:hardslap:...I think white people are intrigued by black women...this why white men worship blk women in Europe and white women are so concerned with our hair...I have a few questions for white women..but that for another day..
I was at work talking to another girl (Caucasian) who'd said she was watching the Tyra show. She'd seen the episode Tyra did on hair recently.
I was telling her that Tyra wore a lot of wigs, which for some reason she did not catch from the showbut now she is wearing her real hair, yada yada.
Another AA lady (with a relaxed asymmetrical bob) came near us sweeping the floor and the girl I'm talking to turns to her and asks her out of the blue without a hello or anything "Are you wearing a wig today?"
Other lady gives a quick "no" while I try to catch myself from falling off the counter I was leaning on.
Girl: Well, is your hair relaxed or is that your natural hair?
Lady: (trying to sweep as fast as she could and get out of our area) I relax it.
Girl: You shouldn't do that, it damages it.
Me: Don't you bleach your hair?
Girl: Yeah...
Me: (smiling) You shouldn't do that, it damages it.
The other lady had left at the point and I don't blame her.
I turned to the girl and said: "You really don't need to ask anybody if they're wearing their real hair, you are lucky you asked her instead of someone else. People get really sensitive about that. Don't you watch Oprah?"
I then proceeded to tell her about how Oprah gave a warning on her show to white people not to ask black women if their hair was real.
She has also referred to my hair as "nappy" in the past and I took that opportunity to also say that while I did not mind it, that she probably shouldn't call any other AA women's hair "nappy". I know "nappy" is a fighting word for a lot of people.
This person is someone who's kind of blunt anyway, but ignorance on a subject and being blunt do not mix
You would think all of these shows and movies about black hair would've improved knowledge on the subject but things just seem to be getting worst. Everyone seems misinformed. I've had two people ask me why my natural hair doesn't look like Tyra's "natural" hair.
Getting a little sick of it all.
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IA, that was so rude. Even among white people themselves when they suspect one of them is wearing a wig, I don't think they just straight up ask if the hair is real like that. If they do have to ask, it'll be done discreetly. I don't see why she felt she had the right to speak to that lady like that. I'm sorry, but watching Tyra or Chris Rock's movie doesn't give you permission to do a damn thing.
Wow,at how you handled that. I am amazed at how you and the lady who was sweeping up kept your cool. It is so hard to not freak out when clears disrespect us (even if it is unintentional).
By you telling her so calm and collected, she is more likely to remember and heed your words. (I hope!)
400+ yrs of being this country and white folks still aren't trying to learn anything about us acting like we're some damn animals in the zoo. Why can't they get that we don't speak for every black person all over the world
^^^ When she tries that on the wrong person and gets screamed on, it won't hurt her feelings. She'll just chalk it up to how irrational, overly-sensitive and huffy black folks are.
I guess people are still learning about AA hair....
**Shrugs**
Give them time.
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Your so nice depending on my mood I would have
It is nice to be told that you are NOT the ugliest, mumbo-jumbo alive. Instead of always being looked over by supposedly one's own. 
I had a caucasian guy friend who learned about relaxers and that black people usually have curly hair and he looked at me one day and said "you relaxed your hair, didn't you". A bit surprised, I was like "I have relaxed, but not recently". Then he asserted: "I know you did because I remember your hair was curly in high school". Confused, I said "Umm...I've been relaxing my hair for longer than that". Poor guy had to change the subject
