TwistedRoots
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I'm in the military and i've been dating this guy since April of this year. When we first met I wasn't really looking for a relationship, actually I wasn't even trying to deal with anyone at all. In June, I was told that in October I would be going overseas for a few months or so. That kind of put a damper on us because he seem to keep himself kind of distant. Still, we kept talking and I decided I wanted to be committed. He on the other hand said he just still wasn't quite ready for that yet. He's 9 years older than I and he says that he's to old for these couple of month "relationships" and would like something deeper. I was fine with that because he still wanted to see were we could go with this and I absolutely adore his little girl.
Anyhow, now I'm gone and will be for a few more months. We weren't doing all that great before I left and I don't know if it was because we already knew I would be leaving or what. I'm not sure if it will work when I get back and I think it would be easier just to let it go right now. He still doesnt' seem to know quite how he feels about me and its been 8 months already. I feel like a fool for waiting this long for him but somehow I've fallen for him and now I'm just stuck in the gray. When I tried to just let it go he says that I'm being irrational and I can't possibly make a decision like that while I'm away and that we should just wait until I come home. I don't want to do that to myself. I really don't want to be without him, but I don't know if I can really be with him. He talks about long term committment and even jokes with his friends like "thats probably going to be my wife" I haven't even gotten the girlfriend title yet!!
Am I rushing things? Should I just give him time? Or should I just bounce? I mean I respect him still being upfront with me for the most part, but lets be real here does he expect me to wait forever. I honestly thinks he believes that I wouldn't leave.
Anyhow, now I'm gone and will be for a few more months. We weren't doing all that great before I left and I don't know if it was because we already knew I would be leaving or what. I'm not sure if it will work when I get back and I think it would be easier just to let it go right now. He still doesnt' seem to know quite how he feels about me and its been 8 months already. I feel like a fool for waiting this long for him but somehow I've fallen for him and now I'm just stuck in the gray. When I tried to just let it go he says that I'm being irrational and I can't possibly make a decision like that while I'm away and that we should just wait until I come home. I don't want to do that to myself. I really don't want to be without him, but I don't know if I can really be with him. He talks about long term committment and even jokes with his friends like "thats probably going to be my wife" I haven't even gotten the girlfriend title yet!!
Am I rushing things? Should I just give him time? Or should I just bounce? I mean I respect him still being upfront with me for the most part, but lets be real here does he expect me to wait forever. I honestly thinks he believes that I wouldn't leave.
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