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I BC'd 2 min. ago...help..
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KiSseS03
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Hey Hun!! I just did mine less than two weeks ago on a WHIM, so I know how you feel. Honestly it was a huge shock to the system, so you're probably feeling it now, but don't worry you'll grow to love it. Just keep remembering the reasons why you went back to natural, and that God made your hair like this so it's beautiful.
Trust me, most, if not all of us experienced some backlash from people for cutting off our hair, my Dad thought I was nuts... but once you learn what works for you and how to style it you'll look and feel great so it won't be an issue!
Best wishes on your Natural Journey! Keep your head up!
Trust me, most, if not all of us experienced some backlash from people for cutting off our hair, my Dad thought I was nuts... but once you learn what works for you and how to style it you'll look and feel great so it won't be an issue!
Best wishes on your Natural Journey! Keep your head up!
2cute2B4gotten
New Member
You are NOT stupid...you are brave and doing something that a lot of us wish we had the courage to do. Once your mother sees your progress and how beautiful your natural hair is, I am sure she will admit that she was wrong, Be encouraged!! Healthy hair is on its way!
Poohbear
Fearfully Wonderfully Made
Awwww 
I can't believe your mom called you stupid. Geez. I remember when I first chop my hair off, my dad said "what happen to your hair? It looks awful now! You'll never get a job, you need a relaxer" and the list goes on. What would my hair look like if I relaxed it that short? Yeah right.
Be encouraged. Don't let what others say put you down. Forget about what they'll say. You may be getting even more reactions later on.
Besides that, congratulations on doing the BC! Happy hair growing and may God bless you on your natural hair journey.
I can't believe your mom called you stupid. Geez. I remember when I first chop my hair off, my dad said "what happen to your hair? It looks awful now! You'll never get a job, you need a relaxer" and the list goes on. What would my hair look like if I relaxed it that short? Yeah right.Be encouraged. Don't let what others say put you down. Forget about what they'll say. You may be getting even more reactions later on.
Besides that, congratulations on doing the BC! Happy hair growing and may God bless you on your natural hair journey.
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SilkyandSmooth
New Member
Wow. Well, I'm not natural anymore but congrats on your BC. I'm sure you did what was right for you and your hair. Enjoy!!
Crackers Phinn
Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
You are not stupid for cutting your hair.
Go on ahead and do what you want to do.
Go on ahead and do what you want to do.
pinkdot's blog
New Member
You are not stupid. Hold your head up high and rock your hair like a super model. Remember the reason why you decided to go natural in the first place and hold on to that. Being natural is something that you choose to do if your mother or anyone else has a problem with it that is something that they have to deal with. Its your head not your moms. If your mom says something else tell your mom that you like your hair and she doesn't have to. Keep your head up. 
theAlist
Well-Known Member
Poohbear said:Awwww
Be encouraged. Don't let what others say put you down. Forget about what they'll say. You may be getting even more reactions later on.
Besides that, congratulations on doing the BC! Happy hair growing and may God bless you on your natural hair journey.
Thanks! Thank you all.
I forgot to mention that I transitioned for 5 months.
ravenmerlita
New Member
CONGRATULATIONS! I bet you will love your "new" hair and working with your natural texture.
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SignatureBeauty
New Member
Congragulations! I bet your hair is gorgeous! Your Mom will come around, we all had to go through some kind of craziness with friends & family. but I know that had to sting coming from Mom, But she was just reacting, trust me once your hair starts growing out and looking good she might want to cut hers and go natural.
Just Let your Hair speak for itself!
Just Let your Hair speak for itself!
Enchantmt
Progress...not perfection
Awwwwwwwwwwww ((((HUGS))) Gurl, my momma CRIED when I did the BC! She liked it after a while tho, when it was curly-ish at least, she HATED when it was looking fro-ish tho. A few months after I cut it I heard her talking on the phone "Yeah, Susan cut her hair ALL off, but it grows like a weed." ( I wish) That was her way of bragging to an extent (You have to have known my mom.) If she really didnt like it she would have said so and talked about me like a dog. I was kind of scared to go to work too. The back of my head is so flat scarves wouldnt really stay. I went in the bathroom one day to find it all twisted around. This one guy looked at me and said "You betta hurry up and grow that hair back." Now he tugs on my coils everyday I see him. 
And I have a supervisor who always has to walk by and touch it. You fears are going to be greater than anyone else's reactions.
And I have a supervisor who always has to walk by and touch it. You fears are going to be greater than anyone else's reactions.
Now she is in complete awe of my hair 
Your hair will be grown out in no time, esp now that we're in the summer months 
Hey lady! Congratulations! I just did mine literally a few seconds ago- and lemme tellyou, it was a struggle with my mother since the day I decided not to perm again (11 months ago). She cut it for me, but when we were done she said- some ppl would die for hair like you had. I told her- now thats a shame. She's made comments and remarks about me being unhappy with it- but the truth is, she's the one with the separation anxiety issue. I was cool. I love my mom, and we are as close as can be, but this is one thing that we will have to disagree on. What satisfies me is knowing that in about a year or so, my hair will be THriVIng, and I will really be able to show her, as well as sooo many other ppl in my life how WONDERfUL natural hair can be. I live in a small city - everyone has perms. When ppl go natural here (which is rarely) they really dont do much, it's plain, boring and no wonder some of my friends and family cant understand my decision. But after almost of year of research and inspiration from ladies on the BHM, LHCF, fotki, and nappturality, I learned that our hair is SOOOO versatile and beautiful- and Im working to change the stigmas associated with it around my hometown.
So trust me, I know what you are going through- and I think you should let your mother know (in a respectful, loving way)- that she's your mother, and of anybody, you expect her to love you and support your decisions whether she agrees with them or not. Let her know that what she said was hurtful to you and that you were disappointed. After that- it's no longer your problem. Just love your hair and it will shine on the outside. And b4 long- ppl will be eating their words about it!
HTH!!! and congrats again!
amara
So trust me, I know what you are going through- and I think you should let your mother know (in a respectful, loving way)- that she's your mother, and of anybody, you expect her to love you and support your decisions whether she agrees with them or not. Let her know that what she said was hurtful to you and that you were disappointed. After that- it's no longer your problem. Just love your hair and it will shine on the outside. And b4 long- ppl will be eating their words about it!
HTH!!! and congrats again!
amara
hopeful
Well-Known Member
Oh sweetfacekay, I'm so sorry your mom called you stupid, I am kinda stunned by that. You are a brave lady and so pretty too! Hold your head up. Your pic is lovely and it will grow and grow and before you know it your mom will be asking you for hair advice. Enjoy your new hair!
cmw45
Well-Known Member
Quoting the Badass MC from mean girls..."Don't let the haters stop you from doin yo thang!" You are beautiful just the way God made you...and so is your hair. I love your hair and sooo do so many other women on this board. And one day, so will your mother. Until then, I hope we're enough.
Iluvsmuhgrass
Well-Known Member
Talk about beautiful!!! I love it!
Girl, people said the same thing to my friend Nicole. She had thick brastrap relaxed hair and one day she just BC'ed. She had only an inch of new growth. People thought she looked funny but I thought she looked fierce! Rock your new do girl! It looks great!
Girl, people said the same thing to my friend Nicole. She had thick brastrap relaxed hair and one day she just BC'ed. She had only an inch of new growth. People thought she looked funny but I thought she looked fierce! Rock your new do girl! It looks great!
RainbowCurls
New Member
Congratulations!
Your hair looks good.
Ignore what your mum said. She'll get over the fact that you cut your hair eventually.
Your hair looks good.
Ignore what your mum said. She'll get over the fact that you cut your hair eventually.
Blackbird77
Well-Known Member
Sweetfacekay,
Our mothers are usually the hardest ones on us if not the only ones when we do something different with our hair. It sounds like most of us have been through this, me included. I remember moisturizing my hair at night and having negative comments said about my hair after I BC'd and by taking care of it on a regular basis, my mom started begging me to wear my natural hair out (I was doing either the phony pony or wig thing every month). People who criticize are usually the ones congratulating when they see your progress. Fight the urge to relax your hair when your loved ones start making rude comments. Since you wear braids and weaves as protective styles, keep doing them. Let no one see your hair but you (if that's what you want to do). It's a classic case of "out of sight, out of mind". If it's out of their sight, it's not on their mind. Congratulations on doing the BC! Your hair will thank you for it.
Our mothers are usually the hardest ones on us if not the only ones when we do something different with our hair. It sounds like most of us have been through this, me included. I remember moisturizing my hair at night and having negative comments said about my hair after I BC'd and by taking care of it on a regular basis, my mom started begging me to wear my natural hair out (I was doing either the phony pony or wig thing every month). People who criticize are usually the ones congratulating when they see your progress. Fight the urge to relax your hair when your loved ones start making rude comments. Since you wear braids and weaves as protective styles, keep doing them. Let no one see your hair but you (if that's what you want to do). It's a classic case of "out of sight, out of mind". If it's out of their sight, it's not on their mind. Congratulations on doing the BC! Your hair will thank you for it.
DDTexlaxed
TRANSITION OVER! 11-22-14
I'm not natural anymore, but I can understand the way u feel. Your mom just doesn't understand your goals w your hair. I'm sure she'll get over the initial shock and see the beauty that u see in time.
trust me, you will feel better about your bc. Your mom was wrong for calling you stupid. Once your hair begins flourish , all the naysayers will be the ones drooling over your hair! My bf at the time HATED my hair and my sister laughed hysterically when she first saw my bc'd hair. Now, they both LOVE my hair. They both think my hair transformation(growth and health) are amazing! My sister has since transitioned both my nieces to natural!
so hang in there, it will get better!
jasmine
so hang in there, it will get better!
jasmine
dreysonsmommy2011
Well-Known Member
Don't get discouraged...I love your hair and the texture is cute too!
keep your head up.The haters are just jealous because they don't have the courage to go natural
keep your head up.The haters are just jealous because they don't have the courage to go natural
....again thank you all VERY MUCH!!
MeccaMedinah
Active Member
Congrats on your BC
aileenadq
New Member
Man, I don't know WHY people- especially our family members- just think they can say anything and not have it hurt someone's feelings! Grrrrr!
1st- It's YOUR HAIR. Only you know what is best for it/you.
2nd- Going natural is an excellent thing to do and clearly the healthier option. (Speaking as a relaxed head myself.)
You rock that new 'do and show 'em!
1st- It's YOUR HAIR. Only you know what is best for it/you.
2nd- Going natural is an excellent thing to do and clearly the healthier option. (Speaking as a relaxed head myself.)
You rock that new 'do and show 'em!
