I enjoy the first few months of a relationship...

[BroadstreetBully]

...but after that I get bored. I wonder if this is normal, and if it'll go away once I meet the right one.

Dating, getting to know each other, the first kiss, etc... it's all so much fun, so addicting. A few months later the thrill is gone. I want to start all over again with someone new. My problem is that I don't have a 'type'. It changes so often. I'll date a guy who is my type at the moment, but down the line my type will change and I'll lose interest. I'm in my early twenties, and I tell myself that maybe I'm just not ready to get seriously involved with anyone. However, I know many girls my age who are in serious relationships or married.

Has anyone dealt with this, but finally found someone they wanted to be with long term?

Is anyone dealing with this currently?

 

[Helpmeblongagain]

That happens 2 me...and every once in a while I meet some1 who can hold my attn...I'm also in my early 20s and I dont think is something that's uncommon 4 ppl our age...

My guess is it'll go away if you meet the right person...

 

[AngieB]

I'm a whole lot older that my 20's and it happens to me. After the first couple months when they are on their best behavior to catch me, the real them start to appear and it's time for me to go. They start getting on my nerves. Time to move on...

 

[itismehmmkay]

Maintenance of any kind is not always fun, but worth it.

 

[sereia]

I think that this is normal. When you are in love you wear rose-tinted glasses due to your body´s biochemistry. After a few months your hormones go back to normal and you start to see the real him - including the not so pleasant sides/habits. Now it is time to remember your hobbies, friends etc. Basically you need to find a balance between your life as an individual and as part of a couple.
What really helped me to overcome this phase of "annoyance" was to realize that nobody but me is responsible for my happiness. This took a huge weight off my expectations from SO because I was not so emotionally dependent on his every move anymore.
I read that figuring out this distance-closeness-process takes 2-3 years. Then you know for sure if you are made for each other or if each of you should take a different path.

All this goes only for a good guy of course. If you notice that he is a jerk/looser/player kick him to the curb immediately because you are too fly for that mess! LOL

 

[Theo]

Yeah but I don't break up with them for it. I'm pretty boring myself.

 

[BroadstreetBully]

I think that this is normal. When you are in love you wear rose-tinted glasses due to your body´s biochemistry. After a few months your hormones go back to normal and you start to see the real him - including the not so pleasant sides/habits. Now it is time to remember your hobbies, friends etc. Basically you need to find a balance between your life as an individual and as part of a couple.
What really helped me to overcome this phase of "annoyance" was to realize that nobody but me is responsible for my happiness. This took a huge weight off my expectations from SO because I was not so emotionally dependent on his every move anymore.
I read that figuring out this distance-closeness-process takes 2-3 years. Then you know for sure if you are made for each other or if each of you should take a different path.

All this goes only for a good guy of course. If you notice that he is a jerk/looser/player kick him to the curb immediately because you are too fly for that mess! LOL

This makes a lot of sense.

 

[Sexy over 40]

Have you considered this? You are loosing interest in the relationship because you don't know yourself? A person can not make you happy or hold your interest. You have to be an interesting person and the challenge has to be what can "I' do to keep it interesting. As women we should not always look at what a man can do for me. Why should he have to jump from the candelier to keep us amused? We must first know the type of man we want and "only" entertain a relationship worthy of our time. So many people put on "false faces" in the beginning of a relationship. Let's be real with each other from the very beginning and save ourselves alot of time and disappointment .

 

[GeorginaSparks]

This is my problem...I get bored to death and everything they do starts to annoy me. It will get to a point when I start acting up and they get fed up too. I have tried my best but there is nothing I can do to fix this. FML

 

[strenght81]

I don't think this has to do with age or meeting "the one". I believe it has to do with you as a person. If you are a boring person, you're constantly looking for someone or thing to excite you. New realationships are usually exciting, mainly because you are learning about your mate. After you have learned most of the basics and then some, you become bored. The challenge is working on yourself to become an exciting person. Only then will you not need to rely on "him".

 

[Dposh167]

well....i think u know the answer. You're not ready for a serious relationship. Or, the men you've dated aren't interesting enough for long-term. it's a very easy thing to see