I don't get it

I am usually a lurker on this site, but I had to comment. OP, it sounds like he is either already involved in some sort of situation, or totally freaked out about your pregnancy (that's assuming that he knows about it).

However, on that note, pregnant women need love too. I'm sure that the OP is concerned about the well-being of her children, but being a mother doesn't make you dead or immune to desires for a SO. She's probably lonely and here comes dude that she has had a crush on forever. I can understand having a little hope.

If its meant to be, it will be. Pregnancy, kids, etc. will not scare off a man that is truly into you. Hang in there and take care of yourself and kids, he'll either come around or not. I would not, however, let him string me along. Quit being so available for his texts,etc. and KIM. Men love a woman who have their ish together :yep:
 
crazytrish75 said:
I am usually a lurker on this site, but I had to comment. OP, it sounds like he is either already involved in some sort of situation, or totally freaked out about your pregnancy (that's assuming that he knows about it).

However, on that note, pregnant women need love too. I'm sure that the OP is concerned about the well-being of her children, but being a mother doesn't make you dead or immune to desires for a SO. She's probably lonely and here comes dude that she has had a crush on forever. I can understand having a little hope.

If its meant to be, it will be. Pregnancy, kids, etc. will not scare off a man that is truly into you. Hang in there and take care of yourself and kids, he'll either come around or not. I would not, however, let him string me along. Quit being so available for his texts,etc. and KIM. Men love a woman who have their ish together :yep:
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Thanks for this
 
He doesn't know about the pregnancy. And I don't think anyone is being mean and it is clear who posts with genuine care and who posts with judgment and otherwise.
I'm not mad at anyone I only wanted to get feedback on what this guys deal is, I wasn't looking for what I shouldn't be doing whilst pregnant. however, I appreciate everyone who took out their time to give me their feedback. Good day ladies.
 
crazytrish75 said:
I am usually a lurker on this site, but I had to comment. OP, it sounds like he is either already involved in some sort of situation, or totally freaked out about your pregnancy (that's assuming that he knows about it).

However, on that note, pregnant women need love too. I'm sure that the OP is concerned about the well-being of her children, but being a mother doesn't make you dead or immune to desires for a SO. She's probably lonely and here comes dude that she has had a crush on forever. I can understand having a little hope.

If its meant to be, it will be. Pregnancy, kids, etc. will not scare off a man that is truly into you. Hang in there and take care of yourself and kids, he'll either come around or not. I would not, however, let him string me along. Quit being so available for his texts,etc. and KIM. Men love a woman who have their ish together :yep:
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Agreed. She came in here to run her thoughts by us.

Personally I think it's a bad idea to start something new while expecting...but I totally understand that you might be feeling a bit curious...or lonely...or both. who doesn't like attention??? :spinning:

Regardless of your pregnancy OP, he's not meeting you halfway. He also sounds involved, but has you in "consideration" of sorts. You got better things you can be doing.
 
If he was confessing his feelings I think the "I'm pregnant" confession should have come before reciprocating/wanting to meet up. JMO, not for judgement, but I think it could create awkward situations if a potential isn't informed about something that big.

Anyhoo, some people like to mess around and timewaste. This is what his actions sound like to me. Just delete his number/block facebook now lol. :yep:
 
Do you guys have any mutual friends that may have told him you were pregnant? Maybe he already heard the news and decided to fall back a bit.
 
lol OP, if he did decide to take you up on your offer, were you just gonna show up with a big ole belly and say, "SURPRISE!!!" ?
 
Oh wow, you hadn't told him?

OP this can't be easy for you. I think we all know what it feels like to come across someone you really like, yet they don't want you or it just doesn't work out ... I'm sorry you are going through this, especially at a time when you're meant to just be happy and enjoy the journey to motherhood.

But like the other ladies said, it may be better to concentrate on your pregnancy. Heartache wouldn't be good for you and baby. I know it's easier said than done though : (
 
Fall back. He should take the lead and initiate a date/meeting. Basically you have been pining over him all these years and are coming off a tad too eager. He can likely sense it and isn't going to pursue hard. Don't take his scraps. Id ignore his texts for a while or longer.

Also I think it is normal to want that male closeness and companionship while pregnant but you are in a vulnerable state. At the least you should have divulged your condition to him. If some sparks fly at some point do proceed with extreme caution.
 
ZLUVSNEWZEE said:
He doesn't know about the pregnancy. And I don't think anyone is being mean and it is clear who posts with genuine care and who posts with judgment and otherwise.
I'm not mad at anyone I only wanted to get feedback on what this guys deal is, I wasn't looking for what I shouldn't be doing whilst pregnant. however, I appreciate everyone who took out their time to give me their feedback. Good day ladies.
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I am glad you're got feedback you can use. :yep:

Many women have difficulties understanding men's behavior and that can result in unnecessary heartbreaks and drama. As a general rule, if a man is into you, he'll be consistent in going after you to start and maintain a relationship, especially if you have shown that you are open to being with him. If a man is pussyfooting after you've shown interest, learn to move on!
 
One of my cousins started dating a guy when she was a few months pregnant. I did give her the side eye I won't le..but 5 yrs later he is still in the picture and the only father he son has known. They now have baby together and going strong. They aren't married but they are still young mid 20s..I don't see anybody going anywhere. So its totally possible to start a new relationship while preggo *** tabbo as it may be.

With that said...leave this fool alone! I have a dude do the same thing to me. Sporadiac flirtacious text..but no follow up after I clearly indicated I was down to hang out. I now make no effort to contact him but he always pops up. Like wth u want? I also wonder if a guy obviously isn't that into you..why txt if you don't want sex or to see me? In my case I repond to him because I don't really care and to see just how long he can keep up his shennagains. I guess he just likes the attention. So play with him. Txt him something and when he hit you back don't respond. Or when he txt out the blue ignore him..he will most likely txt u again. I even told this guy to keep it up.I got unlimited txt and.I find him highly entertaining. Lol. These fools wanna play games give him a game to play.

On my phone excuse the typos!
 
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I don't think she needs to tell him she is pregnant. For what? They have not planned a meet up or anything of the sort. Even if they were planning on meeting up if she is not showing he doesn't need to know. It's not like she was going to meet up with him just to have a romp. Even if she is very pregnant it kind of speaks for itself so that would easily assist in determining his intentions.

Anyways, I think he is dealing with someone and that's why your getting the hot and cold feet. Leave him alone.
 
I think that if he indicated any interest in her then she should tell him she's pregnant. Then he can decide if it's the right situation for him. I don't understand the idea that she should stay away from men because she's pregnant. Apparently she's not with the father. No one has a problem with single mothers meeting new men so this should not be an issue.
 
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