CatSuga
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At church?
At the club?
At Wal-mart?
Or just sit at home and pray?
Biblical men and women didn't just sit at home and pray. Of course they prayed first, but afterwards there was some kind of action.
I've noticed in other cultures there is a system set up to encourage, promote, and "hook up" marriages. I have friends from African, Muslim, and Hindu cultures and it all appears to be the same.
The man or woman announces that he/she are ready for marriage.
He/she, their parents, religious leaders spread the word.
They get a bunch of pics in the mail.
They pick out the ones they like. The families get together and have dinner.
If they are interested, they continue communication for however long (3-4-6 months, my Hindu friend just announced marriage 2yrs after meeting his girl).
And then get married.
Now, many of us westerners have been conditioned into thinking people that participate in these types of arrangements don't have a choice but in fact they have 100% control and have a better chance at getting what they want.
From the beginning, when a woman states that the only relationship she is interested in is marriage (not dating, not playing the field, not hooking up), that choice is respected and honored.
Now.......if I told every man that tried to holla at me that the only relationship that I was interested in was marriage they would look at me crazy (even the virgins).
For some reason in our culture, dating, hooking up, and playing the field are encouraged more instead of applying time looking for a life partner.
From my *past* experience, looking for men at church is like she-wolves fighting over a fresh kill. As soon a fine single brotha enters the church every single woman is all up in his grill. Majority of the time this brotha will use all of these sistas desperateness for a man to his advantage.
What about the club? We all know that good Christian women don't hang out at clubs.
And I don't care about who you ask, a sista ain't buying that sit at home and God will drop him out the sky route.
And then there is Wal-mart. I challenge you right now, go to any Christian forum and where there is a thread about finding men somebody mentions Wal-mart.
Basically from what I see there isn’t a system is set up to promote marriages in the Christian community.
Do you think that it would be permissible for churches to promote some kind of singles program to help marriage minded singles meet in a Christian environment?
At the club?
At Wal-mart?
Or just sit at home and pray?
Biblical men and women didn't just sit at home and pray. Of course they prayed first, but afterwards there was some kind of action.
I've noticed in other cultures there is a system set up to encourage, promote, and "hook up" marriages. I have friends from African, Muslim, and Hindu cultures and it all appears to be the same.
The man or woman announces that he/she are ready for marriage.
He/she, their parents, religious leaders spread the word.
They get a bunch of pics in the mail.
They pick out the ones they like. The families get together and have dinner.
If they are interested, they continue communication for however long (3-4-6 months, my Hindu friend just announced marriage 2yrs after meeting his girl).
And then get married.
Now, many of us westerners have been conditioned into thinking people that participate in these types of arrangements don't have a choice but in fact they have 100% control and have a better chance at getting what they want.
From the beginning, when a woman states that the only relationship she is interested in is marriage (not dating, not playing the field, not hooking up), that choice is respected and honored.
Now.......if I told every man that tried to holla at me that the only relationship that I was interested in was marriage they would look at me crazy (even the virgins).
For some reason in our culture, dating, hooking up, and playing the field are encouraged more instead of applying time looking for a life partner.
From my *past* experience, looking for men at church is like she-wolves fighting over a fresh kill. As soon a fine single brotha enters the church every single woman is all up in his grill. Majority of the time this brotha will use all of these sistas desperateness for a man to his advantage.
What about the club? We all know that good Christian women don't hang out at clubs.
And I don't care about who you ask, a sista ain't buying that sit at home and God will drop him out the sky route.
And then there is Wal-mart. I challenge you right now, go to any Christian forum and where there is a thread about finding men somebody mentions Wal-mart.
Basically from what I see there isn’t a system is set up to promote marriages in the Christian community.
Do you think that it would be permissible for churches to promote some kind of singles program to help marriage minded singles meet in a Christian environment?
It's so wide spread, I thought it was in most churches throughout the nation. But I guess not.
He worked for the cable, phone, eletric (one of those) company and he came by for a service call. The rest is history. I really think we women need to elarn how to wait on God. If he isn't coming it could be b/c we are not ready, or God has you hidden because he is preparing you and doesn't want you to get distracted. What is this rush to be married. What do we think is on the otherside of marriage? 
She was so in love with him and I don't know there story today cause I don't attend that church anymore but ladies, stuff happens in the church that you would not believe. The best weapon that you have is the pray and tell the lord that if this man does not mean you any good to remove him from your life. If your heart is sincere with god he will remove any wrong doing out of your path.( NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST ME WILL PROSPER). The singles ministry is great just keep your eyes open and don't believe everything you here, God did not give us scenses for nothing 
