Depends on the situation...
A coworker was paying me a compliment, my hair was swangin and she asked to touch it. She said that it felt just the way it looked. I took that as a compliment whether she meant it that way or not.
Then, I had been looking to purchase Dominican products from a local salon. I went into this salon and asked for this particular product. The woman (Sylist??) walked up to me, took her hand and stuck it into my hair to touch my roots, then raked her fingers out and through my strands while saying something about how she could offer other suggestions for my "kind of hair." I was stunned and angry at the same time. I KNOW she yanked out a few strands of hair because I heard the popping and felt the scalp tenderness as I snatched around, and carried my narrow behind out of the salon empty handed.
Regarding my dude....he can put his hands in my hair ANYTIME.