CaraWalker
Well-Known Member
i dont think i would
i like drinking together
i like drinking together
i could date someone who didnt drink, in fact i think id prefer it. .
this. my SO doesnt drink....he just kinda got over it and he doesnt care that i do. even makes some bomb drinks(used to bartend).I wouldn't care if he doesn't drink. Is he policing my drinking and being preachy about it? Lifestyle differences can break a relationship.
Hmmm, I know I cannot date a non-drinker. I have actually gone out with a man before who claimed to never have had a drop of alcohol ever. I just couldn't keep it going. I drink socially and enjoy getting a little faded every now and then, I can't be the only one drinking all of the time LOL. I actually agree that it's kind of fun to drink with your S.O.
I'm the biggest hypocrite ever on this topic.
I'm very observant of other's drinking habits. I can drink like a fish and am known to get white girl wasted. But as far as other people drinking--it's a major turnoff. Like a big one. I think of subconsciously cut off friends or potentials after seeing them drink more than one drink. In my head alcohol creates a trust issue. I don't trust people that get drunk. It's a control issue. First, I was raised by a family that firmly looks down on social drinking. Our cookouts and family events on both sides of my family were sober gospel-music events. ALL THE TIME. EVERY SINGLE ONE. WITHOUT FAIL. Til this day I have yet to see an elder of my family drink alcohol (although I'm sure a few prob have)--not my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles--nobody. No beer. no wine. EVER. The only relative I know that keeps alcohol in their house is ME--and a couple younger cousins but they don't count.
Secondly, for various reasons, I know that I'm one to get out of control at times. I like and prefer others I know are in control all of the time. Feeling safe is huge to me. I want to do whatever the hell I want and I want someone to be there to protect me in the event things go down hill.
So I guess if someone told me they enjoyed drinking I'd probably stop talking to them or engaging very often. Def no relationship.
eta: a lot of my friends do drink but it's either rare or in small doses. cept for 2 and a half lol. To sum it up., I've never had to be the DD. My friends ont he other hand....well.... *calling SO or Mom--banging on the door tryna figure how to drag my drunk arse up the stairs*
How does this work? Im now a light to nvr drinker and I cant hang hang with my friends who get sloppy. Its not funny or fun for me to have to babysit
Guys this just happened last night. He beat me to the restaurant. When I checked in the hostess immediately offered me the wine list saying that he thought I may like a drink. It was our first date. I met him that morning on the net
I sit down and asked what he was drinking he said he didn't drink. I told him I don't drink either. Well really I don't drink much. I am on occasion a social drinker. Then he told me that when he as in a meeting earlier it was an AA meeting. He said he has been sober for 6yrs. He had great conversation and likes fancy ish. I'm seeing his arse again.