glamazon386
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OP, I understand. For a period of time I only wore wigs and weaves. I go back and forth between my hair, weaves and wigs now. It was something I had to ease into. It took some time and some getting used to. The weave was a crutch. I had to learn to let it go.
I was self conscious about my short natural hair for a while. It wasn't that I didn't like my hair or it's texture it was the shrinkage that drove me nuts. Now that it's longer I feel more comfortable wearing it out. I wear my own hair more often than extensions now. I do love a weave every now and again but I don't prefer it to my own hair.
It sounds like you're putting too much stress on the hair that's left out to blend. Are you only doing straight weaves? Have you thought about a curly or kinky curly weave? Or maybe a full head weave so that you can put all your hair away.
That may help you ease into wearing your own hair out.
ETA: Another thing OP you mention that your hair is fine/thin, it may just grow like that. That was something I had to get over too. My hair is naturally fine. I get it from my Daddy. Sure it's thicker than it was when it was relaxed and damaged but nowhere as thick as my weaves are. And it never will be. I had to get over it. I'm always surprised when people comment that my hair is thick or I have a lot of hair because in my mind I don't. My hair breaks so easily because it's fine. Sometimes if the wind blows too hard I can hear a strand snap.
But I've learned to deal with it.
I was self conscious about my short natural hair for a while. It wasn't that I didn't like my hair or it's texture it was the shrinkage that drove me nuts. Now that it's longer I feel more comfortable wearing it out. I wear my own hair more often than extensions now. I do love a weave every now and again but I don't prefer it to my own hair.
It sounds like you're putting too much stress on the hair that's left out to blend. Are you only doing straight weaves? Have you thought about a curly or kinky curly weave? Or maybe a full head weave so that you can put all your hair away.
That may help you ease into wearing your own hair out.
ETA: Another thing OP you mention that your hair is fine/thin, it may just grow like that. That was something I had to get over too. My hair is naturally fine. I get it from my Daddy. Sure it's thicker than it was when it was relaxed and damaged but nowhere as thick as my weaves are. And it never will be. I had to get over it. I'm always surprised when people comment that my hair is thick or I have a lot of hair because in my mind I don't. My hair breaks so easily because it's fine. Sometimes if the wind blows too hard I can hear a strand snap.

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