kblc06
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Backstory: So, I'm a pretty big proponent of online dating and have been on and off since my early 20s. As many of my e-sisters know, I've had some major life changes (death of my mother, moving, switching careers, etc) and quite frankly, a relationship hasn't been a super high priority. Now that I'm feeling more settled in my transition (or at least currently), I've jumped back on the bandwagon. So a seemingly decent guy messages me, but he has kids (which is a huge strike for me and he wasn't cute enough for me to want to flex if I'm honest ). Since he messaged me respectfully and I was feeling nice that day, I replied :
Now normally I would've stopped here, but I was feeling froggy and do the most. I could tell he wanted a reaction but I'm like really? I'm trying to actually reply to you instead of ignoring your first message like I normally would . Like....how am I judging you. Your profile even states you want MORE. I'm not sure if I want ANY- I'm doing you a favor bruh. So I reply:
This is like the 5th or 6th similar response I've gotten when I stated I don't date men (insert blank here). I'm never rude about it. All but one of them were black, and I told him I wasn't interested not because of ethnicity but religion . He was irate. Kids and religion are pretty big freaking deals! If I'm single at 50, I may alter my opinion. But the bigger question is, why aren't you looking for women with children! I am entitled to my opinions and desires. I don't think it's too much to ask that a man be single with no kids, with a career or business that they're engaged in! I don't get in my feelings when I'm not someone's type- there's a lid for every pot. Men are soooo fragile!
- Thank you for your interest, but I'm not really into men with kids, sorry :-\
- No problem. Well that contradicted what you wrote on your profile then. As long as it is, you've mentioned you're not judgemental, look in a mirror again. Oh yeah, ask yourself how long have you been on this dating site, going 7 years now or more, maybe you might have to reevaluate your condition a bit. Something is clearly wrong
Now normally I would've stopped here, but I was feeling froggy and do the most. I could tell he wanted a reaction but I'm like really? I'm trying to actually reply to you instead of ignoring your first message like I normally would . Like....how am I judging you. Your profile even states you want MORE. I'm not sure if I want ANY- I'm doing you a favor bruh. So I reply:
- I guess this is what I get for trying to be polite and actually replying for once . I've been on here off and on for about 5 years, but please make no mistake, I'm not in any rush for a relationship unless I deem it worth my time. I have standards and criteria that I refuse to buckle on. And where does my profile say that lol? I do NOT have kids. I said I "might" want them eventually...or never. Kids are a big ****ing deal, I ain't judging..do you bruh! As of now, they're not on my priority list at all. You want more, hence the lack of compatibility. I'm traveling, making a mark in my career with 6 figures to boot, and going to grad school- I ain't got time for that lmao. Best of luck to you tho bro
This is like the 5th or 6th similar response I've gotten when I stated I don't date men (insert blank here). I'm never rude about it. All but one of them were black, and I told him I wasn't interested not because of ethnicity but religion . He was irate. Kids and religion are pretty big freaking deals! If I'm single at 50, I may alter my opinion. But the bigger question is, why aren't you looking for women with children! I am entitled to my opinions and desires. I don't think it's too much to ask that a man be single with no kids, with a career or business that they're engaged in! I don't get in my feelings when I'm not someone's type- there's a lid for every pot. Men are soooo fragile!
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