I Turned Down an Engagement

[NappyNelle]

Please don't quote

I just turned down an engagement from a man that I loved. We have been broken up since November, and while I have dated and tried my best to move on, I am immensely sad (and crying) at the moment. My heart was broken, he tried to win it back, but I was too hurt to allow him back in. Does anyone have any encouraging words for me? I'm not really sure why I feel this way, but I know in my heart, I made the right decision by ending things more squarely than before. Thank you.

 

[pookaloo83]

if you feel that you made the right decision then don't think twice.

Sent from my iPhone 4s

 

[Keen]

Just wanted to say kudos for being strong enough to turn him down. Best of luck to you.

 

[LifeafterLHCF]

Hugs my love but if you know you don't love him then its best to not lead him on..you will heal and love that is for you will come again..

 

[NappyNelle]

Thanks so much everyone.

 

[hopeful]

((((hugs)))) You are brave and strong. I'm proud of you.

 

[LiftedUp]

Forgive him for whatever he did not hurt you for yourself. Breakups are hard and the crying and sad times are part of the process *hugs*.

 

[ms.mimi]

You are grieving and that's totally normal. Continue to allow yourself time to grieve, heal and totally get over what has happened.

 

[NappyNelle]

Thank you all for your kind words and love. I have to have faith that I will have a happy marriage to the right man for me in the future.

 

[greenandchic]

 

[tolly]

hugs, I know how intense this can be, focus on the reasons you turned him down and let yourself grieve. I hope you feel better soon.

 

[tinkat]

Everyone has given great advice. What you are feeling is normal and will past.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF

 

[JudithO]

Awwww NappyNelle Hugggss!!

Don't second guess yourself... If you turned it down, I'm sure you had good reason.. Feel free to cry and grieve, but pat your self on the back and reward yourself for staying strong.. *new nail polish?? * .. hehe

 

[Enyo]

I wish I had rejected my ex-husbands proposal. You spared yourself so much pain.

 

[NappyNelle]

Awww thanks! I'm tearing up all over again. I'm so embarrassed for feeling this way, but I know it's for the best.

On a happier note, I have a date tonight with a wonderful guy, so I'm looking forward to looking nice and having a good time.

 

[PeaceFlow]

Sometimes you have to let go of old, unsuitable situations for new, bigger and better things to come.


Depending on how long you had been together you probably need more time to heal from what has happened. I say stop worrying about moving on ASAP and don't blame yourself for being upset right now. Just let the natural process happen.

After that stage is over you can look forward to the future which has endless possibilities

 

[MzLady78]

Awww thanks! I'm tearing up all over again. I'm so embarrassed for feeling this way, but I know it's for the best.

On a happier note, I have a date tonight with a wonderful guy, so I'm looking forward to looking nice and having a good time.

Aww, don't be embarrassed.

Like Enyo mentioned, there's probably plenty of women out here who wished they did the same.

Hope your date goes well, make sure you come back and update. You know we're nosy around here.

 

[Pat Mahurr]

Aww. You made a hard decision! My Dad always says that the right decisions may cost you something up front, but the rewards always outweigh the cost. The wrong decisions reward you up front, then make you pay over and over and over and over....

Anyway, You are exceptional because you listened to that little voice that told you this wasn't the real thing. And down the road, the future YOU will look back with overwhelming gratitude for the choice you just made.

Good luck on your date!

 

[pookaloo83]

Aww. You made a hard decision! My Dad always says that the right decisions may cost you something up front, but the rewards always outweigh the cost. The wrong decisions reward you up front, then make you pay over and over and over and over....
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I like that quote.

Sent from my iPhone 4s

 

[Evolving78]

oh please come back and tell us about your date! i hope you had a fab time!

 

[AfrikanRose]

It can seem like the hardest thing to do, but don't think twice. It was the right thing. Trust me, I know what I speak.