SHORT VERSION: Is it wise to have a hook up and/or relationship with your best friend? why or why not
LONG VERSION: My best friend right now is a guy. We've known each other for 7 years and we know almost everything about each other. For a couple years we stopped talking due to distance but recently we started talking again. Our convos are great and we can stay on the phone for hours (and I am NOT a phone person lol)
The other night he took me to a basketball game. He was a total gentleman and always has been....fast forward to the end of the night...we kissed and sparks flew . SOOO i need some advice...things are perfect right now. We kissed and there's sexual tension now but nothing is official. We could go back to normal but I really like him, more than ever. We exchanged I love you's as best friends. and he's made it crystal clear he wants to be with me in the future especially since his family likes me.
Then yesterday we went a little further physically...we ended up making out in his car and our hands traveled. (dont worry ladies I kept him in line). It was really spontaneous but since he's my best friend i feel like I could tell him anything so I told him i felt like we moved a bit too fast and he agreed. I really like that we are on the same page
So if the opportunity arises, should we start a relationship? My heart is telling me HECK YES but my mind isn't sure...I don't want to mess up a good thing!! He told me that if a relationship doesn't work out between us we would be best friends still no matter what...but I dunno...
Also, another question....we have amazingggg chemistry and I'd eventually wanna hook up with him so should I wait until we're officially boyfriend and girlfriend before we go past kissing? or is it okay for us to mess around while being best friends?
LONG VERSION: My best friend right now is a guy. We've known each other for 7 years and we know almost everything about each other. For a couple years we stopped talking due to distance but recently we started talking again. Our convos are great and we can stay on the phone for hours (and I am NOT a phone person lol)
The other night he took me to a basketball game. He was a total gentleman and always has been....fast forward to the end of the night...we kissed and sparks flew . SOOO i need some advice...things are perfect right now. We kissed and there's sexual tension now but nothing is official. We could go back to normal but I really like him, more than ever. We exchanged I love you's as best friends. and he's made it crystal clear he wants to be with me in the future especially since his family likes me.
Then yesterday we went a little further physically...we ended up making out in his car and our hands traveled. (dont worry ladies I kept him in line). It was really spontaneous but since he's my best friend i feel like I could tell him anything so I told him i felt like we moved a bit too fast and he agreed. I really like that we are on the same page
So if the opportunity arises, should we start a relationship? My heart is telling me HECK YES but my mind isn't sure...I don't want to mess up a good thing!! He told me that if a relationship doesn't work out between us we would be best friends still no matter what...but I dunno...
Also, another question....we have amazingggg chemistry and I'd eventually wanna hook up with him so should I wait until we're officially boyfriend and girlfriend before we go past kissing? or is it okay for us to mess around while being best friends?
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