How dirty is too dirty?

MissJ

MissJ

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We all know that the male species is not the cleanest thing on Earth. When I think of a guy's place, I know it's not going to be as clean as mine. Heck, if I look at it, I'd probably say that it wasn't clean but maybe a little dirty. I think that's just how guys are, but sometimes it crosses the line from a little dirty/messy to filthy. If you meet a guy and go to his place, how dirty is too dirty for you?
 
If the place smells like someone died in there, so much so that the neighbors call the cops....that's way too dirty. (Yes, I did know a dude this happened to.)

Yes, it's way too dirty long before that. I have no problem with disorganization. Papers everywhere in odd piles do not bother me. Closets out of order also do not bother me. But when we start talking about bacteria and mold collecting in your kitchen and bathroom for weeks on end, it's a problem. If I go into the guys bathroom and get the same feeling I get in a public (gas station) bathroom, then it's a problem. Dirty dishes from three weeks ago, garbage overflowing and STINK throughout the home are a problem.

I used to go to see my boyfriend on the weekends and while he was in class, I'd clean his place, just sos I could actually use the bathroom in peace.

OTOH, I don't like neat freaks. If you are vacuuming your floor while I am at your place for dinner, I probably won't be returning.
 
Cichelle said:
If the place smells like someone died in there, so much so that the neighbors call the cops....that's way too dirty. (Yes, I did know a dude this happened to.)
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Wow, that is crazy. He had to be embarrassed!
Yes, it's way too dirty long before that. I have no problem with disorganization. Papers everywhere in odd piles do not bother me. Closets out of order also do not bother me. But when we start talking about bacteria and mold collecting in your kitchen and bathroom for weeks on end, it's a problem. If I go into the guys bathroom and get the same feeling I get in a public (gas station) bathroom, then it's a problem. Dirty dishes from three weeks ago, garbage overflowing and STINK throughout the home are a problem.

I used to go to see my boyfriend on the weekends and while he was in class, I'd clean his place, just sos I could actually use the bathroom in peace.

OTOH, I don't like neat freaks. If you are vacuuming your floor while I am at your place for dinner, I probably won't be returning.
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Those are some good ones, and although I would not clean a guy's house, I've asked one to clean his own house. :yep:
 
Hmmm....my focus is the bathroom. That tells me the overall cleanliness of any person. I can handle a couple of misplaced clothes/shoes or such...but a nasty bathroom and/ or kitchen...NOOO MA'AM I can't do it:nono:.
 
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MissJ said:
We all know that the male species is not the cleanest thing on Earth. When I think of a guy's place, I know it's not going to be as clean as mine. Heck, if I look at it, I'd probably say that it wasn't clean but maybe a little dirty. I think that's just how guys are, but sometimes it crosses the line from a little dirty/messy to filthy. If you meet a guy and go to his place, how dirty is too dirty for you?
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Dirty??? I have never encountered dirt in that area...
 
Basically a man's place who looks like they are waiting for a woman to clean it up for him is too dirty for me. If he is not at least trying to maintain his place... :nono: key word TRYING
 
I live in general clutter and a pile of clothes in my room, so I can tolerate a lot from men's living spaces. I put my foot down at dirty bathrooms or kitchens, and unclean sheets. Like weird stains on sheets or comforters is too much for me. I'm thinking "I hope you don't expect me to sleep there!":nono:

I used to clean my ex's apartment every so often just as a treat.
 
I think there is a difference between messy (disorder, piles of papers, piles of toys, dishes/clothes everywhere, dirty (opened condiment bottles, empty beer cans, towels and underwear in plain view) and nasty. Nasty is just next level :perplexed (rodents, mold/maggots on dishes, smells--esp from urine, or spoiled food, or general signs of neglect).:ohwell::nono:

Everyone is different. Boils down to what one can live with.
 
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Cichelle said:
If the place smells like someone died in there, so much so that the neighbors call the cops....that's way too dirty. (Yes, I did know a dude this happened to.)

Yes, it's way too dirty long before that. I have no problem with disorganization. Papers everywhere in odd piles do not bother me. Closets out of order also do not bother me. But when we start talking about bacteria and mold collecting in your kitchen and bathroom for weeks on end, it's a problem. If I go into the guys bathroom and get the same feeling I get in a public (gas station) bathroom, then it's a problem. Dirty dishes from three weeks ago, garbage overflowing and STINK throughout the home are a problem.

I used to go to see my boyfriend on the weekends and while he was in class, I'd clean his place, just sos I could actually use the bathroom in peace.

OTOH, I don't like neat freaks. If you are vacuuming your floor while I am at your place for dinner, I probably won't be returning.
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I wonder what he thought about that?
 
Too dirty is :
when you smell the stench when he opens the door.
When the bathroom look worse than a public restroom
When you can't find a place to sit that looks remotely clean
There is a big diffrence in dirty and untidy
 
I can take messy because I am messy too but being dirty and nasty is a little different. Nasty is like you having washed your ***, wear dirty clothes, dirty dishes, mold and mildew, suff like that..........
 
Bathroom needs to be decent/clean . Kitchen also. I can deal with messy, but Nasty no way.

A mans feet tells everything about him.
 
Cobwebs and dead roaches in the corners, dirty dishes and silverwear in the kitchen, a strange odor throughout the whole place. A bathroom that looked like bigfoot had used it. And dirt, literally little piles of it all across the kitchen and living room rug.

That's what I encountered when I was invited to a guy's house for dinner once...needless to say, it did not happen. Ugh. :nono:
 
I had to end a relationship over this...his place was NASTY! The bathroom was filthy, there was dog hair on everything (clothes, furniture, carpet, kitchen counter), and while I was helping him move out of his apartments, I found a spot under piles of papers and clothes where the dogs would go and poop! His personal hygiene wasn't too great either.

Where is that vomit smiley???
 
TashaK said:
Hmmm....my focus is the bathroom. That tells me the overall cleanliness of any person. I can handle a couple of misplaced clothes/shoes or such...but a nasty bathroom and/ or kitchen...NOOO MA'AM I can't do it:nono:.
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Me too. I hate to clean, but the bathroom has got to be right. I should be able to use your bathroom without feeling like I'm going to catch some disease.
 
Katt73 said:
I had to end a relationship over this...his place was NASTY! The bathroom was filthy, there was dog hair on everything (clothes, furniture, carpet, kitchen counter), and while I was helping him move out of his apartments, I found a spot under piles of papers and clothes where the dogs would go and poop! His personal hygiene wasn't too great either.

Where is that vomit smiley???
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:blush::blush:
 
My ex was a big'ole f'n slob. Step out of drawers:wallbash: n'leave them on the floor:wallbash:, didn't know where the trashcan was:wallbash:. empty bottles falling out of car:wallbash:, I coudn't keep up with the "filth":wallbash: he acumulated on a daily basis.

Had I known this B4 baby n'marriage .....I'd have a few less stretch marks. ......didn't know it was that bad before because Uncle Sam made him keep his room clean.
At this point 20yrs later, I still can't stand clutter or trash :wallbash:in the house!

Now anyone who doesn't keep a tidy environment, is off my list....instantly!
 
Must have a clean bathroom and kitchen, no exception. I can take untidiness in other places. If his place is too clean I am a little suspect that there is a woman, who is not his momma floating around.

A group of guys (friends\aquantainces) that I know told me that when they are in to a new woman, they will go out and purchase a new comforter because the old one is "contaminated" in their words. Apparently a lot of guys think like that. They told me if they are all about a booty call or hit it and quit it, no new comforter.

Some guys that I didn't even sleep with made sure they told me that they just purchased a new comforter, um, dude, I know the secret now.
 
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I really think that when a guy likes you or more rather wants you to really like him, he'll clean up the place before you come. I have seen guys who never clean do it. :yep:
 
Oh man! I recently had to deal with this. And the guy was under the delusion that he was simply untidy and not dirty.

Untidy is when you just need to put a few things away (some papers, some clothes, maybe clean a few dishes) and your place will be clean. Dirty is when you need to commit an entire day to restoring your apartment to some kind of habitable space.

Examples:
--dirty laundry all over everrrrrrything (i think he just steps out of his clothes when he gets home and leaves them there...forever) ...seriously, at least hide it in the closet if you know someone is coming over
--kitchen was horrrrible ....dirty dishes on every surface, empty cans all over the apartment, old food boxes and chip bags all over the place
--hardwood floors that had waaaay too much hair and dust
--to make it all worse, he had a pet that he never cleaned up after so the apt smelled like soiled pet bedding ...ick!
--and! he had bags (like 8-10 large garbage bags) of trash that he was "waiting" to take out

on the bright side, his bathroom was "relatively clean"

no shocker that I left and didn't return
 
Spiffy said:
I really think that when a guy likes you or more rather wants you to really like him, he'll clean up the place before you come. I have seen guys who never clean do it. :yep:
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Oooooh baby don't get it confused. YES, any decent person will clean-up before company comes over. BUT beware that If he's plain old dirty, it will eventually show. (he can't keep it up). That's how I got stuck. LOL
 
I've always found the following things intolerable:

Dirty bathroom
Dirty kitchen
Sheets that aren't clean
Dirty underwear that aren't in a clothes hamper
 
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