Blu217
Well-Known Member
I cut my hair
I gave in and cut off several inches of my hair (it's not super short, mind--just to my shoulders). Within the last couple of months, my thinning has accelerated so much there was nothing really left of the length but some alarming wisps from the shedding and mystery breakage. I broke down and called my girlfriend, a former stylist, and told her to cut it.
I had to take it back up to the very length I really rather hate. It's not so bad straight, but when I set I get this goofy bouffant 1950s housewifey thing going on.
The good: She lopped it off quickly and those ragged, pitiful ends on the floor confirmed that I had no choice. And now it looks thicker and a lot healthier, so I'm glad for that.
The bad: Longer is sexier. See that pic of me at the bottom? That's hot hair. That was just taken in April, and as of June it didn't look like that anymore. The new 'do is... cute. But this morning I REALLY missed those coils on my shoulder. Even tho I had a nice, fresh roller set, I pulled it back into a ponytail and went to work.
My friend suggested I don't grow my hair long again because of my hair loss; she suggested it's putting too much stress on what's left.
She said my hair may be too fine and fragile for length... could that be true? Are there some people who just can't have long hair? My hair is not exceptional; about 20 years ago when I was in my teens I had a rockin' mop of full, strong and shiny stuff that grew like nobody's business.
For now, long hair is a dream deferred, tho I will be putting on another inch or two (maybe three if I can manage it without issue). This is what I'm working with for the near future.
As for the thinning, it's still coming out. Now I'm losing it in plugs. After two years of this I'm sort of resigned to what is apparently the inevitable giant permanent bald spot at the crown some women wind up with. Seems all I see now is HAIR--sisters with their healthy heads of thick pretty real hair blowing in the wind. I lose handfuls of mine every day and styling is just about camoflage now. My fingers slip effortlessly to my scalp thru my unrelaxed 4a/b hair in the front and sides now, like it's relaxed--never been able to do that before. I dread when the wind kicks up or someone stands over my chair at work--can they see?
You ladies who have your hair, whose biggest issues are whether to use more moisture or more protein--be sooo thankful that's the worst of it. I wish for mine back every single day.
(Right after cut, unstyled.)
Hair loss collage--what lies beneath:
I gave in and cut off several inches of my hair (it's not super short, mind--just to my shoulders). Within the last couple of months, my thinning has accelerated so much there was nothing really left of the length but some alarming wisps from the shedding and mystery breakage. I broke down and called my girlfriend, a former stylist, and told her to cut it.
I had to take it back up to the very length I really rather hate. It's not so bad straight, but when I set I get this goofy bouffant 1950s housewifey thing going on.
The good: She lopped it off quickly and those ragged, pitiful ends on the floor confirmed that I had no choice. And now it looks thicker and a lot healthier, so I'm glad for that.
The bad: Longer is sexier. See that pic of me at the bottom? That's hot hair. That was just taken in April, and as of June it didn't look like that anymore. The new 'do is... cute. But this morning I REALLY missed those coils on my shoulder. Even tho I had a nice, fresh roller set, I pulled it back into a ponytail and went to work.
My friend suggested I don't grow my hair long again because of my hair loss; she suggested it's putting too much stress on what's left.
She said my hair may be too fine and fragile for length... could that be true? Are there some people who just can't have long hair? My hair is not exceptional; about 20 years ago when I was in my teens I had a rockin' mop of full, strong and shiny stuff that grew like nobody's business. For now, long hair is a dream deferred, tho I will be putting on another inch or two (maybe three if I can manage it without issue). This is what I'm working with for the near future.
As for the thinning, it's still coming out. Now I'm losing it in plugs. After two years of this I'm sort of resigned to what is apparently the inevitable giant permanent bald spot at the crown some women wind up with. Seems all I see now is HAIR--sisters with their healthy heads of thick pretty real hair blowing in the wind. I lose handfuls of mine every day and styling is just about camoflage now. My fingers slip effortlessly to my scalp thru my unrelaxed 4a/b hair in the front and sides now, like it's relaxed--never been able to do that before. I dread when the wind kicks up or someone stands over my chair at work--can they see?
You ladies who have your hair, whose biggest issues are whether to use more moisture or more protein--be sooo thankful that's the worst of it. I wish for mine back every single day.
(Right after cut, unstyled.)
Hair loss collage--what lies beneath:
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. Very cute. It'll grow back when you're not watching.
