I AM GETTING REAL TIRED OF BEING TEXLAXED

YUMMY28

YUMMY28

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Hi ladies
I have been texlaxed for a year now (after being natural for about 4 years) but it is really not much different from being natural in my opinion
yesterday it rained and my hair drew up into a big poofball:eek: I thanked my lucky stars that it was the end of the day
it in order to get it straight i have to flat iron which i dont want to do its bad enough i am putting the perm in my hair then on top of that i have to straighten it too i think that is too much what you you ladies think :
is it better for me to relax my hair straight or texlax/flatiron

ps i plan to relax bone straight but i am hoping for someone talk me out of it

thanks in advance your advice means so much to me
 
I think you would be better off relaxing straight. Because with the texlaxed you are doing a double whammy to your hair: chemicals + heat on a regular basis. If you just give in and do a full relaxer then you are only applying chemicals on a regular basis. It'll be much easier on your hair and probably better for your peace of mind.;)
 
It's hard to say. I don't have the humidity issues with texlaxing that some others have. Have you tried texlaxing a little longer? By that I mean leaving it in a little longer.

There's nothing wrong with relaxing bone straight. Plenty of women with long, healthy hair do it so it's not like relaxing as directed is the end of the world. With all the information here, there's no reason you can't have a head of healthy relaxed hair.

I say relax bone straight and do rollersets, etc and keep the direct heat to a minimum.
 
Divine Inspiration said:
It's hard to say. I don't have the humidity issues with texlaxing that some others have. Have you tried texlaxing a little longer? By that I mean leaving it in a little longer.

There's nothing wrong with relaxing bone straight. Plenty of women with long, healthy hair do it so it's not like relaxing as directed is the end of the world. With all the information here, there's no reason you can't have a head of healthy relaxed hair.

I say relax bone straight and do rollersets, etc and keep the direct heat to a minimum.
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I think this is a great idea, Yummy.:)
 
Nooooo. No no noooooo. lol Please don't leave the texlax world. I just left the bone straight world. I live in FL so let me tell you about humidity. I am texlax and I hardly use heat. Look at Isis hair, think abou the bigger picture. I say don't do it. For sooo man reason. But in the end it still comes down to you. Yes you can still have healthy hair bone straigh I did. Slyver2 and many others. But still. :(
 
I don't believe Sylver straightens her hair a lot and she also stretches her perm. Her hair is beautiful. With a perm, wouldn't you still use heat?
 
pinkskates said:
I think you would be better off relaxing straight. Because with the texlaxed you are doing a double whammy to your hair: chemicals + heat on a regular basis. [/quote
i strongly believe this
you hair is beautiful
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hottopic said:
Nooooo. No no noooooo. lol Please don't leave the texlax world. I just left the bone straight world. I live in FL so let me tell you about humidity. I am texlax and I hardly use heat. Look at Isis hair, think abou the bigger picture. I say don't do it. For sooo man reason. But in the end it still comes down to you. Yes you can still have healthy hair bone straight I did. Slyver2 and many others. But still. :(
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when i was relaxed bone straight it was very thin but i was not taking care of my hair like i do now
for the most part i do roller sets but i can't take the roots
 
Divine Inspiration said:
It's hard to say. I don't have the humidity issues with texlaxing that some others have. Have you tried texlaxing a little longer? By that I mean leaving it in a little longer.

There's nothing wrong with relaxing bone straight. Plenty of women with long, healthy hair do it so it's not like relaxing as directed is the end of the world. With all the information here, there's no reason you can't have a head of healthy relaxed hair.

I say relax bone straight and do rollersets, etc and keep the direct heat to a minimum.
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Ditto!

I feel your pain Yummy. We are >here<. I relax tomorrow or Saturday night and I am hoping that I don't "unconsciously" relax straight again. Because I have been HELLA frustrated with my hair.
 
Why not try some braids or twists, that is what I plan to do.

I got frustrated and attempted to relax bone straight and the phyto left my hair texlaxed. Now over a month later the phyto has actually worn off and all the benefits are gone. Im very tired of my hair at this point and plan to get it kinky twisted next week for a break.
 
If you're going to be wearing straight styles the majority of the time, then it's probably better that you relax so you're not adding frequent heat usage to the chemical use. IMO.
 
I know my opinion is not going to be the popular one...but here goes. I would strongly advise against relaxing bone straight...you take ALL the body out of the hair, (you need a curl/wave pattern to have body), you lose most elasticity and it takes much more work to keep it healthy. There are some nice heads of hair that are bone straight...however MOST if not all heads of hair would be healthier if they were not bone straight. When the cystine bonds are broke down so far .ie. a bone straight relaxer, they are almost virtually impossible to repair. Nowadays with a texlax and good routine including the tools you use, you can get away with heat once a week and still have a healthy head of hair.

As far as combating frizz it can be done with the right tecniques and tools.
 
I would suggest staying texlaxed and finding better products to help with the humidity or doing a textured style like a braid out or twist out. I have a crimping iron that I use in Atlanta in the summer and it looks nice even in the Atlanta weather.
 
I can relate. My hair is so texlaxed that it doesn't look relaxed at all. I get knots, tangles, dreads and dry hair. But i refuse to relax it bone straight. :nono: Relaxing my hair bone straight is what brought me to LHCF in the first place.

Give Sylver2's scarf method a try.
 
DSylla said:
I can relate. My hair is so texlaxed that it doesn't look relaxed at all. I get knots, tangles, dreads and dry hair. But i refuse to relax it bone straight. :nono: Relaxing my hair bone straight is what brought me to LHCF in the first place.

Give Sylver2's scarf method a try.
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That's me right now.
I love the texture and thickness I get but it's just so much work to keep it tangle free:(
I had a dread just *fall* out of my hair I was devasted,b/c of things like that I joined LHCF in the first place.
However I don't want to be bonestraight... I'am thinking about transitioning but can't even handle my texlaxed hair:perplexed


@the op,
if you're mostly wearing straight styles I'd suggest you relax your hair close to bonestraight,I'd still would not relax it stickstraight.
You can achieve frizzfree and straight styles with almost bone-straight hair:)
 
I had this same fear and decidingto relax straight but not bone straight. I don't want to deal with tangles, but I don't even what to consider using heat to style my hair.

So I want to be relaxing 85% straight, and roller setting.

If you only want to rock the straight styles, it might be best to relax, or learn other styles like braidouts.
 
I feel you, I am texlaxed and I would not trade it for anything, yes it poofs if it gets wet, and with humidity sometimes, however, the slicked cowlicked look I had, was horrid, :eek: I either do a cowash, and rollerset, or smooth it all back and tie it down, so that it is not poofy in the morning, try some different styles when the poof occurs, to get you to your next wash, it may not be a style with swinging hair, however, buns, frenchrolls, phony ponies, twists, their are a lot of other style options, :) sounds like your mad at your hair, right now:mad: give it some love, :p and it will love you back :love:
 
I regret relaxing my texlaxed hair bone strait. I had more styling options than I realized and my hair was alot more healthier. I am not telling you what U should do, I just wanted to let you know that the grass isn't always greener. Good luck, whatever you decide.:)
 
I'm texlaxed, but I usually wash n go. I'd say make it straighter (not bone straight) but closer to it.
 
I take the good with the bad being texlaxed. My bangs poofed up in the rain today :( and I get the knots and tangles sometimes, but I would not go back to bone straight with my fine hair. I have incredibly thicker hair since texlaxing and my hair is stronger. I wouldn't trade it for anything. It does get annoying, but all I need to do is remember what it was like being bone straight and I don't want to go back. My hair was so much thinner and flatter and just way too whispy. I hate the issues that come with texlaxed hair, but I love the strength, body and fullness it has given my hair.

Do what you feel you should do. I think you have been given some great suggestions/experiences to help you decide. :)
 
75-80% straight is where I am. I still have waves but they will straighten out easily. I don't have a problem telling the difference between new growth and PRH and I don't have to be afraid of water though I do get poofy hair with humidity (don't know of anyone that dosen't actually!)

This my be your best option instead of bone straight. Its rare for me to use heat more than once a month (I'm a bunner).

If bone straight makes your hair thin then you may need to be just below that.


HTH


-A
 
I have the same issues with texlaxing, my hair is not quite ready to wash-and-go, but it's much fuller when straight. Typically I try to keep my hair protected if I'm going outside in very high humidity; I usually will pin curl it, tuck it under a hat, and take the pin curls out when I get where I am going. However, sometimes I may sweat my hair out and then the only way to get it straight is to flat iron it. I've recently decided to limit my flat ironing to once a month. If my hair poofs up, I just have come up with creative textured styles to last until I can heat my hair again. My favorite are curly styles that I set on cold wave rods and let air dry. They usually last about a week. Or if I want something quicker, a braidout on damp hair with only 1-2 braids creates a wavy look.
 
All I know is that when I relaxed bone straight my hair still curled and frizzed, still needed heat to get it bone straight, and I still payed for a relaxer hat was suposed dot do all that for me. My hair was alot less thick/bulkier, a little less shrinkage, than being natural. If you like to wear your hair straight though then full-relaxing might be for you, but if you want both looks you may want to think about staying telaxed or going back to natural. hth
 
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Pixel Lady said:
I know my opinion is not going to be the popular one...but here goes. I would strongly advise against relaxing bone straight...you take ALL the body out of the hair, (you need a curl/wave pattern to have body), you lose most elasticity and it takes much more work to keep it healthy. There are some nice heads of hair that are bone straight...however MOST if not all heads of hair would be healthier if they were not bone straight. When the cystine bonds are broke down so far .ie. a bone straight relaxer, they are almost virtually impossible to repair. Nowadays with a texlax and good routine including the tools you use, you can get away with heat once a week and still have a healthy head of hair.

As far as combating frizz it can be done with the right tecniques and tools.
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Man I need to know what those techniques and tools are b/c the humidity eats up my hair!
 
Well I am texlaxed and I love it. I never have problems with frizz with the humidity. The only thing I can't seem to do is get in my BF's Jazuzzi without getting out and looking like a fluffy poodle. Other than that I can deal.

Aveda's universal styling cream helps me. But, I do use heat. I know some don't, but I do use my flatiron after airdrying. Maintaining that with rollers helps me.

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Girl, don't stress yourself out now. I don't think it would hurt to get your hair relaxed straight. The only reason I have gotten used to being texlaxed is because I self-relax and I am afraid to leave the relaxer in too long. Do your thing honey! :)
 
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YUMMY28 said:
Hi ladies
I have been texlaxed for a year now (after being natural for about 4 years) but it is really not much different from being natural in my opinion
yesterday it rained and my hair drew up into a big poofball:eek: I thanked my lucky stars that it was the end of the day
it in order to get it straight i have to flat iron which i dont want to do its bad enough i am putting the perm in my hair then on top of that i have to straighten it too i think that is too much what you you ladies think :
is it better for me to relax my hair straight or texlax/flatiron

ps i plan to relax bone straight but i am hoping for someone talk me out of it

thanks in advance your advice means so much to me
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Well, since u are already putting all that heat into it to get it straight and are frustrated..whats the use of texlaxing. U can relax bone straight and it still be all good. Rollersets and braidouts.
I relax bone straight. I touchup like 2-3 times a year. For the entire summer I wear braidouts which loves heat & humidity..lol When I do have it straight, i double up on the leave ins which helps it against the humidity. No problems w/ frizz
 
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