Relaxing should be your last and final option. I wish my mom would have waited before putting one in my hair. I got mine put in when I was 8 years old at a salon. Im 18 years old now and have no real clue to what my natural hair looks and feels like. Im scared to to cut it all off and go natural. Even when I try to transition, the straight shiny hair hanging from my head keeps pulling me back to a relaxer. But I really like curly hair. There has to be another technique you can try. Keep searching please. Also ask your daughter what she wants. I never had a choice in it. If there is no other option atleast know that you aren't the only one that wants it.