I think I betta let it go

Danene5

Danene5

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I have been dating this guy for three months. Things didn't even start off well. We had our first date initally after me suggesting that too much time had past and that we needed to go out. He is a man that has 2 full time jobs so finding time can be difficult. We planned a second date which I was going to meet him at the resturant. I get halfway there only find that he has sent me a picture mail. The picture mail was of him in the hospital hooked to an IV pole along with admission and discharge sheets. So of course I had to excuse that the man was ill. The next time we planned a date his sister passed away so he was gone for 1wk to NY for that. I am sad to say that my "alleged" boyfriend and I have only had one day within the past 3 months. I have only seen him 4 times within the past 2 months. I feel that this is so unacceptable. I expressed my feelings to him and he stated that he will try to arrange his schedule as much as he could to accomodate our relationship. Now I can tell when he is on his IM. So I send him messages just to make sure that everything is ok. I receive no response. I call and I still don't receive a response. I expressed that I really need to talk to him to let him know how I feel and that he should come over. To no avail he didn't. The only reason I wanted him to come over was to break up with him. How do I break up with a man that won't return any form of communication? My heart is just so hardened by this but what can I do it his his fault that he can't find time. He lies and says that he will come over and he doesn't and doesn't even give a courtesy call. What would you ladies to if you were in my situation?
 
Danene5 said:
I expressed my feelings to him and he stated that he will try to arrange his schedule as much as he could to accomodate our relationship. Now I can tell when he is on his IM. So I send him messages just to make sure that everything is ok. I receive no response. I call and I still don't receive a response. I expressed that I really need to talk to him to let him know how I feel and that he should come over. To no avail he didn't. The only reason I wanted him to come over was to break up with him. How do I break up with a man that won't return any form of communication? My heart is just so hardened by this but what can I do it his his fault that he can't find time. He lies and says that he will come over and he doesn't and doesn't even give a courtesy call. What would you ladies to if you were in my situation?
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He doesn't give you the courtesy of a reply IM or call, so I don't think it matters if you call to "break up" with him. Likely, if you don't call him, he won't call you. He's very inconsiderate. You deserve better.

..and he does have time for an IM or a phone call. So, don't kid yourself into calling him a boyfriend. A "boyfriend" would be breaking his neck to see you, talk to you, and keep in touch with you. This IS his fault.

In your situation? I'd avoid him like the plague.

{{hugs}}
 
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Yep, at this point you don't even owe him a break up.. You don't owe him anything.
how about you just text him and tell him you all are through.
Oh yes, and for him to have a great life..:grin:
 
From my past experiences, if a man doesn't reply to your messages or calls, he's over you.
I remember when i used to call a guy and mysteriously he would never pick up and i would text him and he would never respond.....hmm. i mean he can't be THAT busy.
Now, when a guy is really interested in me, he will pick up all my flippin calls no matter what lol. If i tell him to call me in a text, one second later, he better be ringin up my cell no matter what hes doin. :rolleyes:
 
It doesn't seem like it was anything in the first place. He's not interested. Don't even bother calling anymore.
 
How...wait. He's in the hospital within hours or minutes of your arranged meeting. So ill that he needs an IV. But has the wherewithall to take a picture, scan and email his hospital papers and send it to you. That does not make a damn bit-o-sense-to-me.

But it does remind me of this guy I met online from NJ. I said from NJ. He flys out here. We hang out, the next day he feigns of all things internal bleeding in his head. He too is in the hospital with an IV. They give everyone an IV, so they can charge you later.

He asked me to take a picture of him. I'm like for what? He says "because I can't believe I came all the way to Texas and got sick" Now who knows what he did with that picture. There was absolutely nothing wrong with him. Oh yes it was, the doctor said he had a sinus headache.

I quickly discerned that this was my first sighting of the male species of a drama king. Last name. KING. From NJ. Anywho.... everytime we went to a restaurant he would eat and promptly began making faces like he was dying. The manager would come over and he would say, "I think I just need to leave." He wasn't trying at all to get out of the bill. He was just forever on stage.

Just a nut case. From NJ. Last name KING.
 
Danene5 said:
I have been dating this guy for three months. Things didn't even start off well. We had our first date initally after me suggesting that too much time had past and that we needed to go out. He is a man that has 2 full time jobs so finding time can be difficult. We planned a second date which I was going to meet him at the resturant. I get halfway there only find that he has sent me a picture mail. The picture mail was of him in the hospital hooked to an IV pole along with admission and discharge sheets. So of course I had to excuse that the man was ill. The next time we planned a date his sister passed away so he was gone for 1wk to NY for that. I am sad to say that my "alleged" boyfriend and I have only had one day within the past 3 months. I have only seen him 4 times within the past 2 months. I feel that this is so unacceptable. I expressed my feelings to him and he stated that he will try to arrange his schedule as much as he could to accomodate our relationship. Now I can tell when he is on his IM. So I send him messages just to make sure that everything is ok. I receive no response. I call and I still don't receive a response. I expressed that I really need to talk to him to let him know how I feel and that he should come over. To no avail he didn't. The only reason I wanted him to come over was to break up with him. How do I break up with a man that won't return any form of communication? My heart is just so hardened by this but what can I do it his his fault that he can't find time. He lies and says that he will come over and he doesn't and doesn't even give a courtesy call. What would you ladies to if you were in my situation?
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This dude has a really rough life:rolleyes::look::ohwell::perplexed

Honey you can;t break up with someone you were never with... This sounds like a classic case of " He's just not that into you"

I have been there honey, in fact i am there now and it is even harder when dude is steady telling you that he wants to see you, yet his actions are totally different.

Anyman who truly wants you, will call you to at least let you know that he is sick. Heck he may even want u to come support him if he is that sick. Just think about it this way, if you progressed and stay with him, he has shown he can't be trusted. What happens if he pulls this type of stunt when bills are due?

Time to ditch the dead weight, delete his sn of your messenger and lets move on together.:yep:
 
Leave this immature *boy* who was not your *friend* alone. You deserve much more.

Judging from the drama *King* from another post, we could compile a book of all of the crazy folk we've met and attempted to allow into our world. I am sure it would be a best seller.
 
If he do not respond to you the way he should them Let Em Go! :yep: There are plenty of fish in the sea. Some men are just clowns! Now this man is not the President for God sake why is he "so called busy" ! This man can be a double-agent trying to live a double life. Forget him! He was just in your life to keep you from the man your are supposed to be with:yep:

Take this as a Blessing and a lesson Learned!:yep:
 
I would not type another text message or IM addressed to him, and I wouldn't call him either.

Liars cannot be trusted, and you need trust in a true relationship...this ain't it!
Move on, you deserve better!
 
ElizaBlue said:
How...wait. He's in the hospital within hours or minutes of your arranged meeting. So ill that he needs an IV. But has the wherewithall to take a picture, scan and email his hospital papers and send it to you. That does not make a damn bit-o-sense-to-me.

But it does remind me of this guy I met online from NJ. I said from NJ. He flys out here. We hang out, the next day he feigns of all things internal bleeding in his head. He too is in the hospital with an IV. They give everyone an IV, so they can charge you later.

He asked me to take a picture of him. I'm like for what? He says "because I can't believe I came all the way to Texas and got sick" Now who knows what he did with that picture. There was absolutely nothing wrong with him. Oh yes it was, the doctor said he had a sinus headache.

I quickly discerned that this was my first sighting of the male species of a drama king. Last name. KING. From NJ. Anywho.... everytime we went to a restaurant he would eat and promptly began making faces like he was dying. The manager would come over and he would say, "I think I just need to leave." He wasn't trying at all to get out of the bill. He was just forever on stage.

Just a nut case. From NJ. Last name KING.
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I was thnkin the same thing.

OP- I don't think you need to break up with someone that you are cleary not 'with'. He probably thinks you're calling him to push the relationship further and he doesn't want to, so he's avoiding you, not knowing that obviously you want to give him the ax.

I would consider the relationship over.
 
Girl, he has been playing you. :nono: He is just not that into you and I would even venture to guess that the picture mail of him on an IV and the death of the sister were lies to get out of dates.

I'm sorry this happened but it is better to face the fact that everyone is not for everyone. I am sure you have plenty of men who are attracted to you for more than friendship but to whom you do not have mutual feelings for. That's all this is here...he's not the one for you. :nono:

If he's into you, you will know it. Won't have to 2nd guess it and he will treat you like he appreciates and values every second he can get to be in your presence. Don't think of this man as your boyfriend. He is an acquaintance.

If I were you, I would allow him to slip away into the past and never revisit him again. That includes contact with him. I'd lose all his contact info and forget his name. He missed his opportunity.
 
I posted about a similar situation a few months ago. The guy did call back, but, I was over it. It was hard because like some of the ladies here experienced, he was saying one thing but his actions weren't matching up. I never had a discussion about it with him, I just rolled out. He still calls every now and then, but, those calls go to voicemail.

In 'b&*%@' speak, I was a nice girl. I'm working on curing myself of that. :-) I'm dating other people now, yep - plural LOL, and it's a world of difference when you're being the beyatch! Dump the loser and don't even send him the memo!
 
girl dont pay that boy not a bit of mind. i know i may being a little drastic with it, but if you can't even give me a return phone call or even text that's the epitome of inconsiderate and it's borderline disrespectful. that says your time and feelings dont matter. and yes, that sounds like he's leading a double life. let's so ol boy does have two jobs, you're telling me that no time within a couple of hours of me texting you, you couldn't text me back to let me know something. my ex worked a full time job, a part time from 3-7 in the morning and was taking classes and i still managed to talk to him everyday, even if it was only for 3-5 minutes.

im currently actually going to something slightly similar but i'll be darned if it takes me 3 months to figure it out. we've only been talking for like 3 weeks. he has another week to ship up or its done.
 
ElizaBlue said:
How...wait. He's in the hospital within hours or minutes of your arranged meeting. So ill that he needs an IV. But has the wherewithall to take a picture, scan and email his hospital papers and send it to you. That does not make a damn bit-o-sense-to-me.

But it does remind me of this guy I met online from NJ. I said from NJ. He flys out here. We hang out, the next day he feigns of all things internal bleeding in his head. He too is in the hospital with an IV. They give everyone an IV, so they can charge you later.

He asked me to take a picture of him. I'm like for what? He says "because I can't believe I came all the way to Texas and got sick" Now who knows what he did with that picture. There was absolutely nothing wrong with him. Oh yes it was, the doctor said he had a sinus headache.

I quickly discerned that this was my first sighting of the male species of a drama king. Last name. KING. From NJ. Anywho.... everytime we went to a restaurant he would eat and promptly began making faces like he was dying. The manager would come over and he would say, "I think I just need to leave." He wasn't trying at all to get out of the bill. He was just forever on stage.

Just a nut case. From NJ. Last name KING.
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You are too funny:lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
ElizaBlue said:
How...wait. He's in the hospital within hours or minutes of your arranged meeting. So ill that he needs an IV. But has the wherewithall to take a picture, scan and email his hospital papers and send it to you. That does not make a damn bit-o-sense-to-me.

But it does remind me of this guy I met online from NJ. I said from NJ. He flys out here. We hang out, the next day he feigns of all things internal bleeding in his head. He too is in the hospital with an IV. They give everyone an IV, so they can charge you later.

He asked me to take a picture of him. I'm like for what? He says "because I can't believe I came all the way to Texas and got sick" Now who knows what he did with that picture. There was absolutely nothing wrong with him. Oh yes it was, the doctor said he had a sinus headache.

I quickly discerned that this was my first sighting of the male species of a drama king. Last name. KING. From NJ. Anywho.... everytime we went to a restaurant he would eat and promptly began making faces like he was dying. The manager would come over and he would say, "I think I just need to leave." He wasn't trying at all to get out of the bill. He was just forever on stage.

Just a nut case. From NJ. Last name KING.
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Yea i wouldn't be surprised if it was an old picture he keeps in his phone just for these type of cases. I smell bull #@t
 
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