caribeandiva
Human being
Do you trust their advice? I feel like the more i tell my closest friends about my relationships, the more confused i end up. I get conflicting advice. I think I'll just follow my gut feeling from now on.
I tell my closest friends just enough... Any more and I wouldn't feel comfortable. One thing is I don't tell the whole story to one person. I tell bits and pieces so that my experiences are relevant to that individual. For example if I was contemplating divorce I would talk that out with one of my divorced girls or one who came close to divorce.
A single friend just wouldn't understand and may possibly give me bad advice.
barbiesocialitelittle to none--- it's none of their business.
I'm very private.
I also hate drama and messiness.
My personal life is very compartmentalized. I don't involve others in situations they are not a part of and have no business being involved in. If there's a problem, I will resolve it directly. My life = my responsibility.
As rule, my mantra for interpersonal relationships is "This is an A +B conversation, C your way out."
The only person I discuss my relationship with is SO. If I need perspective or feedback I'll discuss with my therapist, and on rare occasions my mother or grandmother. If I'm discussing my family or my relationship with one of my CLOSE girlfriends it's VERY VERY serious. I mean serious, as red flag that means it's I've exhausted all my own efforts so it's a state of damn near life/death or on-going to the point it's jeopardizing my mental health to where I feel like I'm spiraling out of control demanding I seek a shoulder to lean on. I've been there before but it's a VERY rare occurence like less than every 5 years.....
@barbiesocialite
Well dayum. I need to be more like you.
I tell them tons! Lol we don't give each other advice though. We just talk listen and nod
I'm very tight lipped about my relationship, but in a few moments of weakness I put a little of his crazy on blast. It made me consider how I would feel if something I did that was supposed to be just between us was being discussed by outsiders and I didn't feel good about it.
If you are in a serious relationship, couples therapy is the best route.
Do you trust their advice?