I am weak...Woe is Me....Can I be helped...

[SimpleKomplexity]

I don't think i can be helped at times. Stop me because I'm slipping hard.......foreal and i know it.

Yall I dunno why, but I still have strong feelings for my ex. Yeah he cheated on me, lied about it when we were in an open relationship, and was engaged to another chick but so what. I'm pretty much sure he patched up things with his fiance and they prolly got back together....who knows. Facebook tells it all and she claims its complicated sooo....2/3 says they are together.

Anyway the boy came back into my life. We talked on a neutral location and the convo was okay. Fast forward a few weeks...then all of a sudden he asked for "casual sex". I said hell no, but in my mind I wish I was sayin hell yes. I wouldn't mind being his girl on the side, hell I was for a whole year what makes now different

Yup I deserve better, someone to be there just for me but so what. It's not anyone like that right now so I'm stuck. I'm afraid I will end up back "buddies" with this boy. My body will love this, but my mind knows it's not right....

Fast forward to the other side of my world.

I still talk to my other ex. The ex I cheated on my ex with...that makes sense right? I feel our relationship is over. I've grown up and he isn't. BUT we have a natural sexual chemistry. I've stopped having sex. I haven't had sex in months (Thank God and Oh God at the same time) ...but I feel he doesn't respect my wishes. (I wish to be celibate) Plus, This is the boy I go out with sooo if I push him to the curb....my entertainment may leave,a nd then I will feel alone and most likely talk to someone who bores me out of my durn mind.... ..like the boy I talk to now that I just hurt his feelings because he doesn't have anything going for himself and I'm not attracted to him....

I'm weak

 

[DayStar]

girl u betta gain strength..tie up those Nikes and RUN

 

[Crackers Phinn]

oh for fux sake maynnnnn!

It's over 3 billion penii in this world. Go find one that you're attracted to, have no historical drama with, doesn't bore you and don't mind not being used for a while.

Get to it!

 

[SimpleKomplexity]

girl u betta gain strength..tie up those Nikes and RUN

LOOLI don't like sneakers Naw but seriosuly yall I'm afraid of my sanity....I need to get out more or something!! I'm weak! Me in dis dude back to txtin everyday!! Long drawn out convos too...hmm...I should cut him off but I'm sooo friggin weak

oh for fux sake maynnnnn!

It's over 3 billion penii in this world. Go find one that you're attracted to, have no historical drama with, doesn't bore you and don't mind not being used for a while.


Get to it!

Hmm....back to the drawing board.... *sigh* I gotta get ova this boy..these vb boyz

 

[new-life]

Girl you already know what you need to do.
That is all

 

[andrea]

So there is this book that I am reading.. There is a thread on here about it..

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=144287

It is so eye opening... I am on week 2 now, I would love to have someone else to start with me..


On another note.. I do not think you should settle for being the jump off.. I mean is that what you really want... It really sounds like you need some new blood..... You know time for you or it's time to move on.......

 

[SimpleKomplexity]

Girl you already know what you need to do.
That is all

Yeah this is true...I need to go make a blog I feel better when I type this stuff out.

But anyway, this is krazy. I have tried to get past my two exes for the longest..but I always slip up. Me staying away from them only lasts a month or 2...then I begin to feel alone and call them up, or they call me....

 

[tyrablu]

So there is this book that I am reading.. There is a thread on here about it..

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=144287

It is so eye opening... I am on week 2 now, I would love to have someone else to start with me..


On another note.. I do not think you should settle for being the jump off.. I mean is that what you really want... It really sounds like you need some new blood..... You know time for you or it's time to move on.......

I would love to start with you. I just picked up this book on Friday and have yet to start. Let me know, you can send me a pm. I read the thread you started the other day you and I are right <<<<here>>>>.

 

[drasgrl]

Girl snap out of it. What is so great about them? Or are they just something to do? They are yesterdays news go find another one who will treat you better. If you just want them for fcuk buddies that's cool too just don't get caught up and take it for what it is. They are ex's for a reason or did you forget the reason?

 

[ElizaBlue]

So there is this book that I am reading.. There is a thread on here about it..

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=144287

It is so eye opening... I am on week 2 now, I would love to have someone else to start with me..


On another note.. I do not think you should settle for being the jump off.. I mean is that what you really want... It really sounds like you need some new blood..... You know time for you or it's time to move on.......

Ditto. Hey is that book really all they say it is? And is there a book called "Hanging up on the Wrong One?"

 

[TCatt86]

You aren't weak, you just haven't found your strength yet. It really is ok to be alone, it gives you time to work on you, just use this time to do that.

 

[MissScarlett]

oh for fux sake maynnnnn!

It's over 3 billion penii in this world. Go find one that you're attracted to, have no historical drama with, doesn't bore you and don't mind not being used for a while.

Get to it!

 

[ClassicBeauty]

Girl there are way too many men for you to be the side chick!

I suggest you spend some time with yourself, and let the guys go for a while. I know that's easier said than done, but honestly, if you're comfortable being the side chick, you might have some personal issues that you need to work out.

BTW- Aren't you really young? You have your whole life ahead of you! Love yourself first, and remember that "You teach people how to treat you!"

 

[Cloud06]

Girl live life. I feel you on this one I got the case of the ex, too. You not married. Have fun enjoy yourself but be safe. As stated before, there are other men out there you have to expand your horizons and you'll find what you want. When the flesh is weak that is the time to strengthen the mind. Idle time is the devils playground!

 

[honeycomb719]

Girl there are way too many men for you to be the side chick!

I suggest you spend some time with yourself, and let the guys go for a while. I know that's easier said than done, but honestly, if you're comfortable being the side chick, you might have some personal issues that you need to work out.

BTW- Aren't you really young? You have your whole life ahead of you! Love yourself first, and remember that "You teach people how to treat you!"

Amen to that!!! I have nothing else to add.......

 

[Ms. Vea]

First you should stop saying that you are weak, for a man thinketh so he is that goes for women as well so from now on start saying that you are STRONG and watch yourself slowly but surely start to loose feelings. Besides he is your EX for a reason, and he is just playing off of your emotions. Make him respect you as a human and a woman. If you dont stand for something you will fall for anything.

 

[SimpleKomplexity]

First you should stop saying that you are weak, for a man thinketh so he is that goes for women as well so from now on start saying that you are STRONG and watch yourself slowly but surely start to loose feelings. Besides he is your EX for a reason, and he is just playing off of your emotions. Make him respect you as a human and a woman. If you dont stand for something you will fall for anything.

Yeah, I know, I know. I say this because despite me wanting to forget abou him, I constantly find him poppin into my mind. Once every few months he'll text or call...and because I miss him so I talk back... I'm goin back to school in a week hopefully and I'm afraid that I will spend uneeded time with him since it won't be that many people on campus. I'm afraid I'll slip and have a friendly encounter with him again, and I just really don't wanna go through that road again....I'm trying though....I'm really goin to try to meet others and move on

 

[lilsparkle825]

I don't think i can be helped at times. Yall I dunno why, but I still have strong feelings for my ex. Yeah he cheated on me, lied about it when we were in an open relationship, and was engaged to another chick but so what. I'm pretty much sure he patched up things with his fiance and they prolly got back together....who knows. Facebook tells it all and she claims its complicated sooo....2/3 says they are together.

uhm...are you listening to yourself?

he cheated on you...well i cheated on my bf and he forgave me so i wont speak on that, but you just said "he was engaged but so what". on top of that you are facebook stalking him. get a grip.

i know it can be hard to get over a guy...i used to casually see this guy...we had an open thing too. he was fine...i mean, damn...and i go for the sarcastic a-hole-ish types (you know, the ones that talk a lot of crap) cause thats the way i am...but during the school year i was away so i would see him on breaks. it was cool or whatever...i mean i enjoyed myself...but something didnt feel right. kinda like i was being used. i came home for winter break and he texted me jan 2nd asking me what i did for new years...read on (not exact) i am M btw

P: so wut u do last night
M: nothin, went out with my bestie, what about you
P: oh i was chillin with a lady friend, we watched tv and i stayed at her apt
M: ok (i didnt wanna seem like i cared, but i wanted to see where this was going)
P: yeah i've been seein her for a few weeks now
M: ok...
P: and i think its gettin kinda serious

now at this point i wanted to scream...cause he really just said "i wanna stop seeing you" without saying it, and THRU A TEXT, but i was just like "whatever" and i acted like i had never been intimate with him the next time i saw him. i had been feeling like i was chasing him for the few months leading up to that anyway...always going to see him instead of me calling him and what not. so i didnt reply after that and bottled up my feelings for him. it was hard (you can relate im sure) but by march/april HE was texting ME asking me when i was coming home and all, and all he got was an "idk". it was hard to play nonchalant but it worked. we did our thing exactly once the following summer, and after it was over i got up, got dressed, and left without saying a thing. that is the last time i spoke to him. now i am with a gorgeous and CARING man who would never cheat on me.

wayyyy OT but my point is sometimes you gotta develop a really thick shell. take a cue from ciara and act like a boy, it's really fun. when a guy has a crush on you act like you dont notice. talk to more than one guy at a time (only while single though). go out, have a few drinks, and go home with a guy. i mean its 2008.