CherryCherryBoomBoom
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I've always had much difficulty getting into relationships or even getting on dates with people. I think it might be a combination of me being shy and also just generally being unsure about how to go about these sort of things. I find it a bit bad that I'm now 20 and still very inexperienced. I know it's all very well saying stuff like "you're still young and have plenty of time..." but I worry I might get annoyed if I get to like mid to late twenties when most people my age have already had lots of experience and are getting married and settled, whilst I'm still forever on my own. That's why I want to try to make a move on now.
People have told me that I can't just sit there looking pretty and expecting guys to just get with me, which I understand, but me being shy means it's difficult to make a move on complete strangers. And I'm not lucky enough to get approached by guys either.
I have been trying online dating but not really having much luck in finding anyone on my wavelength. Plus, there are too many weirdos on it anyway, so I'm not sure I want to rely on it too much.
So, a few questions:
Where exactly do you meet potential suitable partners? After all, we live in a society (in the UK at least) where strangers don't really chat to each other in the general public, so what can I do about this?
What exactly is the process of attracting men and getting on dates with them, then progressing it into a relationship?
Please no vague answers like "It'll happen when it happens, stop worrying..." because, really, how am I supposed to know if and when anything is going to happen? I am a big dating noob and pretty much need a step-by-step guide to be honest
And before anyone asks, no I'm not in college/uni nor working, so no meeting people there. And I unfortunately don't meet any new young guys at the volunteering jobs I do.
I'd especially like to hear from shy people who have managed to have successful dating and love lives. Thank you
People have told me that I can't just sit there looking pretty and expecting guys to just get with me, which I understand, but me being shy means it's difficult to make a move on complete strangers. And I'm not lucky enough to get approached by guys either.
I have been trying online dating but not really having much luck in finding anyone on my wavelength. Plus, there are too many weirdos on it anyway, so I'm not sure I want to rely on it too much.
So, a few questions:
Where exactly do you meet potential suitable partners? After all, we live in a society (in the UK at least) where strangers don't really chat to each other in the general public, so what can I do about this?
What exactly is the process of attracting men and getting on dates with them, then progressing it into a relationship?
Please no vague answers like "It'll happen when it happens, stop worrying..." because, really, how am I supposed to know if and when anything is going to happen? I am a big dating noob and pretty much need a step-by-step guide to be honest
And before anyone asks, no I'm not in college/uni nor working, so no meeting people there. And I unfortunately don't meet any new young guys at the volunteering jobs I do.
I'd especially like to hear from shy people who have managed to have successful dating and love lives. Thank you