Ian & Larissa

fifi134

fifi134

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John Piper posted this video of this wonderful couple on his site.

I was moved to tears at how faithful Larissa and Ian have been to each other. It's amazing to see how God has been so gracious to them, and you can clearly see the His love in them both. I love stories like this. It reminds me of just how faithful God is to us as well.

http://www.desiringgod.org/blog/posts/the-story-of-ian-larissa
 
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That was beautiful!! That was the perfect example of 1 Corinthians 13 love!
Lawd, I was trying to hold back my tears at work. Glorrryy! :grin:
 
What an inspirational story on True Love!

I like the "Board of Gratefulness" concept... :yep:
 
Wow, what an amazing story of God's love! I cried all through that; tears just kept flowing and flowing.
 
I love the gratefulness board idea too. I might start one with my daughter tonight.

ETA: I'm just curious....do you think they can still consummate their marriage?:look:
 
The vows say through sickness or health...people stay married to people when bad things happen to them. She wanted to honor his intentions. It wouldn't have made a difference if it happened months after the marriage. For some reason this reminds me of Ruth's dedication to Naomi.
 
^^Yeah, she mentioned something about the dying father's wishes they make a decision but it doesn't seem he can exactly express all his feelings...and I think there's an element of guilt, esp. with those nice christian couple friends around. I hope and pray this is G-d's will but if you wanted a family, I couldn't do it. It could be one of two things, 1) actual sacrifice or 2) that the woman has sacrificed her wishes for the will of others. How are they going to make it with the father gone and she can't work? Lots of strain as a caregiver but it's clear she loves him as a person. I just hope she made the right choice for herself.
 
Why does it seem that you don't beleive that she can honestly just LOVE this man, she knew all he was before the accident and knew that he loved her, why is that not enough ...just asking ...



auparavant said:
^^Yeah, she mentioned something about the dying father's wishes they make a decision but it doesn't seem he can exactly express all his feelings...and I think there's an element of guilt, esp. with those nice christian couple friends around. I hope and pray this is G-d's will but if you wanted a family, I couldn't do it. It could be one of two things, 1) actual sacrifice or 2) that the woman has sacrificed her wishes for the will of others. How are they going to make it with the father gone and she can't work? Lots of strain as a caregiver but it's clear she loves him as a person. I just hope she made the right choice for herself.
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Wow...why all the quick assumptions? Why can't it just be that she truly does love him? She said that Ian had made plans to look for wedding rings prior to his accident so most likely they would have ended up married anyway. I'm sure his family knows the real deal behind closed doors. Leave it to LHCF to always look for the negative.
 
NO, it's not that...there were just some skeptical opinions. This is not the first type of story I've heard like this and they proceeded to marry.
 
Iwanthealthyhair67 said:
Why does it seem that you don't beleive that she can honestly just LOVE this man, she knew all he was before the accident and knew that he loved her, why is that not enough ...just asking ...
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I'm not auparavant, but when I watched the video, it just seemed like she married him to save face with his family and friends or to prove to them that she can marry someone despite the secondary needs from a spouse. She really did not look comfortable up there with him. Plus, how could she marry someone that is no longer capable of making decisions for himself anymore? Does he even know that he's married to her? When she asked that question to him at the end of the video, I don't even think he knew what she was asking. He just gave a simple response saying, "God is awesome". I'm sure she loves him but the marriage thing seemed somewhat forced. Not sure how to explain it.
 
Iwanthealthyhair67 said:
Why does it seem that you don't beleive that she can honestly just LOVE this man, she knew all he was before the accident and knew that he loved her, why is that not enough ...just asking ...
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No, I said I'm skeptical and gave the reasons.:yep: I hope it's not from guilt, especially if she felt any kind of social/community pressure to not "ditch" him due to his present state. It's a valid opinion, actually, and I look at it from diff. perspectives. What if she wanted children? Should she marry him despite all this? Were children in the cards for her anyway? Should she sacrifice? Should she reconsider her own life and desires? Any pastor in pre-marital counseling would have made them ask those same hard questions.

It would be a very tough decision for many and I think that if she had decided NOT to marry him, it wouldn't have meant that she were selfish nor had the mind of Christ. I do believe she loves him...and as everything, what's in her best interest? I know of those who caved to the feelings of those around them and ended up making a bad decision for themselves. Others had love that surpassed it all and had a blessed marriage.
 
fifi134 said:
Wow...why all the quick assumptions? Why can't it just be that she truly does love him? She said that Ian had made plans to look for wedding rings prior to his accident so most likely they would have ended up married anyway. I'm sure his family knows the real deal behind closed doors. Leave it to LHCF to always look for the negative.
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So were you expecting everyone to just blindly come in this thread saying, "amazing!" "beautiful!" "lovely" "so Christ-like!" "Now that's true love!" and crying and thanking God for this? Aren't those quick assumptions too?

It's clear that she loved him, but he cannot really communicate anymore.
 
I'm sorry but I didn't see what you saw I saw a happy bride ..she moved into the family home of her own volition wanting to take care of him this is after she knew that he had sustained brain trauma ...

Of course his Father would be concerned whether she was in it for the long haul or not, knowing that he was dying himself who would take care of Ian but, he also wanted to know if Ian could communicate with her that was the deciding factor in the marriage it seems.

He may be slower but that doesn't mean that he can't understand, not answering a direct question is not uncommon we who have all our faculties do that all the time. As long as she loves him and he loves her that should be all that matters...

I think sometimes it takes too much to satisfy us...their love is real and simplistic and God is the center of it which should make all the difference imo.




Poohbear said:
I'm not auparavant, but when I watched the video, it just seemed like she married him to save face with his family and friends or to prove to them that she can marry someone despite the secondary needs from a spouse. She really did not look comfortable up there with him. Plus, how could she marry someone that is no longer capable of making decisions for himself anymore? Does he even know that he's married to her? When she asked that question to him at the end of the video, I don't even think he knew what she was asking. He just gave a simple response saying, "God is awesome". I'm sure she loves him but the marriage thing seemed somewhat forced. Not sure how to explain it.
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iwanthealthyhair, in college there was this gorgeous girl whose boyfriend was obese. I remember students used to criticize or laugh at them..but that couple went everywhere together and seemed very much in love. I admit even I was like, huh? But that was before I got saved and a life in Christ lets us see beyond what is there (not in a negative sense) I mean..really see someone as Christ sees them.

Man looked at the woman at the well as dirty and nasty... Jesus saw a woman of Faith, worthy of being called a Child of God...

David look past the disability of Mephibosheth (Jonathan's son) and saw one worthy of sitting at the King's table...

Zacchaeus was a little man, Jesus looked past that and came to his home for dinner...

Poohbear, it is an inspirational story and it's clear from the woman's testimony itself that they married for love and that's it. I don't know where you got disability check from... girl.. :lol:
 
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I'm not saying that it isn't a valid opinion what I said is her just loving him seems like it wasn't enough...

What if she doesn't want children now or possibly thought about adopting or artificial insemination etc., she should sarcifie is she wants to and it seems to me that she wants to, that is what love is all about 'sacrifice' putting the needs/desire of someone else before hers....

She could have walked when she got the news but she chose to stay...maybe this situation is different from those you know..anyway time will tell and I pray that their love endures...

auparavant said:
No, I said I'm skeptical and gave the reasons.:yep: I hope it's not from guilt, especially if she felt any kind of social/community pressure to not "ditch" him due to his present state. It's a valid opinion, actually, and I look at it from diff. perspectives. What if she wanted children? Should she marry him despite all this? Were children in the cards for her anyway? Should she sacrifice? Should she reconsider her own life and desires? Any pastor in pre-marital counseling would have made them ask those same hard questions.

It would be a very tough decision for many and I think that if she had decided NOT to marry him, it wouldn't have meant that she were selfish nor had the mind of Christ. I do believe she loves him...and as everything, what's in her best interest? I know of those who caved to the feelings of those around them and ended up making a bad decision for themselves. Others had love that surpassed it all and had a blessed marriage.
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Iwanthealthyhair67 said:
I'm not saying that it isn't a valid opinion what I said is her just loving him seems like it wasn't enough...

What if she doesn't want children now or possibly thought about adopting or artificial insemination etc., she should sarcifie is she wants to and it seems to me that she wants to, that is what love is all about 'sacrifice' putting the needs/desire of someone else before hers....

She could have walked when she got the news but she chose to stay...maybe this situation is different from those you know..anyway time will tell and I pray that their love endures...
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Yeah, but you read me differently. I also pray their love endures. Granted, we don't know the couple...but her "love" didn't seem as genuine to me either. I felt she was still in a state of confusion on the matter.
 
I looked at it again... we don't know this couple, you're right... the bolded could be the bittersweet effect, too, don't you think? As in..she's happy to marry him but sad for him that he has to live this way...not necessarily that she is sad to marry him. Hope I'm making sense.. lol



auparavant said:
Yeah, but you read me differently. I also pray their love endures. Granted, we don't know the couple...but her "love" didn't seem as genuine to me either. I felt she was still in a state of confusion on the matter.
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