I am going to keep/start relaxing

[BeetleBug]

Since I'm one of the "thankers"...

I did not post in this thread until I really felt compelled to by something that was said.

Why? Because it doesn't matter how many relaxed heads I compliment in their progress threads or help out when they need it, folks still constantly call me a natural "nazi" and imply that I "hate" relaxed heads.

This thread wasn't for naturals, and I completely understood that and that's why I didn't post it in it (though I lurked the whole time). I wasn't trying to come in an break up the love fest.

It's so funny to me that thanking someone or posting a couple times in a thread like this is all folks want to remember...but if you go through my posts you'll see the hundreds of times that I've jumped in to help a relaxed newbie while y'all ignored them. Or when I've drooled over a relaxed heads progress right along with y'all. It's not like I expect accolades for doing so, but don't make naturals out to be small minded discriminatory people when that is really and truly not the case.

Girl, they won't hear you.

 

[maghreblover]

hey, i know y'alls debating and all, am really happy for you and amma let you finish, but obama and mccain had the greatest debate of all time, OF ALL TIME.

 

[Southernbella.]

Sorry, this post is just plain rude. All of the naturals who have been thanking your posts in the last few pages were nowhere to be seen earlier in the thread. You guys didn't stop by to offer support or congratulate all the beautiful relaxed heads. You waited until one person said one thing you didn't like, then you all jumped in here to laugh at them, roll your eyes, and tell them they have issues. That happens a lot on this board, and it's the reason why some of the relaxed ladies feel uncomfortable.

This is a support thread for relaxed ladies. If they're sharing some of their feelings about the board and you find it funny, you should keep your laughter to yourself. Jumping into a support thread to antagonize the posters is mean, and it's this meanness that has so many of the relaxed ladies feeling down.

If you want to pretend it's all one-sided, I'll let you have it.

eta: Actually, I do have a response. Your whole post was exactly what I'm talking about. Meanness? The relaxed ladies are feeling down? Are you kidding me?

 

[mstar]

Since I'm one of the "thankers"...

I did not post in this thread until I really felt compelled to by something that was said.

Why? Because it doesn't matter how many relaxed heads I compliment in their progress threads or help out when they need it, folks still constantly call me a natural "nazi" and imply that I "hate" relaxed heads.

This thread wasn't for naturals, and I completely understood that and that's why I didn't post it in it (though I lurked the whole time). I wasn't trying to come in an break up the love fest.

It's so funny to me that thanking someone or posting a couple times in a thread like this is all folks want to remember...but if you go through my posts you'll see the hundreds of times that I've jumped in to help a relaxed newbie while y'all ignored them. Or when I've drooled over a relaxed heads progress right along with y'all. It's not like I expect accolades for doing so, but don't make naturals out to be small minded discriminatory people when that is really and truly not the case.

Msa, you and some of the other natural frequent posters can have a very harsh tone to your words when speaking about women who relax their hair. I see it in this thread, and I've seen it in countless others.

Although you might thank a relaxed progress post from time to time, the simple fact that in this thread, which was started to offer support to relaxed women, none of you bothered to say a kind word for the first 200+ posts speaks volumes. You jumped in to sling mud and point out "inaccuracies" only after someone said something questionable that you could jump on. To me, and I speak for myself here as a proud natural, that does seem small minded and discriminatory. Keeping your mouth shut until you have something unkind to say is just...not very nice, and I don't understand how you don't see that that contributes to the tension on the board.

I can see why the relaxed ladies would feel tired or frustrated, given threads like the one where people are insisting that skin bleaching=relaxing. I haven't been here very long, and I don't read every thread, but so far I really haven't seen any relaxed heads treating naturals that way.

 

[dontspeakdefeat]

Can't we all just get along??

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