We talk so much about bad ones, "should I stay or should I go" "why do men ______" etc, I'm starting to think we're more primed and on the lookout for bad relationships but aren't so primed for the good ones. And so I ask, beyond "it just feels right", how do you know when you're in a good relationship - not just with a good man - but in a good overall relationship?
My girl said "its effortless". And I don't know that I agree with that. I think good ones often times require the most conscious effort. The difference is the effort doesn't seem taxing or time consuming, which is what I think she meant.
One of the fellas said "she approaches me for sex". And we laughed. But then we thought about it a little further and I actually think there's some truth to that statement. I know that when I'm not feeling emotionally connected to someone, I'm less apt to initiate physical activity - so maybe there's some truth to that.
Another of the fellas said "she encourages me to go hang out with the boys, without her". Another valid point IMO.
Another said "she doesn't pick up my cell phone" at which point we all shook our heads and laughed.
What about you? How do you know when you're in a good relationship? Or what are you looking for in that good relationship?
My girl said "its effortless". And I don't know that I agree with that. I think good ones often times require the most conscious effort. The difference is the effort doesn't seem taxing or time consuming, which is what I think she meant.
One of the fellas said "she approaches me for sex". And we laughed. But then we thought about it a little further and I actually think there's some truth to that statement. I know that when I'm not feeling emotionally connected to someone, I'm less apt to initiate physical activity - so maybe there's some truth to that.
Another of the fellas said "she encourages me to go hang out with the boys, without her". Another valid point IMO.
Another said "she doesn't pick up my cell phone" at which point we all shook our heads and laughed.
What about you? How do you know when you're in a good relationship? Or what are you looking for in that good relationship?
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