Awww..... I feel your pain
CarLiTa
I've been in this situation one TOO many times if you ask me.
I know how you feel... It's almost as if you feel STUCK between a rock and a hard place because on the ONE hand you probably like his company as a FRIEND, and don't want to hurt his feelings, but on the OTHER hand you don't want him to get the WRONG Idea about the two of you, yet....at the same time you don't really want to have that "conversation" again.
You know what I would do? Having also been the dumper AND the dumpee (ie. the "friend" who wants more), I would say that as hard as it is...you might have to have a casual "talk" with him letting him know...."we're just friends right?"
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Just making sure you two are on the "same page".
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You don't have to crush/blow his ego, but maybe you two DO have to have a heart to heart.
I say that because, when one of my guy friends played "dumb", it only made me think that we had a bit of a chance.
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Because he wasn't saying "NO", I thought that maybe there was a hope for me.
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erplexed I was younger and more naive back then lol. Plus.....who wants to go through life ducking and dodging this guy??
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I know I don't.
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That's no way to live either, and I feel like if you're TOO vague or simply "play dumb", he's just going to try to keep wearing you down and if you're REALLY not interested in him, then that can get tiring after a while. Sometimes it's just better to be honest and upfront (yet again) so that he can move on and you can live your life in
PEACE.
If you don't want to go THAT route, then just throw around a couple of "hey buddy!" and "you're such a good FRIEND" lines his way and maybe he will get the point.
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Also, talking to him about OTHER guys you find attractive or want to date might give him a clue. Also, try to tell him that you would like to hook him up with one of your girl pals and maybe he will start getting the idea that you definitely don't want him for yourself. You know what I mean??
Btw....as far as physical chemistry, is this something you feel like you could EVER get over??
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I mean, is he someone you would NEVER consider dating?? EVER?? I'm just wondering, because it seems like you two had dates in the past. What is it about him PHYSICALLY that is unattractive to you?
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I'm just saying..... Cuz
SOMETIMES, some guy friends can surprise us and start dressing better, start losing weight, get all buff, and then turn into a person that surprises us and THEN we may start to see him differently lol...
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So, is the lack of physical chemistry something that is outward....something he can CHANGE?? OR is it just a lack of chemistry period?
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erplexed
Just curious....
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