How many times is too many times to marry?
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blksndrlla
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My aunt has been married three times. Her theory is she will keep dong it until she gets it right. Honestly, she does become a better person each time ;-).
FlowerHair
Reclaiming my time
I personally don't see any point in marrying more than twice. You can still have a relationship or relationships. Besides, the odds are against you when you remarry and they get smaller and smaller for every time.
Naturefreegirl
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Adding my two cents to this , I feel like depending on the number of marriages the person had is one thing , but if you are over four that the person have some issues/insecurity.
I know a divorce attorney that's been married five times. After a while I had to ask myself who has the issues, he or his past wives. I refuse to believe that all five women from different walks of life were bad women. It had to be him.
Ladies what do you think
I know a divorce attorney that's been married five times. After a while I had to ask myself who has the issues, he or his past wives. I refuse to believe that all five women from different walks of life were bad women. It had to be him.
Ladies what do you think
itismehmmkay
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^ I came in here to say 5 times.
Naturefreegirl
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yes girl 5 times, he is a serial groom, and they are serial brides out there too
barbiesocialite
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A woman can marry as many times as she wants until she gets it right. Ideally it should be one time, but I'd rather have multiple ex-husbands like Elizabeth Taylor than never marrying at all like Diane Keaton.
However, I do believe a woman should try have all her children should have the same father--never more than 2--regardless of how many times she marries. I have more issue with women that have a bunch of kids with all different fathers than a woman thats been married an divorced multiple times.
However, I do believe a woman should try have all her children should have the same father--never more than 2--regardless of how many times she marries. I have more issue with women that have a bunch of kids with all different fathers than a woman thats been married an divorced multiple times.
barbiesocialite
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Most people attract what they are so I'm willing to bet that his wives were divorcees, already had kid(s) from a previous relationship, came from broken homes or displayed some other indicator of having the same level of commitment-phobia he seems to have that increase one's likelihood of divorce.
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Transformer
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My father was married 5 times.....definitely 3 times too many. I am going to say you should limit your marriages to 3.
Lucia
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If someone got married @ 18 obviously that's doomed to failure 98% of the time b/c your just too young. You don't even know who you are yet much less who you should be with. Therefore the person you attract usually is not right for the real you (whom you don't know who that is yet)
Now I think if someone works on themselves personally, spiritually, physically between the relationships and/or marriages and become a better person in all areas and figure out why you pick the wrong kind of person for you, so that you can attract the right mate for you and not keep on picking the wrong for you guy, then yes by all means marry again.
I think the reason some people keep on marrying is b/c they pick wrong because they don't know themselves and what or whom they really need, not just what they want then pick wrong again based on stuff that can't hold a marriage together. Like that whole test drive theory is the biggest line of BS ever because basing a relationship on just sex doesn't work. Being a good booty call doesn't make you wife/husband material.
If you do the work on yourself and your marriage to keep it going you won't need to keep on re-marrying hopefully, some people just bail too soon instead of sticking it out and making it work. but there's nothing wrong with remarrying if you really put the work in and did all you could humanly do to save the marriage. There's no set time limit or set number for happiness everyone has a different path and a different story we're not meant to all be the same cookie cutter image or have the same lives.
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LilMissRed
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IMO anything over 2x is too many 
Je Ne Sais Quoi
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One more than however many times you (general you) have been married 
Nina_deF
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I'm begging to differ.
I doubt the odds are getting smaller if I choose to remarry, since I will not be remarring the ones I've already chucked aside.
I've been married twice.
Both were I guess unnessacary since I'm also divorced twice.
I did get 3 beautiful babies out of it though.
If I was to ever, ever remarry I think I'd be a little closer to what I really want. I get pickier by the year and ex-husband and my lists of NO-NO's is growing.
I am not good in relationships (obviously) but I am sure that if I would ever go that route again, I'd be closer to the right one then before.
FlowerHair
Reclaiming my time
I only meant that if you look at the statistics, the odds get lower and lower...
Not everyone is part of that statistic and only the person getting married can measure what success means to her.
You are so right that one gets pickier with age!
I have never been married, so I know I'll only marry once...if at all!
The main thing is to be happy NOW, because today will never come again.
BTW I hope you had a great Easter holiday, the weather has been super...
Nina_deF
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I only meant that if you look at the statistics, the odds get lower and lower...
Not everyone is part of that statistic and only the person getting married can measure what success means to her.
You are so right that one gets pickier with age!
I have never been married, so I know I'll only marry once...if at all!
The main thing is to be happy NOW, because today will never come again.
BTW I hope you had a great Easter holiday, the weather has been super...
I hear ya!
I had a great Easter!
My color is finally coming back!
Goodbye greyish/green hue!
Afterwork fika soon?
Speaking as a divorced person, I went into my marriage thinking the same thing. No one gets married to get divorced. I will be quite happy and open to receive love again and marry AGAIN.I have never been married, so I know I'll only marry once...if at all!
~Sparklingflame~
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Personally, 2 is too many. If something happens to me and DH I will NEVER marry again.
aribell
formerly nicola.kirwan
Everyone's situation is different, and people do make mistakes, but this tends to be my opinion, unless a marriage ended because of a death.
Goombay_Summer
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Since I have already been divorced once I am going to be awful generous and say, that I will remarry as many times, as it takes to get it right which has more to do with my celibacy issues than anything else does.
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