an excuse. Maybe I'm pi**ed because she's trying to treat me like some idiot. Don't try to tell me that co-habiting before marriage in God's eyes is wrong, then backtrack and say Oh he sleeps in my bed but we don't do anything. Co-habiting is co-habiting. Doesn't she know that God is always watching.
So fast forward to today. We go out to London Fashion Week, I drop her home to change so we can all go out and get a bite to eat. Her fiancee comes to her house (she lives with her mother, 2 sisters, neice and her sisters Bf) and he opens the door with his own key. I think, funny, then think no more of it. Ok we end up briefly talking about the movie the Passion of the Christ over dinner and that she has it, but mentions over dinner that she knows she needs to fix up and that's one of the reasons she hasn't watched it yet, because she knows the movie is going to make her realise and question a few things about her relationship with God and what she needs to do. I'm thinking to myself, ok we are not all free from sin, but she leads a pretty good Christian life or so I thought so why is she trippin over it. So I drop her home and me and her other sister (who doesn't live with her have to pick up our bags of shopping which she left in her room), and she says something to the effect of, she needs to be quiet otherwise she will wake up "G". And I'm like what he sleeps over? IN YOUR BED!? This explains the key, the slippers being left, him coming in and out of her room and rummaging through things knowing where everything was, it all made sense. I then say "I thought it was against your principles and religion to co-habit before you are married", so she tries to tell me about her practising restraint etc, and was surprised I didn't know. I'm like "girl I don't ask about your personal business pertaining to him, and anyway I know you are against sex before marriage and living together before marriage, so what's to talk about."
It's to the point where she had a single bed in her room and now has a double. I saw the double and commented earlier today, but didn't put 2 and 2 together because as far as I was concerned, missy was against that. If you go to the extremes of moving a single bed out of your room and add a double you know exactly what you are doing. It's not like he misses his bus and has to stay over. Dude practicaly lives there with the Waltons.
I'll be totally honest. I'm not a born again Christian, I don't go to church, I've been celebate for over 2 years now and plan to abstain until I'm married. I Love and respect the Lord and all his teachings and try to lead the best life possible in his eyes. Aside from that I know I'm not perfect, and I know neither is she.
But today I walked away from my friends house feeling EXTREMELY dissapointed in her. This is the second time in a year she has compromised her religious beliefs since being with a man, and it's beginning to annoy me. For example, she always said that for her being with a Christian man was a must. Her ex wasn't Christian when she was, but claimed he was a Catholic, as he had been baptised a Catholic (which was good enough for her), who didn't even go to church or lead a remotely religious lifestyle. When I said to her but he's not even practising, she said that he 's still Christian as he had been baptised into the faith.....Yeah as a baby. An excuse to justify her being with him after she broke her vow of celibacy which was so important to her.
I don't even know what I'm expecting to become of my post, whether I'm looking for some type of answer, is she literally BS'ing and trying to cover her tracks cause she knows she blatantly doing something wrong against her religion, or I'm so peeved that I just need to vent. I know she's not holier than thou, but she talks a good game, and doesn't play by the same rules. When I question her about her original stand on something which she's totally against in the beginning she comes up with an excuse. Maybe I'm pi**ed because she's trying to treat me like some idiot. Don't try to tell me that co-habiting before marriage in God's eyes is wrong, then backtrack and say Oh he sleeps in my bed but we don't do anything. Co-habiting is co-habiting. Doesn't she know that God is always watching.