LadyR,
I am 100% happy that things have worked out great for you and your husband!
I want to comment on a few things in your post. Dating/courting to get to know someone did not occur in the Bible, but I don't think it is anti-God. There are many things in the Bible that happened as a result of the age they were in and the way the society was at the time. In fact, arranged marriages are a perfect example of this. In those countries that have arranged marriages, that is the norm in their society. Those marriages lasting is also a norm of those societies.
Unfortunately in our American society, divorce has become just as normal as lasting marriages. Divorce is more widely accepted here, whereas that would NEVER fly in many places. In India, there are arranged marriages where husbands can be very abusive, even to the point of setting their wives on fire. But we don't see any of the women going after a divorce, because that is just not acceptable in their society.
Anyway, not to get too far off the topic... In our current age and society, it is wise (in most cases) to stop and get to know a potential marriage partner.
I believe that even though the Bible is God's Word, He is BIG enough to allow for different, natural changes that happen over time. There are many things that people did in the Bible days that we do not do today, but that doesn't make our present practices "unbiblical" or ungodly. Quick example: in those days, people walked everywhere they went or rode animals. Well, with the passing of time, we have many more advanced ways to travel. (cars, planes, buses, etc.)
As far as Adam and Eve's marriage, there is no doubt that God put these two together. This was also before sin entered the world.
Adam and Eve didn't need to stop and get to know each other. There was no chance that they would divorce, because there was no such thing as divorce at that time.